#androqueerphobia

This is a bit higher than my old clinic wanted me, yes, but it's still within normal ranges for a testosterone dominant body! Which i have, since my body has way more testosterone than estrogen in it! Also, from what i've seen, *actual* normal levels if you're estrogen dominant are around 15-75 or 15-45 depending on age. 2 as a low seems really strange and almost misogynistic. (It's giving "women don't have testosterone" from the doctors when my mom found out her body straight up didn't produce it and that could be a cause of her health problems.)

Also this disgustingly intersexist snippet about testosterone:

Like what do you mean "too much" of an androgen. If that's how much someone's body naturally produces then it's most likely not too much?? "Issues" like extra facial and body hair???? You mean... something that has absolutely zero affect on someone's health and is literally just something frowned upon by society???? The fuck???

repeat again because i know tumblr users have a hard time reading: i am not against funky labels or identities. i am responding to anons struggle with acceptance and being seen authentically while using a funky label. and i am suggesting what can be done about it, and that self reflection is needed to solve it. society is what it is: we can change it, but we have to act on it, not sit around waiting for it to just accept us and understand us.

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This is incredibly transphobic, I'm almost at a loss of what to say.

"Making up your own hyperniche labels and shit" transxenine is not hyperniche. Xeninity is really fucking common, actually. Society just refuses to listen to xenine voices. Xenine sublabels are often hyperniche, but xeninity itself is not.

"Im not arguing that anon should change labels or whatever but gotta kinda toughen up and decide what you want" why do trans people need to 'toughen up' about being misgendered? Saying that you're a guy, yet people insisting that you're non-binary, that's misgendering.

"How can you make your outside better conform to your transxenine truth?" Why the hell are you assuming that this person wants to medically transition? Not all trans & gender diverse people medically transition. What even is this? You sound supremely transmedicalist throwing this in out of nowhere.

"But if you don't have a personality that likes to cause waves, if you need acceptance for others, you're never going to find it from the majority of people identifying as transxenine." Why do trans & gender diverse people need to be rebellious? Why are they responsible for how they are treated? Why are you victim blaming? And why are you acting like transxenine people won't accept and support a fellow transxenine? Wtf?

I know he tacked on children to try and get around the technical transphobia and when pointed out by my sister "he's a man!" he just says no. Not even saying I'm a child, just no. Granted 18 but the only minor in this house is my brother and he can't lift a pot of noodles.

I already knew he doesn't see me as a man or anything close ever, except to make pointed jokes about "men being evil" ("are you mansplaining" as I tell my brother about a new thing, no, he wasn't a part of that conversation), and he's creepy and weird in general but I can't say any of that because I know my mother will just excuse it or encourage me to not care / actively accept things.

Like he blatantly calls people "special" or actively push to be in on jokes, for example I used to say "I'll miss you forever" every once in a while and whenever I didn't say it he'd be like "will you miss me forever?" in the most puppy dog tone and visibly change his demeanor to sad if you say no (if you continue to say no he does one of two things "Fuck you too bitch" or "I guess I'm unloved")

I want to be clear about the example, I don't say that all the time. I said it consistently for a period of time and then stopped (because that's how my brain works) but the example happens so now I say it mostly to please others who have come to expect it.

Also it's not like he's the only one transphobic to me in the house. My mother and my sister do it. My brother doesn't do it, at least consciously, probably cause he was super young when I socially transitioned.

They get very uncomfortable and/or aggressive/defensive whenever I say something they did/said was transphobic and because they all dismiss it, I'm treated like I'm stupid/paranoid for thinking the thing was transphobic. "It's not transphobic if I'm just saying what everyone else will be thinking" yeah screw you too mom

If a trans man was not a man, he wouldn’t be trans.

You can’t separate out oppression for being trans and oppression for being a man for trans men. It’s literally the opposite of intersectional.

Uh…

Why is it taken as fact that transmascs, as a whole, can easily detransition and be re-welcomed?

If you listen to transmascs talk about our transitions, when we hit a certain stage in that transition we’re going to have the same sorts of problems transfems have in passing as a cis woman. And no, that doesn’t necessarily translate into ease passing for a cis man, as I’m sure trans women are well aware of (by that I mean aware of the strategy of simply trying to look enough like a cis man, even with cis-man-hormone-levels can still be a situation where you can be clocked).

Like genuinely. Why are the effects of testosterone a permanent thing that these supposed transfeminists spiral about never being able to escape because its effects are so much more permanent than those of an estrogen-dominant puberty, but transmascs’ testosterone puberty is just supposedly easy to still pass as cis from? And why is it that these same people claim that testosterone is so powerful that transmascs pass so much more quickly and easily than transfems?

It was always and still is awful to treat pregnant men as “fetishistic”, “disgusting”, or “unrealistic” due to their pregnancy, but I think it is ESPECIALLY vile when you also consider that:

- Transmascs experience incredibly high rates of sexual assault

- Transmascs are often pushed out of müllerian reproductive health spaces through malgendering* (implying that if they actually want to be treated as men they wouldn’t be involved in “women’s issues”)

It is genuinely appalling to me how people don’t think anything of the fact that their attempt at a joke could not only hit a REAL pregnant man, but that it’s definitely not irrational to assume there’s a fair chance they are NOT pregnant by their own will. People should really be calling out these “jokes” more when they see them.

*I also don’t see enough people talking about how the “trans men shouldn’t care about ‘women’s issues’” is blatant malgendering. I see people call out how illogical this behavior is but rarely do I see it called out as the blatant transphobic remark that it is.

This is androqueerphobia.