here we do not speak evil of anyone - st.augustine

Please pray for me! I've got a headache, my family is in town, and I've got to close the department in my store tonight so I cannot see them :(

So not reblogging the post that prompted this, but I find it interesting that OP thinks that wanting a boy “to carry on the family name” is “grossly misogynistic and dehumanizing,” while wanting a girl because it would be fun to dress her up in pretty pink clothes is totally innocent. Because I would say that both of those reasons are coming from mildly misogynistic foundations, the former of which is being exaggerated by OP and the latter of which is getting ignored by OP

I don’t see how wanting to continue the family name is even mildly misogynistic other than a common interest or investment in your family tree, may be vain. Wanting a girl for pretty dresses may also be vain but I also doubt it comes from a genuine hate for women. I’m rly tired of Christians flippantly using the word misogynist as if we don’t practice a religion that doesn’t allow women to be clergy because Christ made it so. Misogyny is a strong word and I would doubt we’d call our religion misogynist as many ppl do.

You don't have to be sorry for going on a mini-rant. To clarify and defend my stance: If by misogyny we mean solely "a genuine hatred of women," then the points brought up are not misogynistic. But I am using misogyny in the broader sense of "dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women," and I think that both of the examples cited by the OP fall into the third definition of "ingrained prejudice against." Wanting to continue a family name is not in itself misogynistic. Valuing male offspring over female offspring for a perceived ability to pass on a family name is something I would argue is misogynistic. When I took my wife's last name, my father was sad that our family line would end; when I pointed out that several of my sisters expressed a desire to keep their original last names if they got married, and one even wanted to pass that name onto her children, he said that it "would not count." I think that is misogynistic. Is it an expression of my father's hatred of, or contempt for, women? No. But this opinion does come from an "ingrained prejudice" that devalues daughters as a means of transmitting family names when there is nothing but changeable cultural norms that would prevent her from doing so. Wanting to dress kids up is not inherently misogynistic either. And I will admit that my argument is less adamant here because it doesn't involve an active devaluing of women. But I think that valuing female offspring over male offspring because you want to dress the former up more nicely than the latter certainly opens oneself up to accusations of misogyny. If girls are being treated as dress up dolls and boys are not, and that limits how girls can play and what activities they can participate in in a way that it does not limit the boys, then I would argue that, yes, that is misogyny. As far as the clergy is concerned, if there is a genuine ontological change that occurs during ordination that is predicated on the ordained individual being male, then it is not misogyny. If that presupposition is true, it's no more misogynistic to say that women can't be priests than it would be misandrist to say that men can't be mothers. But if ordination does not involve an ontological change and is simply an office held like an occupation, then it would be misogynistic.

i just feel like friendship is one of the most expansive and beautiful forms of love you can ever experience and i wish we gave it more credit

Can you guys please pray for my mom's friend A? Thanks

Please pray for me to get better sleep. I am still frequently having bad sleep and I am very tired of this