Rad-Leaning Trans Man (Side Blog)

this is genuinely rapey conversion therapy language & i can't believe other lesbians (pick me-bians) enable this rhetoric.

we keep being told that "genital preferences are okay/valid", but this coercive language is what we are met with & what we see. it's like we've forgotten that everything other than an enthusiastic yes is NOT consent.

if everyone is calling the homosexual lesbians expressing concern, transphobic, then how can they say no and practice homosexuality openly?

(keyword is: they can't)

"ability" to be sexually assaulted is insane language.

this new notion of trans women being better at womanhood because they don't go through the fear and pessimism of living the reality of "womahood" in today's society.... is so... so misogynistic.

imagine looking in the eyes of one of those afghan girls who said they hate being a woman, or an exhausted mother, or a young girl being picked on by boys in school and saying this to them.

essentially, if you're not a toxicly positive bimbo who "enjoys" her womanhood despite all the violence & hatred she gets from society, you're doing the whole woman thing wrong.

i hear men say they like misandrists bc they interpret it as playing hard to get great so some girls fake misandry just to get men's attention now too huh

Darling, you're completely missing the point.

It's not "evil feminazis treat femininity as inferior". Patriarchy collected 'inferior' attributes — more precisely, 'attributes which are usually related to being submissive rather than being dominant, being passive rather than being assertive, being a slaver rather than being a master, and therefore useful tools for controlling and belittling others' — and labeled them as feminine.

Skirts, high heels, long hair, and wearing makeup are not inherently feminine. Being petite or slender or curvy isn't inherently feminine. Being quiet and gentle and docile isn't inherently feminine. These things are the reins that help men control and domesticate women as they like. 'Feminine' clothes and makeups restrain women from physically using their body freely; 'feminine' body requires women to go through various things which are dangerously unhealthy or completely unnecessary; women being quiet, submissive and passive make them easier targets for men to control; etc etc. These kinds of 'femininity' are the signs of a slave.

And misogynists say that feminists who criticize these things are misogynistic for talking bad about femininity and tomboys who don't want these things are actually trans or non-bi or genderfluid or whatever other bullshit for refusing femininity.

Fuck it, really.

Those things don't define being female. Not wanting those things doesn't mean we refuse to be female or secretly want to be male. That means we want to be human. Not a collective concept of frilly clothes and makeups and slender, hairless body and submission but fucking human.

And wanted to make some corrections and follow ups to it. The comments claimed this is what TERFs are all about and completely ignored the fact that TERFs do not exist.

TERFs aren't real. Radical feminists are real - radical means "root." The "root" cause of why the feminism movement exists is because female people are oppressed by male people on the axis of sex. It's plenty inclusive because it includes all female people.

Should "Sit pretty and shut up"

Should be assaulted for what they're saying

Have no meaningful thoughts

Are only good for having sex with

Are only good for getting pregnant

Should be impregnated as a punishment

Only exist to serve others

Are being "bitchy" for being upset

Are making up the problems they're talking about

Are too stupid to talk about their own experiences

Must be exaggerating the extent of the treatment they face

And are too stupid to be in control of their own bodies

IS NOT FEMINISM!!!

You are repeating misogynistic rhetoric, and are a piece of shit.

You cannot be a feminist while using "bitch", "cunt", "whiny", and "hysterical", as insults.

When we say “this space is for women and nonbinary people” they get mad because nonbinary people aren’t woman-lite!!1!11

When we say “this space is for female people” they get mad because that’s bioessentialism for some reason

When we say “this space is for those assigned female at birth” yeah you guessed it. Still bioessentialism. Yeah acknowledging that female human beings exist at all is bioessentialism actually.

This is how society views female genitalia. They don't quite view it as a human organ in all the integrity that would insinuate. They view it kinda like an accessory to dick. It's defined in relation to dick- not defined by its own self. It's viewed as like a negative space juxtaposed to a positive object (dick). It's viewed as like the background to the main character (dick). It's not seen fully as its own thing with its own functions for its own right and its own integrity. Because of this, something interesting happens with the way people view women- we are seen both as sex objects, and as sexless objects simultaneously. This is the heart of why women aren't seen as fully human, in my opinion. Part of being human is having genitalia. Women aren't fully seen as having genitalia.

The other day I had a man openly admit to me that when I said I would not like a dick pic, it made him want to do it more. When I asked why, he responded "idk, just made me want to pick on you".

Research has shown that men are far more likely to develop PTSD due to a standalone traumatic event compared to women who — as stated — are more likely to develop CPTSD due to prolonged traumatic events.

While different studies or papers will report slightly different numbers, all agree that women are more “tormented” by daily life than men and thus develop worse mental illness due to it. This study in particular even states that “cisgender women are 2 to 3 times more likely to develop PTSD and CPTSD than men, even when exposed to similar trauma types.”

TLDR; being a cis woman in the world is so traumatic we are 2 to 3 times more likely to develop PTSD than a man by simply living in the world with them.

male gaze under patriarchy changes the brain

objectification diminishes brain capacity

i think you've VERY fundamentally misunderstood the point of my post tbh

men and boys first and foremost hurt themselves to avoid being perceived as their lessers (i.e. women and gay men)

— The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love (2004), p. 66, by bell hooks

the entire point of the of the post is that i'm not going to sympathize with men experiencing "rituals of power that will assault his self-esteem" when that self-esteem is built on and maintained by the foundational belief they must be inherently superior to me

if they gave up that belief, those "rituals" would have very little power. but they clearly understand that they benefit from patriarchy more than they are harmed by it, which is why they won't let it go