Help,I love too many fictional people to function

some people don’t deserve fanfics, much less for free.

also even if authors didn’t tag any specific warnings but they used the “creator chose not to use archive warnings” tag, then that is your warning.

What a red flag actually means: something here is an indicator of a potential problem (but might be fine with a reasonable explanation)

What people have now decided it means: abuse

I've lost count of the number of times I've now had to read variants of "My partner takes all my money and gives me back an allowance because he says it's a man's job to control finances, but he's racking up gambling debts" being met with "Wow this man is a walking red flag" no Becky that is abuse. That is not an indicator. He is an abuser. Call the police. We have lost the concept of a proxy: a thing that indicates a more important thing. And it's relevant to this conversation because I'm actually going to go out on a limb here:

With the obvious exception of paedophilia, age gaps themselves aren't a problem at all - they are a proxy for the actual harmful phenomenon. Hea me out, let me explain

The reason we don't like age gaps is because of the implied power dynamic. If one partner, usually male, is older than other - particularly if the other is still quite young - the risk is that what we're seeing is a worldly wise predator who is exploiting the lack of life experience of a young beautiful woman by mentally abusing her until she's no longer young and pretty enough to satisfy, at which point he'll move on to the next. There have been enough examples of this in human history. It's unfortunately not an uncommon pattern. Genders can also be diverse in this scenario

We can't necessarily see that dynamic from the outside. But we CAN see an inherent element of it: the ages of the people involved. So age becomes a proxy for the abuse. And, hey, it's often correct.

But here's the thing: the ages themselves are not causing harm.

The power dynamic is. The abuse is.

Plenty of age gap relationships are loving, healthy and steadfast. Two people met and genuinely fell in love regardless of the outer packaging, and have a relationship with all the highs and lows and challenges and rewards as any more traditional pairing. This happens all the time

Is the age gap a red flag? Sure! It indicates a potential issue.

Is it inherently abusive? Absolutely fucking not.

OP is right - we need to stop focusing just on the numbers and twisting the facts to fit by infantilising the younger partners, and start focusing on the actual harms. The DiCaprio Pattern of only dating under 24s repeatedly is itself a proxy, too, actually - but a much stronger one than the simple presence of an age gap.

(Even so, in DiCaprio's case, until any of his former partners come forward and describe him as abusive, actually, even that is up in the air - my personal interpretation, given how strong a pattern it is, is that he's a loser who views women as trophies (consciously or not). If any have come forward and I don't know about it, of course, fair enough. But those women were adults capable of making their own decisions, even if they might later come to regret it. And regretting poor decisions is part of life! That's how it goes, particularly with relationships. As long as they weren't abused, there's no biggie. And just as he was looking for young-and-beautiful, there's no way they weren't, on some level, looking for rich-and-famous; it goes both ways.)

Also, another element of this: I think a lot of modern extreme puritan discourse on this is actually ironically down to the age of those taking part. Up until your late 20s, ten years is actually a huge span of time to you, because in your own life you were in a completely different developmental phase ten years ago (teenager), and a completely different phase again ten years before that (child). That skews your sense of what a ten-year gap means. Whereas once you're in your 30s and beyond, ten years is like. Yeah I was an adult ten years ago, and I still am now. That's two adults. Who cares.

None of this cheerleader stuff for soccer, oh no sireee, I mean, no disrespect to cheerleaders who put a LOT of work and effort into their performances, but somehow "Rah-Rah! We're the best" from peppily gymnastic young things can't quite match the sheer power of entire stadiums of grown up fans yelling at the top of their lungs things like....

It's unclear if this one originated with the English of Scottish games (spelling of "old" as "auld" notwithstanding), but either way, well done.

And it's striking home too! :D

my mom is in fact aware that dandelions exist. she temporarily forgot the name and there was some miscommunication.

the truth is actually weirder

she’s aware dandelions look like this

she is familiar with this flower. she knows the name of this flower. she declines to believe, however, that these are also dandelions

she does not believe these are the same plant. I tried to explain, and she thought I was either misinformed or lying. so I asked her what exactly did she think the yellow ones were called?

gosh I enjoy this website

You may need to learn how to set up your paints and such… but this is what people did, live, while the show aired. That’s what the show was for. I had family members create lovely works of art they enjoyed, which I still have on my walls, because William Alexander and Bob Ross both said:

SCREW METICULOUS CLASSICAL ART PRACTICES — JUST GRAB A PALETTE KNIFE AND BIG OLD BRUSH AND PAINT!

They freed a whole generation of people who were taught to paint detail and realism and exact representation of reality — people who largely gave up this kind of thing because it got tedious.

I watched the joy of family members as they rediscovered art as a messy fun spontaneous half hour activity.

Let’s have a go with All!Yuuji because why not :D

One day I found this fic titled everything i couldn’t save by lying_sun and it got me hooked. It’s not everyday I can find a good Yuuji bowl fic (mostly because I focused a bit too much on Goyuu but I digress)

Btw, is it Yuuji harem? Yuuji bowl??? What do you call a harem with Yuuji btw? I’m too lazy to do research on this topic—

Anyway! The time has come to shower Yuuji with more love. I really adore this fic. The deadly and powerful nature of Yuuji as Sukuna’s vessel, yet his ability and heart are that of a healer. It’s contrastingly beautiful. And it’s SFW! Fluff! Fluff! ✨Fluff! ✨ And of course, a bit of angst because why not :)

If you like a Healer!Yuuji as SaShiSu trio’s teacher, please give this fic a read!

This time, I have shorter thoughts so no Read More is needed :DD

What is the best way to include all Yuuji pairings in a fanart?

Stack them up of course! Squish them all into a small space!

Everytime I see Hidden Inventory Arc characters, it always feels like going back to the past. So the concept of immortalising this precious Yuuji bowl into a Polaroid photo feels fitting. And without me even realising it, the outcome feels… cheerful? A bit romcom-ish? Despite the amount of black clothes and hair, the vibe is really light. It feels weird as I usually draw in a rather sombre tone, but I found I like this kind of tone as well!

And also because Yuuji deserves all the love :”)

Ah, this fic is truly giving me “healer yuuji for the soul”. Beautiful.

As I drew this, the fic is almost finished, with the future last chapter being a Sukuna chapter! Since I was not sure what their dynamic would look like, I decided he would be a chibi (I was in the mood for a chibi and he’s my sacrificial lamb). It kind of indicates that he’s different. As in not having his own body and cannot hug Yuuji physically haha

Unless? 👀

Drawing them all was really fun! It was a bit tricky since I couldn’t find references for the pose so I just winging it with my available anatomy knowledge. Bless the college for having black uniforms. Helps a lot lol

Klein: let me introduce you to the heroes of pre epoch *summons gilgamesh -a demi god- to kill zaratual*

And as a reward for fighting for him, Klein will grant the heroic spirits their wishs!

In Essence:

Holy Grail = Miracle Invoker

If there are any entries you missed, now is your time to catch up before reveals happen on Sunday 21st June!

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DAY 1

To The Cat Knocking Over My Bins: Stop (please?) Rating: T, Word count: 17,442  Summary: There are two things bothering Harry:  One, he is on suspension and bored out of his mind.  Two, Draco Malfoy is missing and Ron kept this fact from him.  Harry could handle both of these things perfectly well if only this pesky cat would stop knocking over his fucking bins. 

[ART] Garbage Queen Rating: M, Art Medium: Digital Art/Comic Summary: Draco is on the run as a cat, and is keeping an eye on things by scavenging from certain wizards that he may know. Harry Potter has a soft spot for the pretty white stray that keeps getting into his bins.

DAY 2

Over the Garden Wall Rating: M, Word count: 17,575 Summary: Draco did not come to the Highlands to fall in love with Harry Potter. He came for peace, quiet, and a magical garden full of rare potion ingredients. Instead, he gets Harry Potter in the next cottage over: terrible gardener, excellent baker, devastating wearer of rolled-up sleeves, and the single worst person in Britain for Draco to be trapped beside for the summer.

DAY 3

[ART] Princess Cut Rating: E, Art Medium: Digital art Summary: 🎼🎶 In the fifth mini comic, Draco's true love gave to him:🎵 A 5 Carat Rinnnnnng, 4 Portkeys, 3 Orgasms, 2 Reservations, And found Teddy necking in an alcove! 🎶

DAY 4

[Podfic] About Time by poppyhills Rating: E, Run Time: 01:34:37 Summary: Harry Potter leads a perfectly satisfying life. He’s got friends, a successful career that allows him to travel anywhere, and no shortage of willing partners. Although, over the years, Malfoy has remained the most constant and recently, kind of the only one. But that’s not a bad thing, really, Harry’s learned. Nothing has to change between them…until it does. Or: Cue an ancient curse, a rushed Handfasting ceremony, and discovering that maybe—just maybe—life begins when you’re forty.

DAY 5

Mine/Yours Rating: E, Word count: 7,659 Summary:  Draco has had a terrible day at the office. Harry is a good husband who makes it all better.

DAY 6

yield Rating: E, Word count: 9,400 Summary: a heat wave, a thunderstorm, the overlap of spring into summer. everyone knows, and yet.  this is all still a Before.

DAY 7 

How Hermione Started Shipping Drarry - A podfic Rating: E, Run Time: 53:40 Summary: Dumped by her boyfriend and needing somewhere to stay, all Hermione wants to do is get comfort from her best friend. But there's just one problem. Harry is incomprehensibly living with that pointy git, Draco Malfoy. This is 100% Drarry but from Hermione’s POV. How does that work? Read it and find out!

DAY 8

Collapsing Walls and Improving Relationships Rating: E, Word count: 9,305 Summary: Harry becomes Draco's flatmate a year after they graduate Hogwarts, clueless not only to Draco's preferences, but his own. Draco is living his best life, bringing near strangers to the flat multiple times a week, and Harry simply can't handle it. At first, he thinks he's being homophobic, but after a vague conversation with Ron, he slowly realizes he's feeling an altogether different emotion. He isn't homophobic. He's jealous.  

DAY 9

Wings Rating: E, Word count: 8,217 Summary: Harry tries to court Draco pureblood-style. Draco beats him to it. Also, Draco has wings.

[ART] Icarus Eat Your Heart Out Rating: T, Art Medium: Digital Art Summary: I gave Draco Malfoy wings like you asked. :)

DAY 10

[Podfic] Draco Malfoy has a Podcast! by DracoAbraxas Rating: T, Run Time: 01:04:46 Summary: Harry Potter is recently divorced, emotionally spiralling, and just trying to survive. When he discovers Draco Malfoy has a fashion podcast, it is apparently the last straw. He instantly becomes obsessed; how dare Malfoy be happy? One live-show ambush and a whiskey-fueled argument later, can Harry realise he has been focused on the wrong problem? OR Everyone has a podcast now.

[ART]  Speak Up Rating: E, Art Medium: Digital Art Summary: Draco has never been one to keep quiet. 

DAY 11

Harry's Hairy Crime Rating: E, Word count: 7,889 Summary: Draco and Harry are both famous fashion models, top of the industry in London. Harry makes a sudden change to his appearance that everyone in the fashion industry absolutely hates, and Draco is sure he'll finally become the number one model. The very hairy emotions Harry's new style is making Draco feel, is not what he had in mind...

[ART] Prophet Rating: G, Art Medium: digital, ibis paintx Summary: Fine shyt (Draco Malfoy) winking at the camera, featured in the prophet.

DAY 12

[ART] Harry ‘minuteman’ Potter Rating: E, Art Medium: Digital Art Summary: Digital art for your eyeballs to feast. The devil is in the details. Harry Potter is a mad stalker, completely obsessed with Draco Malfoy. Draco expects as much, obviously. aka Harry can get it but doesn't know what to do with it, type shit.