Sorry, Peri. I can't make it.

malgendering is a form of transphobia wherein a transphobic person uses their victim's correct gender to harass or demean them. it is meant to be the inverse of misgendering, where a transphobe uses the victim's incorrect gender to harass or demean them.

misgendering towards trans women can be as simple as "youre a man." but malgendering is more insidious, like someone saying "you really are a girl" when she makes a mistake in order to insult her intelligence. the phrase "you really are a girl" is positive when removed from the context of the trans woman making a mistake and the transphobe's sarcastic tone that implies shes stupid in an misogynistic way.

if a trans man does something like standing up for himself against an unfair situation or asks for better accommodations/treatment, and a transphobe wants to use that to imply he is selfish and entitled, they might say "trans men really are men" which again, is a true statement on its own. but in the context of the situation, its clear the transphobe is using the stereotypical worst qualities of men to insult and undermine someone's very identity.

malgendering can be any severity of harm, just like misgendering. my mom slipping up in the first months of my transition and accidentally calling me "she", and a bigot shouting "YOURE A WOMAN YOULL NEVER BE A MAN" at me are both examples of misgendering, but one is much worse than the other and its the same with malgendering. being told "trans men are the men of the trans community" as an insult is annoying and rude but not a big deal. however, right now ICE is torturing trans men in concentration camps by forcing them to do pointless and grueling labor. and when they become exhausted, theyre told "I thought you were a man. if youre really a man this should be easy for you" these are both examples of malgendering. one is a microaggression, the other is literal torture.

Malgendering is the action of maliciously burdening a trans person with the stereotypes about their true gender, with the intent of making living as said gender seem less favorable.

saying these things to a trans person with the knowledge that theyre trans has an underlying implication: "you wouldn't be bad if you weren't trans". when you tell a trans men that all men should die and you hate all men, youre telling him "you wouldnt be evil if you detransitioned. everyone would be kind to you if you were still a girl" and same with trans women: "you would be smarter and respected if you weren't a woman. I wouldnt harass you if you were still a man."

ohhhman

so after ten-plus years of bumping around time and spacetogether, they’re pretty much family. This means that they make breakfast for eachother, argue over who’s cleaning up, have very strong opinions of pineapple onpizza, etc; and also know each other’s opinions on these topics in detail.

Incidentally: ace is adamantly anti-pineapple-on-pizza and sevenis cheerfully pro-pineapple all the way. He is also the sort of person whocommits terrible food crimes whenever possible. He made alettuce-and-jelly-baby-sandwich once and Ace nearly murdered him on the spot.

They’re both big jazz fans. This is pretty much canon anyway;see Silver Nemesis.

Another thing that is pmuch canon: they get ridiculously protective over each other, and theybarely even notice anymore because it’s been happening for so long. Insult theProfessor, and Ace will pull a baseball bat out of literally nowhere andwill execute up to a fifteen-foot vertical leap to Get Rid Of You. If you somuch as scratch Ace, the Doctor will grab her by the arm (if he’s around to doso) and put himself bodily in between you and her before going into fullOncoming Storm mode. It’s ridiculous, and neither of them actually are aware ofthis. When Hex is onboard he’s ’???’ a lot of the time, just because - arethey real? Can real people actually act like this in real life? The answer is, incredibly, yes.

They both have a kind of tenuous, weird relationship with gender- mostly along the lines of ‘I don’t like it much, what is this thing, get itoff me’ - which means that there’s a lot of opportunity for terriblegender-based jokes that they throw around constantly at each other.

A list of games that Ace refuses to play with Seven: Monopoly,Scrabble, Jenga (why are his hands so fuckign steady dear god),Poker (too many puns), Cluedo.

A list of games that Seven refuses to play with Ace: Chess. (Shehas become better than him at it, and he refuses to admit it.)

A list of games that they’ve mutually decided are just not agood idea to play in general: the Game of Life, Snakes and Ladders, Mouse Trap,(Ace has set the board on fire in all of these games), Patience (Ace has none).

A list of games that it has never occurred to them to play butthey’d probably have a lot of fun with: Dungeons & Dragons, Mao.

Ace’s timeline gets split at some point, by some means - analien device, accidentally falling into a time rift - it doesn’t really matter.But what this essentially means is that all versions of her - and alldeaths/fates - are technically all canon at once. This includes the Gallifreyversion, Ground Zero, etc. Prime Timeline Ace, however, stayed in the TARDISuntil she died of old age - which is simultaneously wonderful andheartbreaking.

I’m been scrolling through some of the seven-era RP blogs todayand there is some wonderful, wonderful content there in the headcanontags. Also, some heartbreaking stuff too, but uh - one of the things I’ve seenwhile there today is a series of very good posts about Ace constantlyending up in the Doctor’s bedroom whenever she’s just really tired or anxiousabout something or just… doesn’t want to be alone. TARDIS Cuddle Pile, iswhat I’m saying. Ace hogs the bed but the Doctor doesn’t mind, really.

I could probably go on forever, but it’sgetting late and I’m tired.

>looks inside

this kind of policing is why ao3 was created

remember, kids, the three laws of fandom are:

- don’t like; don’t read

- your kink is not my kink

kink *but your kink is okay*

don’t forget that part