hey so just a quick reminder to all the subs out there:
youre there to please your dom just as much as theyre there to please you. and not in the sense of “oh of course i wanna please them. im here to serve” or whatever
make sure youre on the same page. go out of your way to make sure they’re getting what they want out of things too. ive seen so many doms just kind of resign themselves to pleasing pushy subs who only want to satisfy their doms in the most superficial of ways. folks in top-coded roles are still human
doms deserve to feel loved and secure and safe
sadists deserve to get support and reassurance
everyone deserves aftercare
being dominant can be every bit as draining as being dominated. and doms often find themselves much more easily boxed in positions where they are expected to just capitulate rather than collaborate because “theyre the one with the power”.
doms are people with needs, even if those needs are colored with a veneer of control. it is your job as their sub to make sure those needs are being met too.
anyways, thanks for hearing me out on this one. everyone go kiss your closest dom and let them know how lovely they are and how proud you are of them.
(oh also quick bonus request. dont box someone into topping or domming for you just because theyre big or string or hung or whatever. that shits lame)