rage, rage, against the wearing of the pants

i have access to powers and locations that he cannot access independently; he needs my help to navigate the world i've brought him to

i simply found him outside and abducted him one day

there are many cats in the world, but this one is the best and my most favorite. why? because he was available to abduct that morning and for very little other reason.

i have a much greater understanding of this world than him, but he has unshakable confidence in his ability to figure it out and i find that really cute

the power dynamic is fundamentally unbalanced, but i let him have a little audacity. a little combativeness and sass. as a treat.

some humans are needlessly cruel to cats or take them in for a short time before neglecting or abandoning them. but i have chosen to love and guard this one with my life. because i think he's neat.

You could give him divine treats at any time that taste so much better than food it might drive him a little mad wanting more. You do not give them to him on any schedule he can discern.

You can lay a dry powder on the ground which causes him to lose his mind a little and behave differently for a short time should he inhale any of it. Sometimes this is inside of his entertainment for the day, and he becomes your entertainment.

You create illusions on flat surfaces that look like prey or other things, illusions that move and sound like they are real and yet when he touches them he finds only cold, flat walls.

You give him prey he cannot eat, prey that are bright colors and make strange sounds and may look nothing like real prey and yet he is enticed to chase and kill, especially the small, uncatchable red dot.

You sleep in a nest of impossibly soft material, and allow him to share this space to sleep beside you, and even to sleep there when you are gone.

Sometimes you disappear and he can find no way to follow or escape in your absence. You create and destroy openings in solid walls at your convenience.

there are several followup questions

Is the sex an activity comprehensible to humans, that the human doesn't experience as sexual? E.g. sex is some kind of elaborate ritual that involves walking behind a waterfall 3 times with a sacred flame and then whacking each other with pool noodles. In that case, it's a matter of whether or not the alien discloses that it's a sex thing.

Or, is it an activity that literally can't be explained to the human beforehand because there is no human analog for it? In this case, the human can't consent to the activity because they can't comprehend what it is.

I think it could be further subdivided based upon whether the problem is an inability for the alien to explain/communicate the activity itself, or an inability for the alien to explain/communicate what the activity means.

Wait, is that a further subdivision, or did I just say the same thing twice?

I mean okay, I think "inability to explain/communicate what the activity means" might refer to a couple things as well: either the inability to communicate that the thing is a sex thing from the alien's POV, or the inability to explain/communicate what it will or might feel like from the human's POV.

The first one would be like the pool noodle situation above, but the second one would be like, something incomprehensible happens that is experienced as intimate or potentially violating.

I went younger than I usually do, 9 months old, and went male. Took a small ginger who reportedly has anxiety but (important!!) NOT anxiety about other cats.

THIS CHILD. He has been At Large in the household for ten hours. TEN HOURS. And he is engaging in Antics to try and seduce my cat who is about 10x his age.

In bed this morning, my girl (Naomi) was sitting on my pillow hiding behind my head having anxiety and then The Boy arrived

Every one of these pictures he is staring right at her I promise you

This little slut

Slow blinks, rolling onto his back, stretching out and then going into loaf. Purring purring.

Slowly moving up from where my feet are to rolling around on my lap to coming right up next to me.

i feel like the problem with this question is best illustrated by a conversation i had with a friend a while back, where i said something like, "i feel very safe with you because you don't do subtle hints and you are always very straight-up with me about what you are thinking and feeling."