and what do we say to death

Every four days I have to be like "kinks, on their own, mean absolutely nothing, everything in the world is determined by your actions, not whatever exists in your head" and every four days people are like "OH SO YOU THINK THOUGHTS CAN'T LEAD TO ACTIONS" "OH SO YOU'RE OKAY WITH PEOPLE MOLESTING BABY ANIMALS" etc etc and I'm like, okay I have a kink for annoying people getting their shit blown smooth off by an 18th century Tortugan buccaneer wielding a stolen Dutch blunderbuss, And Yet...... note how no harm has happened to you due to, and sit down for this: nobody fucking doing anything

I despise the kind of mealy-mouthed hedging that every post needs to include because every buffoon who was given a Whole language reading education somehow nevertheless finds themselves magnetically drawn to commenting on shit they can't understand like iron filings towards a magnet BUT I've had a rough 24 hours in the world of Dealing With Such Individuals Online so I'm also going to add: the idea of "not being allowed to criticize kink" is a fiction invented by people who don't fuck enough in real life to have a working experiential opinion on how any of this shit is actually applied outside of Discord chats. Everyone's allowed to criticize anything. Who gives a shit. Grow up. The only ask I personally have for anybody I have to interact with is that people practice some basic theory of mind instead of assuming anybody whose general sexual preferences are slightly outside of "Tasteful penetration as sponsored by Trojan" is some kind of blithering zombie with a mental video game meter labeled WILLINGNESS TO COMMIT SEX CRIMES that ticks upwards every time they read a post about siblings fucking

why is it always "being fat puts pressure on ur joints" but never "being skinny makes u more vulnerable to joint/bone injury" like lets be real im not playing this game with u where u get to pretend u know anything about medicine much less my personal case . u are going to have things happen to u and ur body no matter what size u are and pretending fat people are somehow the only people who can possibly sustain weight related injuries PISSES ME OFF . be fucking serious

you can very often tell who actually believes healthcare is a human right by whether they think fat people have to earn it first.

call me crazy but I think it'd be easier if surgeons learned how to operate on fat bodies instead of expecting every single fat person to lose weight before getting surgery

call me crazy but I think it'd be easier if surgeons learned how to operate on fat bodies instead of expecting every single fat person to lose weight before getting surgery

problematic rage gap. one partner tries to bring nuance and understanding to a tough situation. the other wants to blow up the earth about it.

Does anybody know how to fix it

sometimes i talk about how awful it was to feel trapped by my daily makeup routine and how i couldn’t leave the house without putting on a full face and it played a major role in the misery of my high school experience because i had to spend so much extra time getting ready in the mornings and that followed me into my early 20s as well and it was hell and it was so incredibly liberating to go through the slow and uncomfortable but ultimately essential process of getting my bare face back and having makeup be an optional accessory instead of a mandatory uniform. and the response always tends to be ah yes of course, because of your trans and your masculine. and it’s like aha so close! actually! I think if I ended up being a feminine cis woman I also still would not deserve even a second of that shit! I think trans women and nonbinary people and every human alive should have the option to leave the house without a single cosmetic product ever touching their face! but thanks for playing!

and when I say people should have the option obviously I do not mean “yeah you can but everyone’s gonna treat you like you’re frumpy and weird.” I also kinda don’t even mean “you’re beautiful even without makeup!!” because like. well of course i think many people are. some of the most beautiful faces i have ever seen in my life have had not a drop of makeup on them. and that’s awesome or whatever. but it’s also kind of irrelevant to the overall point I’m actually making. really what im saying is it shouldn’t fucking matter if you are beautiful or even pleasant to look at at all! you should be able to just be, all the time no matter what. everyone around you should just treat you like a person who is worthy of respect and fair treatment regardless of what you look like. I am of course keenly aware that that is not presently actually how things work much of the time. but that end goal is what my stance on makeup is informed by. you should never ever ever fucking need it to be treated with decency.

i wish we were able to talk about women's rights without someone mentioning how much they do or don't want to have sex with them. i don't care if you're a lesbian Stop finding worth in women purely from their perceived attractiveness

"I think women should not be expected to shave for societal respect / to avoid discrimination" "yeah🤤 i love bush" ok well that's not what we're talking about is it.

i hate how many posts about trans women deserving respect always devolve into "I love girldick" or "trans rights but I don't want to date a trans person" because that's entirely unrelated to the topic at hand. you should not respond to feminism with "YESSS I loveeee you because I see you as nothing but a sex object" you people sound like other men I get stuck talking with that end up saying "free the nipple so I can see boobies in public" and thinking they're feminists. why can't we just respect women regardless of your attraction to them or not. why does it need to be brought up in every conversation regarding their rights