Chocolate forever

John Dashwood in Sense & Sensibility is great example. He is very self interested, but he doesn't want to be viewed poorly in society:

He was not an ill-disposed young man, unless to be rather cold hearted and rather selfish is to be ill-disposed: but he was, in general, well respected; for he conducted himself with propriety in the discharge of his ordinary duties.

As much as I really doubt he cares at all about his stepmother and three half sisters, he's not going to throw them out of the house until they've found somewhere good to stay because he doesn't want it to reflect poorly on himself. He won't actually do much for them, but he also won't do them active harm, because that is the action of maximal self interest. Yet he's still very much an antagonist and causes pain.

Caroline Bingley of Pride & Prejudice "dropped all her resentment" because self interest is more important to her than cruelty. She may not like Elizabeth Darcy or be happy about Jane Bingley, but she will not prioritize snarky comments above her all important connections. Self interest wins.

In Elizabeth Gaskell's Wives and Daughters, the new Mrs. Gibson, Hyacinth Clare, does not care about her stepdaughter Molly at all. However, self interest dictates that she treats Molly well, because she doesn't want to disrupt her relationship with Molly's father or become talked about as a cruel stepmother in the town. She is a very selfish character, I honestly doubt she cares if Molly or her own daughter Cynthia live or die, but that self interest dictates that she give at least the appearance of kindness. She still causes a lot of distress in Molly through her "kindness," because it is rooted in selfishness.

I think this fact makes the whole message of the story “sisterhood is more important than men” and “we live in a misogynistic society that punishes women even for simple mistakes while leaves men untouched even when they are the true culprits of severe crimes” more powerful.

Say enough, say enough

Did I let her know, let her know?

If I found my body in chains

I'd lay down and wait

And hope she looks for me

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Knives produced by Japanese blacksmith Akira Yamashita in the shapes of Sperm Whale, Minke Whale, Fin Whale, and Bryde Whale (from top to bottom)