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Next years met gala theme shoold be the cw's supernatural

yall i swear to god if a bitch says her pronouns are she/her then her pronouns are she/her

my close friend from uni was a cis girl who had the audacity to wear pants and cut her hair short and like nobody at this school, a place OBSESSED with ‘respecting everyone’s gender identities,’ would call her ‘she.’ after MONTHS of this she started wearing a fucking pronoun pin to work and i dont even think that fixed it. me, im sorta androgynous; i have shaggy self-cut hair and go by a neutral name, but i always say my pronouns are she/her, and people ive worked with for months and have introduced myself in front of fifty times will STILL reflexively say ‘they’ for me. i respect the progressive circles i run in, but this IS evidence of misogyny. people’s definition of “woman” or “girl” is so narrow and high-maintenance that even the tiniest deviation from the norm gets you forcibly defeminized. but it’s a compliment, right? like who would wanna be a girl anyway?

replacing an inescapable gender binary with an equally-inescapable gender trinary is stupid 🩷

The solution to ableism isn't for me to "stop calling myself disabled", it's for everyone to stop treating "disabled" as a bad word

It is a beautiful day to not be cis, to not exist as someone who could or would ever pass for cis, to never want to be cis, and to never desire to replicate cis gender presentation ever.

The Masc of Amontillado

Was explaining some gender things to a straight cis friend today vis a vis gender presentation VS gender identity when it suddenly dawned on me with much the same horror as getting to work and realizing you left the stove on, that unless you've been immersed in a queer culture for some time you'd have no way of knowing that appearing androgynous/indeterminate/wildly gender-nonconforming is HOT

(Running around knocking things over in a panic) NOBODY TOLD THE NONQUEERS THAT BLURRING THE GENDER BINARY IS THE GOAL SOMETIMES SHIT SHIT SHIT

Friend of mine at work was expressing frustration at not knowing someone's gender on sight and I had to find a way to gently tell them that thirty of my closest friends regularly leave the house thinking "boy I hope someone has to fucking take a guess today" without sounding like it was all a huge prank

There's a kind of automatic process by which we take things attached to us to be part of us. I see it talked about as related to the philosophy of 'cyborgs'. At first while you're carrying a heavy object, you might bump it into the wall as you pass, but if you wear your hair a certain way for long enough, eventually your brain will understand that to be how tall you are, and adjust calculations to account for it. Body image is not static, but adapts as needed. Thus, I understand why you keep banging your horns on doorways, but that's really no cause for alarm. You keep insisting that this isn't who you are, but before too long your brain will update and you'll get used to it. At that point in time, once you adjust, that'll be an interesting moment. I'm curious to see whether your sense of identity will update before or after that day.

I love how this is all the exact same episode too. Same setting and everything. This is Ed’s peak horny, angry and hungry of all time

this has been scheduled since last month

today

as a rule it's always more interesting when two people who know each other outlive a third person that they both loved and then their relationship becomes So Much Weirder and more emotionally fraught, entangled, and charged when that third person dies