Me the instant a gimmick/art blog I follow starts getting extremely political:

The first is by Catholics. They tend to throw around this quote with a meaning to the effect of “if you study Church history and read the Fathers you will see that they unanimously teach the entirety of everything the Roman Catholic Church teaches in the current year.” Now this is a little hyperbolic but the usage is very often something to that effect. Or something to the effect of “nobody before 1517 expressed any of the views of Luther or of the other Reformers.” This is incorrect and not what Saint Newman was intending to say. In saying this he was attempting to dispute a specific claim by the reformers and by his (fellow, btw, as Saint Newman himself was still a protestant at the time of writing this essay) protestant contemporaries. The claim being that the Reformers were merely intending to ‘ strip away’ the various ‘accretions’ and ‘corruptions’ that Rome had embraced over the centuries in order to return to a ‘pure’ Christianity of the primitive Church. His argument against this is that when you do the historical study you find no such period where there is a sort of uniform, lean, biblicist Christianity. That, instead, you find—when you actually immerse yourself in the patristic sources—the seed form of various doctrines that the Reformers completely discarded: Marian veneration, intercession of the saints, prayers for the dead/purgatory, Eucharistic theology, monasticism, episcopacy, papacy, etc. He does not argue that all of these things are there robustly, clearly, or fully elaborated—quite the contrary. The whole point is that it was messy. And it was the sort of messy that, in his view, only Roman Catholicism could make sense of.

The second is by protestants. They will argue against Saint Newman on this that you can find certain Fathers expressing things that sound, to their ears, like certain Reformation tenets such as sola fide or sola scriptura. But again, that was the point. You have Fathers agreeing and disagreeing with each other on things, you have language being used that can be taken in various different ways. That’s the mess that needs cleaned up/clarified. And even if certain Fathers did hold to certain reformation tenets, they also held to the aforementioned ‘Romish accretions.’ The unambiguous purity of the primitive Church is a fiction. The question then becomes wherein lies the solution to cleaning up that historical and intellectual mess? Wherein lies the ability to parse the truth from error? For Saint Newman, the answer couldn’t be found Protestantism.

Zawn is one of the few feminists I see today who seem to care about the welfare of mothers and children, but of course she is pro-choice and has her biases about "anti-choice" people. If you are pro-life and want to leave a RESPECTFUL comment on the post linked, be sure to share your willingness to help women and children, as well as provide info on your favorite pro-life org that helps families. Challenge her bias in a factual, civil, and even loving way. Show the world that society sucks at helping women and children, but that pro-lifers are part of the solution.

obviously how effective this is varies wildly based on the relationship, or lack thereof, that you have with the other person. but I find it effective with people who are In Your Life but don't meaningfully have any control over you. quite often it DOES result in increased directness in the future, especially if it's something I end up doing fairly often. and it's not rude; I'm just politely seeking clarification about what is being communicated. it makes the person have to think about what effect they were expecting their behavior to have on my behavior, and then just... tell me straightforwardly. but without escalating the situation or making the person feel 'called out' most of the time.

She frequently makes requests by telling me what I want, eg "oh wouldn't you like to.." "don't you think it's be nice if..."

It used to drive me up the wall, but now as an adult with better understanding of what's happening I say "Actually I'm fine with x, but I'd be happy to do y if that's what you want?"

One day she actually asked me, "Why is it so important to you that I say that y is what I want?"

and i got to say "Well I don't like being told what I want. I have enough life experience to know my own desires and limitations, and I can advocate for them when I need to. However your opinions do matter to me and I want to take them into account. It's much less stressful for me to do so when I'm not guessing what's in your mind."

And folks, she Actually Listened.

Later that day she wanted something that ended up not being possible, but because she said so directly I was able to help her find a different way to achieve the same goal!