I'll give you the benefit of the doubt, but here's why refering to people with exclusively they them isn't a great thing to be doing.
I assume the reason you think it's a good choice is one of "they/them is ambiguous, so it applies to everyone" and potentially "gender is a social construct we should get rid of, so using they/them for everyone helps with this" but there are problems with both of these.
The first issue is using only they/them when you know someone's pronouns (that aren't they/them) is that it is just refusing to acknowledge somebody's gender. It's like after somebody tells you their name never using it once and refering to them by that shirt they always wear. While it is neutral, and works for everyone, it's literally just ignoring part of someone's identity.
However, a lot of people don't have any issues with this! For most cis people, they have no trouble at all asserting their gender identity, so when somebody uses neutral pronouns it doesn't really matter to them.
The issue comes when this happens to a trans person. This trans person will have to work hundreds of times harder to assert their identity, so when somebody essentially refuses to acknowledge it, which is what using the wrong pronouns is doing, that's going to hurt! This person sees you as someone who doesn't respect their gender. (And all of this applies twofold for trans women, who has to work to assert her gender against both the forces of transphobia and misogyny)
Another problem with this position is that, as said before, the main people who will have issue with this are trans people and more than that trans women, so when you hold this position I can only assume either a) nobody has critiqued it or b) trans people (especially trans women) have critiqued it and you brushed off their concerns, and I wonder what sort of structural forces are at play for people to be dismissive of these demographics...
Finally, the idea that gender should be abolished may be true, but for now we are far far away from that, and using the wrong pronouns for people certainly isn't getting us any closer; transphobia isn't going to suddenly disappear if we all use they/them regardless of gender identity.
That's all to say that misgendering cis people typically doesn't affect them, but misgendering trans people can cause significant harm, so do try and use somebodies correct pronouns.
it's really more of a "yeah someone made this funny post one time. don't remember anything about them but it was about the absolute labyrinth of the path to their hotel room"
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