Mudskipper Time

Things that exist in the USA:

✅Misogyny—hatred of women and femininity.

✅Misandry—hatred of men and masculinity.

✅Systemic misogyny—a society that enforces misogyny on a societal scale, that has misogyny built into the laws and systems and culture.

Things that do NOT exist in the USA:

⛔️Systemic misandry—a society that enforces misandry on a societal scale, that has misandry built into the laws and systems and culture.

Misandry is absolutely a thing. Stop saying it isn’t. What you MEAN is that systemic misandry isn’t a thing.

Transmisandry is a perfectly logical and legitimate term. “It implies misandry is real!!”. Misandry IS real. People really are out there hating men and masculinity.

Now let’s talk about sexism. Sexism is real, too.

Sexism—hatred of a group of people based on their sex.

This is commonly used to only discuss hatred against females, however the term itself doesn’t actually differentiate. Anti-male sexism is also a thing that absolutely exists.

Things that exist in the USA:

✅Anti-female sexism

✅Anti-male sexism

✅Systemic anti-female sexism

Things that do NOT exist in the USA:

⛔️Systemic anti-male sexism

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Now, that all said, we absolutely live in a patriarchy. A white, Christian patriarchy. Masculinity and manhood are used to assign men privilege…if they match the requirements. But those requirements are very narrow and often circumstantial and even temporary. “Manhood” in the USA is very easily revoked.

Anti-male sexism and misandry, although not systematized on their own, are in fact a huge part of other forms of bigotry that ARE systematized under the patriarchy, including racism and transphobia. So in a way, misandry IS systematized, when it is part of an axis of intersection with other forms of bigotry.

This is why trans feminists talk about how negative stereotypes of men are used as weapons against trans women and trans men. This is how negative stereotypes about men are used against black men, and how it contributes to their oppression. These stereotypes are used against gay men too. The list is long.

But the last time I took him to the vet he needed to have a dental cleaning. They knocked him out and he usually comes home high as balls and upset.

On this particular occasion he exited the carrier and I turned to release Leeloo from hers. My beloved said, “Why is Korben wet?”

I glanced over at him, slinking toward the stairs, “No, I think his fur is just scrungly, they always look like that after surgery.”

We both continued to observe him and my beloved exclaimed, “He’s dripping!”

Indeed, he was dripping. I leapt forward and scooped him up, dashing him to the upstairs bathroom. The second my fingers touched him it was immediately apparent that he was absolutely saturated with piss. He was thirteen pounds of pee soaked sham-wow.

The poor lad had been too nervous and high to pee at the vets and instead released the entirety of his bladder onto himself in the carrier.

So there we were. In the bathroom with a very inebriated and distressed sopping wet piss boy. Korben has never needed a bath in his life, he’s always been so fastidious. But he needed one now. We took that poor cat, high as balls, and stuck him in the tub.

The sounds he made were unlike any he’s ever produced. The desperate hoarse wails of an animal that knows his end is nigh. He shrieked and sobbed as we sprayed him down, and our hearts misgave us.

We relented, hauling him out to towel off. But we weren’t convinced he was clean so we kept him quarantined in the bathroom to sober up and dry off.

An hour later when we revisited him we staggered back. The whole bathroom reeked of his uriney misadventure. He was clearly too deeply soaked for a casual rinse. So to all of our mutual dismay we embarked on Korben’s second bath of his life.

He was no less distressed and only a little less high as we soaped him as thoroughly as his flailing limbs would allow. Near the end he just let out an ululating continuous wail of pain but we persisted. He was finally clean.

Most likely, he was inspired by Charlie Chaplin's roller skating scene in his "part-talkie" film, Modern Times (1936):

And if anyone's interested in watching the full movie, you can watch it for free here:

Drew some vegetables to demonstrate Rebelle 8 pro's super thick paint in action.

How to identify, and then deal with, your emotions

Emotional regulation skills

Conflict resolution skills

Creating and enforcing boundaries

Dialectical Behavioural Therapy skills

Emotional intelligence ideals to aim for

Axes of self-care/wellbeing

Self-care self-evaluation (find out where you’re starting)

How to make a self-care checklist

How to start a self-care habit

Reparenting resources

Crash Course Psychology

KhanAcademy: Understanding the Self and Society (some units more relevant than others)

Emotional education activities for children and teens

So you’ve exsanguinated your 400 guys to get the iron for your sword. Cool. But now you have 400 bodies lying around.

Why not put those to good use and cremate them. Use the carbon from those 400 bodies (you won’t need all of them) and now you can make a nice mid-high carbon steel sword.

future plans I need to see

come to fruition

just thinking about kris, i think there's a lot of ways their struggles can be interpreted as relating to disability. one example that seems particularly intentional is kris not being able to play the piano while under the soul's control and toby commenting about not being able to play the piano (among other things) due to pain.