Hated Confessions

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This is a blog where all beings, regardless of identity, stances, religion, or anything else, can confess about them being hated on for whatever reason.

It doesn't matter who did something wrong, hating helps no one. Spread kindness, care, understanding, and learning. Although, it's important to remember you can't guide the willfully blind, and can't help those who aren't willing / wanting to be helped. I'll do my best to keep the blog accessable by providing plain text for any images and text with markdown.

The purpose of this blog is to provide a safe space for all beings to share the hate they've received no matter the context. It also serves to show that it doesn't matter who you are, disliking others to the point of discrimination and bigotry is harmful.

It's inspired by other confession blogs like @otherkin-confessional , @radqfess , @pluralfessions , @plural-confessions , @proship-confes , @proship-confessional as well as "this is" blogs such as @thisis--ableism , @this-is-saneism @this-is-anti-little , @this-is-paramisic , @thisis-aphobia , @this-is-nutritionism and so on. ( Please contact me if you want me to remove the @! )

Submission Rules

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There's only one rule: no hate no matter what.

This means don't be bigoted or otherwise hateful towards anyone, for any reason. Disliking someone / something or being uncomfortable because of different stances / beliefs is understandable, but that doesn't make it acceptable to be bigoted.

Everyone deserves respect and kindness. This blog has no specific dni because of this.

About Me

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Hello, I'm @doodle-mations, a mediple system! There's no specific sysmates that "mod" this blog, so you can just refer to us as Doodle or TheGenders+ and use they/xem pronouns. We understand some may feel discomforted by our beliefs and identity; if you'd like, you can find more about those on our main.

Tagging

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Quick links to the featured tags:

#confession submission - submitted confessions

#not a confession - asks that aren't confessions

#ask answered - all asks that we've answered

#reblogs - reblogged posts

Also, posts will be tagged with corresponding tags based on the ask / reblog, such as "#tw: ableism" for hate against disabilities. There with also be "#hated for x" to define why the asker is being hated on.

The queue is set to post 5 times a day. I'll also try my best to keep up with anon tags and have a list of the ones that have been claimed below the cut.

i got demonized for being genderless and not wanting to disclose what genitalia i have. i got called a "pick me" for being attracted to men. i had my identity erased for being androgynous and not wanting to present femininely or masculinely, and it was all from other queers who didnt relate to my identity. it was way too much i dont even remember facing queerphobia from a conformant person

so yeah, i dont fucking want to interact with queer spaces anymore. i dont even wanna hear the word queer anymore although that would apply to me. i dont want it to sound like i hate my fellow queers but i just never seem to get along with anyone in the community. im tired of this hate

Jeez... The infighting has gotten so bad when it comes to gender nonconformity, especially with more people fighting to normalize it as of late...

lets say, i dont understand why rape or child predation is bad. is it the moral bad or opinion bad? and if its the moral bad than why? these things also exist in animals where they force mate or mount their young, but nobody puts a drake in a cage for force mating a duck hen. why is it different for humans? is it because we are sapient? then why did we have to be sapient? but i cant ask any of these because i know ill get death threats and comments saying im an immoral beast

its not to say i want children to get hurt but, i just cant understand things because of certain disabilities i have. it has made me realize how much pressure there is on humans and i feel like everything would be much better if i was not a human. ive been identifying as a bird kin because of this, i just envy how free these creatures are. people would not hate me if i was just an actual bird. the things i do would not be labelled as "bad". i would not be shamed for not wearing clothes or not taking baths. id rather get swallowed alive by a predator than pay for food, have to wear clothes and just live in this disgusting human body in this disgusting human society. im scared ill take my own life someday over this

Yea, I get this... I'm autistic ( and alterhuman ), so can relate to always looking for answers to "weird moral questions". There is an inate call of the wild, and it's best answered by living in a more forest-like environment!

IF SOMEONE TELLS YOU THAT YOU DID OR SAID SOMETHING THAT WAS BIGOTED TOWARDS THEM OR ONE OF THEIR COMMUNITIES, THEN TAKE THE FUCKING RESPONSIBILITY AND ADMIT IT INSTEAD OF INSISTING I'M THE ONE "OVERREACTING AND BEING UNNECESSARILY RUDE" AND TRYING TO "SHOW PROOF THAT YOU'RE NOT A BIGOT" WHEN IT'S CLEAR YOU FUCKING ARE AT THAT POINT!!!! I DON'T CARE IF IT WASN'T INTENDED OR ON PURPOSE, JUST LISTEN TO ME AND OWN UP TO THE MISTAKE!!!

· 🌲🌃 <- claiming this anon tag btw ^^

This!! I too am tired of people not taking accountability for their actions or words when they're harmful, whether intentional or not 😮‍💨

im mostly into m/m since im attracted to men but i also ship m/f stuff imagining im the girl in the relationship, and it sucks to see this unnecessary hate. not to mention they forget sexuality can be complex and there are queers who identify as straight (straight aspec, straigt intersex, and more)....

"well heterophobia isnt real!" yeah and then you use this as an excuse to tell someone to kill themselves over drawing a straight ship instead of hot yuri or yaoi... fuck you (actual incident that happened to me btw). some of yall are way too comfortable saying shit online. just because straight people are more privileged than gay people doesnt mean you can tell people to take their lives over ships, i cant people we became this hostile. im begging yall to stop being an asshole to others just because you are societally more oppressed than them, not only that but youre also erasing straight queers. be fucking niceeeee

its also ableist because im autistic and cant stand it when someone says they hate something i love. of course it feels like a personal attack. and when you point that out it turns out to be a personal attack and they harass you for being offended, i even got called slurs once. "am i not allowed to share my opinion?" no you arent unless you stop being an asshole about it. stop harassing those who like the things you dont. at least say dislike instead of hate because hate is a strong word and it may offend nd people like me. or maybe just keep things to yourself unless its something positive

idk id this made sense... im just tired of some people hating me because i like things they dont

As a fellow autistic being, we definitely agree anon. Especially with saying "dislike" instead of "hate"! We struggle with rsd ( rejection sensitivity dysphoria ) so that kind of wording just makes it hard to control my emotions... It's as you said: it feels like a personal attack.

even fellow black and disabled people treated me like a "traitor" because they were queer, and i wasnt. not to mention the evil comments i get from white queers. im not even allowed in disability or poc communities because i happened not to relate to the label queer, besides i literally heard queer being used as a slur a lot during my childhood so i have bad memories with it

yall agreed being a man doesnt make you evil. but being conformant is an evil disease and you should kill yourself if you have it (/sarcasm). im seriously so tired of you guys (not aimed at you dw) being so ass to nonqueer people, especially those who are in minorities. do you hate asians who arent queer? do you think muslims or jews who arent queer should die? do you support genocide against palestinians because most of them arent queer? i fucking hate people like this atp, they need to stop viewing us as the enemy and instead fight against actual bigots. please do not fucking pretend youre 'against' racism or classism if your activism ends at minorities who do not identify as queer

Yea it's awful that people hate on the ones that aren't doing any harm... Know that you're safe here! As a fellow disabled person, it's just horrible that others in our community would do that :<

i am an awful monster for what i did

the neighbor kid? well, i dont see them as any kind of monster like i see myself because i can only think about why they did it, who showed them the "love" first? who started this cycle?

i hope more than everything that the one i hurt was too young for any of it too stick at all, or that this person was somehow unaffected but i know how unlikely that is..

i hope the one who hurt me gets help, doesn't hurt others, including themselves...

me on the other hand.. i dont deserve it cuz im a monster

You're not a monster for what you did... True, what happened wasn't good, but you're not a monster for simply not being taught what was wrong. As you said, you didn't know any better, and that's not your fault.

everyone just hates my entire fucking existence. i get accused of fatphobia for being skinny and having an eating disorder, i get death threats for being masculine, basivally theres no reason left for me to live. everyone wants me not to exist. i just want to grab a knife and stab my neck with it sooo baaaaaaad

sorry if this was too extreme, im just hated for everything. if anyone has better alternatives to do instead of self harm then id like to hear, but rn i feel extremely terrible and i just wanna die

Hey it's ok, we're here for you! It's not too extreme, everyone needs a place to vent, and that's exactly what we're here for.

I personally struggle with a lot of the same things, so I understand what you're dealing with. You're not fatphobic just for struggling with your own personal problems. Anyone can be masculine regardless of their gender. And there's people that want you to exist, even if they don't show it, or you haven't met them yet. Also, relapse is a natural part of healing too, so you don't have to feel bad about it, alright?

Despite everything, I'm proud of you for reaching out, and for how far you've got with not harming! I know it can be extremely scary, but you're doing a great job. 🫂🩷

Below is a site that has tips of things to do when you feel like self harming.

you cant guess how many times ive been told to kill myself over shipping characters, just because they happened to be aroace. ive been also harassed for being aplatonic allorose but thats another thing. honestly the aroace community cant even separate fictional characters from real people which is just so frustrating as a whole

now i dont wanna fall into the "fiction never affects reality" thinking since it can be ableist to psychotic folks like me, but im telling you someone drawing horny or romantic stuff of a fictional character is not going to fucking kill you. in fact media representation is just an accessory and you dont need to harass people over it. fictional characters exist to be fun tools, they are not real people, and just because i ship aroace characters doesnt mean i disrespect real aroace people. if anyone cant accept that they can go fuck themselves, if you hate aphobia so much go help real people instead of harassing people over pixels

this also counts for women selfshipping with gay male characters and other stuff, like harassing people over fictional characters in general is just pathetic and i pity everyone who does it

Yea, it's difficult to be involved in fandoms these days because of things like this... Though I say fandom is for everyone, and everyone has a right to do as they wish when participating!

As someone within the acespec community myself, I understand why some get upset over people shipping ace, aro, or aroace characters. However, a lot of people love to forget that it's a spectrum, of which some do end up in romantic or sexual relationships! It's like saying "no asexual would ever have sex, and no aromantic would ever be in a relationship" when that's simply false.

The current state of the fandom community is awful... It's a shame beings can't seem to get along over fictional characters, no less. As you said, fiction doesn't typically affect reality, so why must we be so harsh over it? Besides it's a very valuable resource for dealing with one's feelings, especially when some beings have paraphilias!

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That's alright! I realize the name can be a bit confusing, but people should always check the blog description or pinned post on blogs like this regardless.

However, I do still want to say something about what you sent, so I'll put the text here for context:

" I HATE the Deku x Bakugo ship from My Hero Academia. 🥤"

No one should be hated simply for what they ship. Fandom is for everyone! It's perfectly fine to dislike some ships, but it's not okay to say "I hate this ship" and be mean, rude, or disrespectful about it. I do hope you can grow to be better about it, though!

Reminder to everyone: for the most part, you're in charge of what you see online, so if you see something you don't like or makes you uncomfortable ( but doesn't break any rules ), you can either block that person, tag, or topic.

so,,, im agender. simply genderless. there was this time where i identified as transmasc because the label fit me. but everyone assumed i have a vagina just because i was transmasc, which is true. i indeed have that. but it got to apoint where people stop seeing me as a person (not saying human cuz im a therian) but rather just "vagina", they made everything about me my genitals just over a fucking label i identified myself with. eventually i got suicidal and stopped using the trans label entirely, now im just genderless. not cis, not trans, just genderless. i also deleted my prev accounts and made a new blog thats less recognizable

now i cant post anything talking about the socially gendered body parts/bodily functions i have. breasts? nope. periods? hell no. i used to horny post in a silly way talking about how i finger myself to certain things and stuff, now i can talk none about it. im only saying i have a vagina cuz im anon, or else id never say whats between my legs

not only that but now i receive hate from th trans community for "betraying" them. they already have a weird hatred towards intersex people, especially cis ones, so ofc why wouldnt they hate someone who refuses to tell whats in his pants like me (not intersex myself though). this is not me generalizing most trans folks are chill but i feel like the trans community itself has a huge transphobia problem

i really wish people would stop assuming what others body parts are based on their labels. transfem doesnt equal penis. transmasc doesnt equal vagina or breasts. bottom surgery exists, ambigious genitalia exists but ALSO its none of your business what body parts someone has. i dont really have bottom dysphoria and would talk about my vagina happily, but im pretty sure ill get misgendered and infantilized so id rather shut up than experience the same bullshit

Exactly!! We're ambisex, meaning I want characteristics of both sexes, so I can personally understand what you're dealing with.

Some people don't even realize how many different kinds / types of gender-affriming care there is, like nullification ( someone transitioning towards that typically use the labels transnull / transneutral or trans androgynous /info ). Not to mention, intersex beings can be both transmasc and transfem!

Plus there's also some people who identify with their assigned gender, but the genitalia they have just doesn't feel right, so they get bottom surgery! Anyone can have a variety of different characteristics that doesn't align with what's stereotypically associated with their gender.

When it comes to talking about sex and just sharing the experiences you've had with your biology, it's just uncalled for to censor it. Like, not even being able to mention genitalia just leads to more people not even understanding biology, and we're seeing that pan out in real time. Sex education was already pretty bad, and censorship just makes it worse.

It's absolutely okay to not use a term because you were being targeted and hated for it. That's actually typically what detransitioners are! They're beings who aren't in a safe space to be able to openly be themselves, so they stop or even revert back out of fear.

Insulting you like that is petty and uncalled for, regardless of being upset. I think it definitely qualifies as like bullying, and therefore it's hate. I mean yea, it's typical for siblings to insult each other, but usually it's in a sorta playful way, like with friends.

However it's clear that she resents you for being distant as a kid... I can understand being upset that you weren't as present in her childhood as she wanted, but as a kid with so many friends it's kinda bound to happen!

It's also very typical for older kids to be or appear to be jealous of their younger siblings if they got more attention at home. /general info

(i could go on for hours about how the safest countries in the world use rehabilitative justice (norway very notably successfully rehabs murderers) but i won’t flood this blog with that.)

(anyway, does this actually count as receiving hate? sorry if i’m already misusing the blog.)

[ PT: Norway very notably successfully rehabs murderers ]

Being accused of supporting a crime for simply being compassionate to everyone absolutely counts!