Rad-Leaning Trans Man (Side Blog)

If misogyny was only just “hatred of the feminine” a supposedly mystic state of being rather than oppressive norms, women could opt out at any time by simply not conforming. This is so clearly and painfully untrue almost as if… Sex-based oppression exists

and in fact, refusing to conform to/perform femininity often makes things WORSE for females.

it’s almost like the thing that makes oppression so horrific is that you cannot opt out of it. because the system of oppression relies on immutable characteristics to effectively oppress people.

what really gets me is that marriage has historically been a form of sexual slavery and we're just supposed to forget that, go along with the traditions and have men complain about modern marriage being unfair to THEM. in my mother tongue, the word for husband is still the same word as "owner". when she was maybe four or five years old, and my mom called our dad her husband, my baby sister got so angry she threw and shattered the glass she was holding and said "he's not your owner you're not a dog" but now she's almost twelve and has learned to accept it. it's all so transparent a young child can see how fucked up it is, and by the time that child hits puberty she will be trained out of thinking critically about marriage

okay if you guys are going to reblog this i feel the need to add that marriage is very much still a form of sexual slavery for a lot of women to this day and probably closer to you than you think if you live in a first world country

To my international friends: If you ever wonder why Americans are the way they are, just remember that 1/3rd of all US citizens are in a cult that teaches them to suppress the activity of their prefrontal cortex, particularly when it comes to doubt, critical thinking, and differentiating emotional responses from personal values.

do not spout the line 'you are not immune to propaganda' if you just unquestionably accepted ideas of gender. gender is a social construct that should be abolished not reinforced. creating more genders does not take away the oppressive nature. queer culture can be incredibly damaging and misogynistic to women.

the erasure of the rape element in mythological retellings is so heinous it borders on misogyny

it’s the idea that because rape as an act is misogyny, that talking about rape or including it in stories is also misogyny. as if acknowledging that women were denied agency and dignity somehow further denies us agency and dignity. when really, acknowledging the ways women were/are denied agency and dignity affirms that we are entitled to these things. a feminist story isn’t just a story in which no bad things happen to women. bad things do happen to women. pretending they don’t, and especially trying to superimpose that conviction onto the past, just because it isn’t as fun to dwell on, is not a feminist position.

Literally every modern retelling that ignores Persephone was kidnapped and raped (and forced to marry her rapist). I can't recall even ONE story based on this myth that at least vaguely implies the actual rape element

there is a generation of young lesbian and gay kids who do not know it’s okay and natural to be attracted to members of your own sex. they are being put through online conversion therapy by queer hets telling them that if they aren’t open sexually to someone of the opposite sex they are bigots. that a metaphysical concept of gender id trumps the actual physical body. these queer hets will outgrow this phase, return to their normal heterosexual lives, and they will laugh about this as if it isn’t gonna leave behind a bunch of young traumatized homosexuals.

Does anyone know any newish radfem or rad leaning books? Like 2010's to present day.

Why Women Are Blamed For Everything by Dr Jessica Taylor, about the psychology of victim blaming. Grim but straightforward reading. It’s been years since I read it, but also Natasha Walter’s Living Dolls, about the hypersexualisation of young women and return of misogyny as ‘empowerment’. Also Testosterone Rex by Cordelia Fine, about the science of sex differences.

"The Baby Business: How Money, Science, and Politics Drive the Commerce of Conception" by Debora Spar (2006) is a little older but it's a fascinating critique of surrogacy and the fertility industry as a whole

Lesbians: Where are we now? by Julie Bindel (2025)

You know what I'm sick of? It's actually not "healthy masculinity" to stand up for the vulnerable, or call out your peers, or whatever. Any of that stuff would be the healthy and right choice for anyone. Why do men need to be convinced with gendered language before they'll do the right thing? If a man does something supportive of women but refers back to his sense of gender identity as the justification, he's still just as absorbed in self worship and superiority as a man who openly acts entitled to women.

Imo both of these people are describing genuine phenomenons, but neither are able to reconcile how the phenomenons are able to exist at once, because they're not seeing it as gendered. Teenage boys/young men are indeed using more porn than ever and teenage girls/young women indeed feel more than ever ashamed for having sexual desires. There also seems to be a sub-split between older gen z, where the girls are ashamed in the typical "puritan" sense; and younger gen z, where they are sexual, but only because they're super super into their own objectification. Either way, they're both based in the idea that sex is for men and men alone. All of these things can coexist for one obvious reason. I think holding young men accountable for being porn addicts and getting young women to unlearn the demonization of sexual desire are two sides of the same coin

id also add that the shame women and girls feel is directly a result from boys and men normalizing the objectification of women and hypersexualization of women and girls

when we say that "minority men aren't oppressed for being men theyre oppressed for [insert other minority]", what we mean is that what these men are experiencing is racism, ableism, homophobia, etc, not misandry, not a form of sexism. the way racism ableism and homophobia manifest is different between moc/woc, disabled men/disabled women, gay men/lesbians because the way the patriarchy, racism and class society interact relies on stereotypes about maleness that say some men are less worthy than others, but that still posit minority men on top of minority women. which means these men are not oppressed for being men, but for being part of a minority group. if anything that’s the opposite of setting men as the default bc this sentence acknowledges how minority women are put in an even more vulnerable position than minority men bc of the intersection of sex race and class and are often even victimized by the men of their group