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I feel like I haven't slept for a year! Since giving up dieting last January 2016 and learning everything I could about being Body Positive, learning about Health at every size and joining the Body Image Movement, challenging my old belief system, changing my personal and business life, frantically searching for research to fire back to scientific PT's who are questioning and yet blinded to the truth and trying to prove myself once again to everyone, to society, to myself! I feel like I haven't rested and I haven't taken much time for me. I've read books, books to research, I watched documentaries and I've daily listened to podcasts! I only have time to watch 1 thing at a time of TV or Netflix. Once again I'm giving from an empty cup! A friend of mine said today life has its ups and it's downs and sometimes you can just wake up and feel down, all you have done is open your eyes. Today I thought about this and felt overwhelmed at the thought of not letting myself feel down, getting up so early and straight into my schedule or 'to do' list that I have no time to feel. I've felt others emotions, I've let others cry on my shoulder and I've given advice. I've not really looked after myself, I've not even had a hair cut! Tell a lie, I had my hair done once in a year! I've been a people pleaser and I've said yes to everything, I've spent time and money on pushing the body image movement when it doesn't benefit my business because I am passionate about the message and hoped that the people I care about that I want to understand the message will not listen to me so I hope they will listen to the documentary. I've hardly seen my husband and I've spent less than a handful of days with my eldest daughter . So now I feel down, I feel hormonal, emotional, exhausted and out of steam. I know the answer I need rest I need self care Time off Fill my cup I need a massage A hair cut Maybe fix my nails I need time to cook To clean my house To make space and declutter I've not had time to shop so today I ate rice with pasta and white fish and carrots (odd combination of unloved food in my freezer and cupboards) Some people have people to talk to... I have blogs and internet groups Sigh Rant over, I feel better now

Please don't call my child skinny! She is 5 years old, she is healthy and she doesn't need to be labelled anything. Let her grow up into the world as a person, regardless of her size. If you give her the identity of the skinny girl, she'll want to always be the skinny girl and when she grows into the woman she is meant to be she will try to keep her body skinny. It's not a joke, it's not messing around, it's ingrained behaviour that you have learnt over the years and not done the work to unlearn. You taught me I was skinny, and look where it got me! The world applauds thinness so people labelled with thin labels feel righteous like they do anything to deserve the applause when most likely they were just born that way. Bodies change. Label my daughter for her intelligence and her sense of humour for she is more than skinny!

Family- the ones who bought you up, who stuck with you through thick and thin. Who rescued you from darkness, who saved you from your sins. The ones who put food on the table disputed you biting hand. Who taught you right from wrong, even when you didn't understand. Family- the ones who get forgotten, assumed they are always there, Who pick you up when DNA lets you down Who's warnings you didn't care. Family taught you to read and write, what's wrong with the world and what is right. Family gave you everything materials, love and sleepless nights. DNA will never know, the years of love and teachings How can DNA come by now with so much advice and preaching!!

Maybe you had an eating disorder, you had therapy, you did all the work, maybe regained some weight or stabled your weight. you know the difference with your thoughts and your old 'ED' (eating disorder) thoughts so you are let free! You have recovered BUT what happens now? You are free from ED but you still want to lose weight or you still diet/restrict (same thing) to stay where you are on the scales. What is full recovery and how can you do it? Well, recovering fully means you eat like a normal person. You don't have triggers anymore, no anxiety around food, your weight, or your body image. Body image plays a huge role because in order to do any kind of recovery you have to accept your body changing. In therapy you may accept that you were a different size to what you will end up and you were willing to allow change but you secretly wanted to stop at a certain point or you want to get better and then want to know how to lose weight after. Does this sound familiar? Now there's a thin line between you and the normal eaters who have dieted and try to edit their bodies. They are having disordered behaviour too, they say disordered things like... "I'm going for a run because I need to burn off 'X'" "I can't eat breakfast because I over ate last night" "I'm going to a restaurant tonight so I'm saving my calories" "I must eat every 3 hours or I'll lose my muscle and my metabolism will slow down" These people don't even know what they are doing is disordered and we have to separate ourself from them in order to become a 'normal eater. Picture a person who forgets to eat because they were busy, it's no issue, no anxiety, no shakes and binges in the evening Picture a person who stops eating and leaves some food on their plate, just not even thinking about it Picture a person who can't remember what they had for breakfast Picture a person who can leave the house without emergency food in their handbag or car This is normal eating Tip 1) stop restricting Tip 2) stop weighing, measuring food and you! Tip 3) do some body image work (more on this in my upcoming blog) For more information email [email protected] or Check out my podcast 'FeustelFIT health and fitness show' on iTunes and android

You can be anti diet but still try to lose weight by other forms of manipulation of the human body, maybe you don't 'diet' by restricting calories but you cut food groups, maybe you exercise in a way to change your body. Body positivity is about being comfortable in the skin you are in TODAY! Not today because you are changing it for tomorrow, or today because you feel good about running 12miles and you won't put on any weight. Body positivity is for everyone regardless if you have a fitness interest or not, everyone has a right to feel comfortable in their own skin.

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standing on stage at a bikini contest is not dissimilar to standing naked in front of a surgeon. Both feedback that certain areas of your body are not right, or need work on, need growing, changing, editing in some way or as one person told me I was genetically flawed!! I'm so done with other people's opinions of what I should look like. Sadly I'm in an industry that does this but fortunately I've grown strong enough to stand in it and by being myself I promote real health to all who work with me. I'd never want this for them I'd never want this for my kids. I never want other trainers to feel they need to do this to fit the industries ideal picture of fitness!! If you are a 'normal' trainer (as in you live in your natural body and don't diet or over exercise) and most likely get judged when you teach a group of people because you don't fit the ideal. then stand strong this week. Be positive. You are not alone. @rlelitepersonaltraining #HAES #BOPO #bimgap #pt #realhealth #classteacher #nipandtuck #bikini #prep #comp #surgery #barbie #goingundertheknife #dontjudge

In body acceptance and recovery I have come to realise there are 3 days a month I still hate my body, I cry shit loads and am confused again about my emotions and where I am going in life.. My sister said to me today, "welcome to being a woman"! After years of no periods I had a constant one mood..happy and stable. Now my hormones are back and I can relate my mood and bad body image thoughts to my period. It's only my 3rd consecutive period but it's my 3rd in a row in 10 years and I'll soon learn to love my body throughout the process of its monthly changes too because thank God I now have them back! My sign of my full health! #realhealth #feustelfitpodcast #bimgap #bim #ihaveembraced And I am happy to celebrate that I am a woman with emotions, with a period. I am recovered. #recovered #recovereded #ed #bed #bulimia #orthorexia @sarevance @misswallace90

My 4 tips for taking control of your life after years of dieting.. ✏1) ️smash your scales 😱You said, "I can't give them up yet because if I do I'll lose control" 💚I say, "try it, image your worst fear and think what's the rationale behind it, is this even possible" (for example 'if I stop weighing I'll become obese overnight') ✏2) ️Eat whatever you like 😱you said, "I can't have certain food in the house or I'll eat it all too it's gone. I'll lose control. I can't be trusted." 💚I say, "try it, try having for example chocolate in the house in abundance, so much so there's no way you could eat it all, allow yourself to eat it whenever you need. Pretty soon you'll stop craving it" ✏3) ️Take some time off from exercise 😱you said "if I do that, I'll have to restrict, I know my body.. I'll put on weight" 💚I say, "try it.. Maybe you will put on weight if you are under your set weight, maybe you won't, maybe your appetite will reduce naturally (if you are at the stage where you are able to listen to it that Is). You also need to eat even if you aren't exercising. Your body needs energy to live. ✏️4) hire a coach 💚you may have had s coach who got you in this mess now get a coach to help you out of it. I have a coach. If I didn't believe in having a coach I wouldn't expect you to hire me! (Even a hairdresser needs someone else to cut her hair) 💇🏾

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Just to be clear if anyone has liked or shared the #smashyourscales videos but think this is just another way to diet or thinking getting rid of scales is good just so then you can measure body fat.. Then you have this all wrong!! If you are supporting the cause but don't feel ready to smash your scales, that's fine too. It's your life, never feel pressured to do some thinking because someone else is! Especially if the cause doesn't resonate with you. Like the abs and ice bucket challenge I wanted this to be big to raise awareness of eating disorders in the fitness industry, in the body building industry and make a point to people who aspire to look like 'the picture of health' to become aware that that image you have up on your fridge or on your phones cover may not be 'healthy'. Question it! Don't always believe what you see 🤓 Finally why the fu*k are diet companies liking my pic of smashed scales..?? #smashyourscales #scales #diet #fitness #fitnessindustry #pt #bim #ed #ihaveembraced #bimgap #like #share #raiseawareness #promotehealth #realhealth #gomusclesnotshowmuscles #healthinsideout #haes #abschallenge #icebucketchallenge #viral #sharingiscaring

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So last night I couldn't sleep, I caught up with one of my BFF's who has been through quite a lot with me, and it made me look through my own Instagram before bed (which is never a good thing). The reason I keep up all these old pics of myself is because it's part of my journey and makes me who I am today. What made me really sad though but also proud at how far I've come was the words I used underneath these pictures.. For example, "I've just had a nap and now I'm going to teach insanity whoohoo!" Meaning my body was simply exhausted and the only way to get some energy was napping and coffee/pre-workout. I also said "be hard on yourself, never be lazy, get it done". Meaning I thought rest was lazy and if I just kept the 'right' go hard or go home attitude I'd not be lazy because every feeling was black and white. You are either crazy obsessed with working out or you are lazy. There was no grey! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I was so hard on myself and I was overriding my bodies signals of rest as signs of weakness I did think I was somehow super human and had something to prove to the world. This is Orthorexic, exercise addict, obsessed behaviour. Health and Fitness is not ALL or NOTHING. It's not BLACK and WHITE and it's not GO HARD OR GO HOME, it's not CLEAN and CHEAT food. You shouldn't need naps to get by, you shouldn't need pre workout or coffee, you shouldn't be struggling with sleep, feeling guilty on rest days, feeling shame if you eat something that somebody else classes as a 'cheat'. I had a body building coach. Now I have a body image coach. Every coach needs a coach. Another thing about chasing perfection is letting your guard down and asking for help when you need it. It's ok! You can and will be ok. Trust the process. Feel the feelings and enjoy the journey whichever one you chose because it's your life to be lived.

This is ALL or NOTHING thinking, Black and White. The REAL world is more than 50 shades of Grey!

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Tanning, something most of us Brits do when we go abroad, even if you are mixed race like myself, we still like a 'healthy glow'. When a tan actual isn't healthy. Many of us get burned, damage our skin, prematurely age our skin yet we believe a tan look healthy..why? Because society told us so. Therefore we work hard on our tans abroad and come home from hols only to try to keep it a bit longer, maybe visit the sunbed or fake tan but ultimately it's too hard maintenance and we end up back to normal colour soon enough. The same goes for diets, we consider thinness to be 'healthy' because society told us so and we Pursue health as it gives us status, respect and self righteousness. When in fact some of us our genetics, biologically and chemically don't want us to be thin, like our skin colour is predetermined we fight it and try to maintain that body for as long as possible. What if Pursuing the body that you think everyone wants makes you 'inhealthy'!? Somebody on a group I am in reminded me of the kcal free, carb free, fat free (so called) foods I (and many others) eat called Walden farm s**t. This isn't REAL food! And if we eat this and many other CRAPS just to edit the way we look how long can it go on for? Like your tan, your diet efforts fade and if restrictive may lead to binges as your body fights back. If we want to lead and we want to inspire perhaps we need change and in this blog I invite it.. My goal, a change in your perception but ultimately I live and lead my own example. Will you join me?

My family love a BBQ. My Step dad being a Scott, we'd always have BBQ in any weather, always fuelled with lots of Alcohol and great conversation, discussions or arguments!😂😂. My Mum would always call me first to discuss what diet I was on. Over the years, I'd maybe eat vegetarian, carb free, fat free, alcohol free, pudding free or anything goes so long as it fit my Macros! Or maybe I'd think f**k the diet and go home and binge to make sure I made the most of it before I'd have to restrict again. Today I can have anything I want because I don't diet anymore, I don't count, weigh or measure and I can enjoy being present with my family! 👩‍👩‍👧‍👦 Learning to eat intuitively is not another form of dieting (although some do approach it this way) it's about takings the rules away and allowing your body to gain it's voice back. When you've dieted for so many years your body loses its voice. You don't know when you are hungry and when you are full, what you really crave and when you want to move and when you need to rest. Today is probably the first BBQ where I am able to do this and it's awesome. Life is too short to care about these things but I totally understand if you are not ready to do this. I wasn't and there's no easy way to suddenly be ok but you can IF you want to. For the longest time I wouldn't even want to because being slim meant more to me than life! So sad, and what a waste of my life! If this is you..and somewhere deep down you'd quite like your life back or to start a life if you know nothing else but dieting then get in touch.. [email protected] Here's your open invitation to talk to me privately or live on radio. 91.8 Hayes fm Hit me up!!