"yeah but if you aren't careful, achieving masculinity can very easily be a misogynistic path."
So butch lesbians are going down a misogynistic path? So butch trans women are going down a misogynistic path? What about all the feminine women who are misogynistic whilst femme did something go wrong for them somehow?
"masculinity in our world is very often defined by its relationship to femininity - that it is superior."
Masculinity can mean whatever the fuck someone wants it to mean and doesn't have to be defined by it's relationship to femininity at all. This is something many trans men and trans mascs eagerly talk about, which you'd know if you ever let us talk without assuming this shit about us.
What some see as masc others see as neutral or even feminine. It entirely depends on your culture and in many ways, your upbringing. If you continue to conflate 'toxic masculinity' imposed by the patriarchy with just 'whatever the culture accepts to be masculine rather than feminine, which could look like anything and not translate to other cultures at all' then you will never be free.
If masculinity is just 'what we're told is superior to what we call femininity' then why are there so many variations? No universal 'this is the right way to be because it is masculine'? Why is masculinity demonised in those who are assumed to not be allowed it if it's defined by it's superiority it would be celebrated when women and trans man/trans mascs do it too right? Oh it's not? Wonder why.
"if you are not critical of masculinity in transitioning toward masculinity, you will learn misogyny."
Everyone learns misogyny from the moment they are born into a misogynistic society. It comes free with growing up in a misogynistic world. You don't get immunity if you're a woman or feminine and it doesn't magically unlearn itself the moment someone transitions towards femininity either. So I sure hope you hold everyone to this standard.
People who believe misogynistic things before transition will still believe them after, and this is regardless of what their affirmed gender is. How they project them might change, but it's not unique to the masculine.
"there is nothing inherently wrong with being transmasculine, but if your ideas of masculinity lie in what society tells you masculinity is, you will be just like every fuckass misogynist dude on this planet."
Transitioning towards masculinity is not an inherently misogynistic act. That was my whole entire damn point 'you are not misogynistic because you want to be a man' because man is not equal to misogynist inherently, but if you continue to see it as such we will never make any progress. We need to hold people actually accountable for the ideas and beliefs they have, not 'oh well you're a man so of course misogyny is just natural to you, you're too stupid and inherently misogynistic to transition towards/be masculine/a man without hating women'.
What you're talking about here is the potential for someone to fall into misogynistic patterns in order to prove themselves i.e. taking up toxic masculinity. I don't disagree that this can happen, but your continued implication that just wanting to be masculine at all increases your 'chances to be a misogynist' meter is transphobic.
Because you are looking at trans masculine people and automatically assuming that unless we behave like good little boys we're going to become misogynistic purely because of our gender identity. That's transphobic.
"the tags on this post don't inspire very much confidence."
Oh why? Did someone tag it with certain buzzwords which you've taught yourself are inherently trans/misogynistic because you refuse to listen?
Edit: I also found it weird that instead of manhood you just call it masculinity. These two things are not the same, anyone of any gender can be masculine. The implications that a cis man who happens to be femme is somehow less likely to be a misogynist purely because he's feminine...not great.