some human guillotine

BUT

Last week I was at a meetup where I was the only transfem. I checked the groupchat when I arrived and there was a message from the organiser: "We have a newcomer called X, can you look out for him if you get there first?" I located X, introduced myself, sent a message to the chat say, "I have located X," and continued to talk to him until the organiser arrived. When the organiser arrived, she was not happy with me. It turned out my phone had autocorrected, "I have located X," to, "I had located X," which the organiser interpreted as me passive aggressively telling her that I had already done the thing she was asking about. Her conclusion: I was unreasonable and aggressive in responding to her reasonable request. My explaining what had happened didn't convince her otherwise.

A different occasion last week: in a local trans groupchat, a trans man sent a link to a drag event happening in our town. A few people said they were already going, some said they might go. Then a trans woman replied saying, "Thanks, but I don't really like drag." Her tone was immediately called into question. Her words were assumed to communicate: "I think you are a terrible person if you like drag," even though she never said that. Several non-transfems who had never even heard that drag might not be universally-beloved by everyone were upset to discover that fact. A trans woman simply saying she didn't like this thing became A Big Deal.

Meanwhile, at a different event again, a trans man told a group that he was straight and attracted to women, but he wouldn't feel comfortable bringing home an "AMAB woman" (yes he actually said that). It was quickly brushed over, and after he had left even trans women tried to defend him by saying "he probably didnt realise people would be offended" etc etc. In contrast to the examples above, he is not even aware that anyone was upset by what he said, never mind worrying about what consequences he might face.

it wasn't "you should never praise your partner for Doing A Good Job At Housework"

it was "women have been expected to do all the housework, in many cultures, for centuries, with limited acknowledgment or gratitude. and many men, who also live in these houses and are part of these families, either refuse to do the work OR expect to be treated with the consideration and praise they haven't given women- for doing the same work 24/7 for generations -when they do (while still not giving the women in their lives that praise). and why should they suddenly be treated like heroes for doing something that women are still often expected to do for no praise whatsoever?"

or course you should praise your partner when they do housework, regardless of gender! the answer here is for everyone to get praise for doing housework, like OP says! but framing this as a case of people being unreasonable- especially with men as the Victims of Unfair Heartless Women -seems a bit. I don't know. disingenuous? missing the original point?

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