Rad-Leaning Trans Man (Side Blog)

people act like that's really hard but its really not considering all you have to do is have female default when asking "what can we do to help these people" rather than male default. at least 50% of whatever group you're talking about is probably women. further: helping women will help the children too.

Racial segregation was put in place to alienate, disenfranchise, degrade, and control Black people in America. Any spaces that were accessible to Black people were usually put in inconvenient places and made with lesser quality. They could be jailed, beaten, or murdered for daring to use white facilities for ANY reason.

Black men and women have the same needs as White men and women. Segregating schools, restaurants, water fountains, and public areas was not for the protection of either class. It was meant to oppress. This is not the same as women fighting for their own protected spaces.

Sex segregated things like bathrooms, locker rooms, gyms and even schools emerged from the fact women were literally not allowed to be there in the first place. Feminists had to fight for a public bathroom, they had to fight for the right to an education. Even when women were legally allowed to have jobs and attend school they were subjected to mass amounts of sexual and physical violence.

Women created female only spaces for themselves. For their protection in public spaces that they have every right to occupy. Black women have the same need and right to safety from men that White women do.

Trans women are not being denied access to public spaces. They never have been. They can use public bathrooms, locker rooms, and gyms. They have never historically been banned from getting an education, having a job, being able to vote, getting an abortion, or owning property. They never had to use a 'trans only' water fountain, lest they be jailed or beaten.

Trans women just want access to female only spaces because it validates their identity. It doesn't offer them any real opportunities that they didnt have before. This is why its racist to compare the plight of Black women to Trans women. It completely ignores the aspect of sex based oppression. Trans women have the privilege of being born male. They have never had to experience sex based oppression and they never will.

Sometimes when an action makes NO sense to us ("he's like a stupid alien"), it's bc we are not understanding its true motivation/purpouse. If his goal was control, financial pressure and limiting her options due to lack of funds, it makes perfect sensie to buy the truck.

This is classic abuser behavior: maneuver the partner into a situation where they feel trapped and cannot escape. The timing on this is too perfect; he saw her gaining agency & power in the relationship and moved to short circuit that.

I am SO GLAD she got out.

If this happens to you, try reaching out to friends & family first. Chances are they've been watching your situation and are aching to help, but have felt powerless. I can't tell you how many times I've watched this scenario unfold. Ask. For. Help. Nobody will judge you, and they're probably waiting for you to make a move. People notice abuse and want to help.

if you feel truly alone, start out with some free online resources.

this is genuinely rapey conversion therapy language & i can't believe other lesbians (pick me-bians) enable this rhetoric.

we keep being told that "genital preferences are okay/valid", but this coercive language is what we are met with & what we see. it's like we've forgotten that everything other than an enthusiastic yes is NOT consent.

if everyone is calling the homosexual lesbians expressing concern, transphobic, then how can they say no and practice homosexuality openly?

(keyword is: they can't)

"ability" to be sexually assaulted is insane language.

this new notion of trans women being better at womanhood because they don't go through the fear and pessimism of living the reality of "womahood" in today's society.... is so... so misogynistic.

imagine looking in the eyes of one of those afghan girls who said they hate being a woman, or an exhausted mother, or a young girl being picked on by boys in school and saying this to them.

essentially, if you're not a toxicly positive bimbo who "enjoys" her womanhood despite all the violence & hatred she gets from society, you're doing the whole woman thing wrong.

i hear men say they like misandrists bc they interpret it as playing hard to get great so some girls fake misandry just to get men's attention now too huh

Darling, you're completely missing the point.

It's not "evil feminazis treat femininity as inferior". Patriarchy collected 'inferior' attributes — more precisely, 'attributes which are usually related to being submissive rather than being dominant, being passive rather than being assertive, being a slaver rather than being a master, and therefore useful tools for controlling and belittling others' — and labeled them as feminine.

Skirts, high heels, long hair, and wearing makeup are not inherently feminine. Being petite or slender or curvy isn't inherently feminine. Being quiet and gentle and docile isn't inherently feminine. These things are the reins that help men control and domesticate women as they like. 'Feminine' clothes and makeups restrain women from physically using their body freely; 'feminine' body requires women to go through various things which are dangerously unhealthy or completely unnecessary; women being quiet, submissive and passive make them easier targets for men to control; etc etc. These kinds of 'femininity' are the signs of a slave.

And misogynists say that feminists who criticize these things are misogynistic for talking bad about femininity and tomboys who don't want these things are actually trans or non-bi or genderfluid or whatever other bullshit for refusing femininity.

Fuck it, really.

Those things don't define being female. Not wanting those things doesn't mean we refuse to be female or secretly want to be male. That means we want to be human. Not a collective concept of frilly clothes and makeups and slender, hairless body and submission but fucking human.

And wanted to make some corrections and follow ups to it. The comments claimed this is what TERFs are all about and completely ignored the fact that TERFs do not exist.

TERFs aren't real. Radical feminists are real - radical means "root." The "root" cause of why the feminism movement exists is because female people are oppressed by male people on the axis of sex. It's plenty inclusive because it includes all female people.

Should "Sit pretty and shut up"

Should be assaulted for what they're saying

Have no meaningful thoughts

Are only good for having sex with

Are only good for getting pregnant

Should be impregnated as a punishment

Only exist to serve others

Are being "bitchy" for being upset

Are making up the problems they're talking about

Are too stupid to talk about their own experiences

Must be exaggerating the extent of the treatment they face

And are too stupid to be in control of their own bodies

IS NOT FEMINISM!!!

You are repeating misogynistic rhetoric, and are a piece of shit.

You cannot be a feminist while using "bitch", "cunt", "whiny", and "hysterical", as insults.

When we say “this space is for women and nonbinary people” they get mad because nonbinary people aren’t woman-lite!!1!11

When we say “this space is for female people” they get mad because that’s bioessentialism for some reason

When we say “this space is for those assigned female at birth” yeah you guessed it. Still bioessentialism. Yeah acknowledging that female human beings exist at all is bioessentialism actually.