and what do we say to death

i get why people don't believe in marriage as a social construct but legally it is the best and easiest way to say "this is who i trust to take care of me when i can't take care of myself" and i'm so glad gay people fought for that right bc when shit gets scary at least i know im in good hands

This is how I convinced my conservative grandma that the gays do also need marriage, actually. My grandad died when I was 4 and I asked her to imagine not being allowed to see him or make decisions for him or be entitled to an inheritance and she got very quiet and conceded the point. Marriage doesn't intrinsically mean anything but as a legal framework it is really, really important

Remember, when you're on the jury, a good "that cop's story didn't add up" will sway a lot more Chads and Karens than "fuck the police."

the oldest reblogs for this post that i can find are from january 2nd of 2013. this can has been getting kicked around tumblr for almost 13½ years now

And yet somehow this is my first time kicking it!

The argument that being intersex is a “biological mistake” or that nature made a mistake or that mutations are genetic mistakes or whatever is so incredibly stupid if you actually understand how evolution works. Aside from the fact that trying to use the appeal to nature fallacy about a natural event or process is incredibly stupid, mutations are supposed to happen. If we’re personifying nature here, nature wants them to happen. Mutation is what allows for evolution to happen. Yes, mutations can have negative consequences (or no consequences at all, or a mix of positive and negative consequences: for instance, the gene that causes sickle cell anemia is protective against malaria when a person is heterozygous for it. Yes, there are things that having CAIS increases my risk for, but I also am naturally less likely to get acne, for instance) but that’s what’s supposed to happen, evolutionarily speaking, because evolution is just about throwing mutations at the wall randomly and seeing what sticks. The genetic mutation that causes my intersex variation is a result of the most natural process there is. And also, mutations are what cause genetic diversity, which is incredibly important for the health of a population. People being intersex is nature working as intended.

I constantly think about how spotted hyenas must've favoured intersex females originally which lead us to having what is usually considered an intersex trait as something that's typical for the species

i've been a bad bad mutual

my mutual will post “i just blocked one of my mutuals” and i’ll be reading it on my own dash with my own eyes directly from their blog thinking “it was probably me………….😔”

This is just my conflict resolution chakram, relax.

okay yeah i do think your filler is off putting and your botox makes you rigid and strange to look at

I know you think it’s “feminist” to hate on women who already have self esteem and image issues (through no fault of their own, as a direct result of patriarchy) for doing something to help them cope with their fleeting youth - which may or may not have been stripped from them against their will due to years of depression, abuse, oppression, or whatever else - but the truth is that the freedom to get Botox is actually a right feminists have fought for - whether intentionally or unintentionally. Women used to get thrown away when we outlived our youth and beauty - now we have the option to prolong it and change the way we are perceived and treated by society as a whole. We ALL had to grow up too fast. We ALL have to cope with a childhood that ended too soon. I’m no less a feminist than you are simply because I choose to hold onto my youth and beauty because it helps me feel better about my own loss of innocence. This is all just another excuse to hate on women and tear us down. You’re literally letting the patriarchy win by judging women for their personal choices which harm absolutely no one. Please grow up. Not everyone is conventionally attractive or ages gracefully. Some women can cope with that and some can’t. Both deserve love and respect. Have some decency. You’re not edgy for this. You’re hating just like a man would.