Wangari Maathai

When a child would be born it’s biological sex, being an actual physical reality, would be noticed but not a single assumption regarding the child’s personality would be made based on it.

Growing up, children would be free to chose what toys and clothes they prefer. If they want to play with toy trucks or dolls, it would be fine either way. If they want to dress comfortably or in frilly colorful dresses, it would be fine.

Certain personality traits would not be encouraged in members of one sex and discouraged in the other. Females would be free to be strong, brave and assertive and males would not be shamed for being shy and soft spoken.

No female child would be called a tomboy and no male child would be called a sissy. No kid would ever be bullied for what we in our gendered world call “gender expression”.

When children would reach puberty they would still be free to dress how they want. Females would not be pressured to wear clothes that reveal their bodies and males would not be shamed if they chose to. Everybody would have a free choice of accessories, which would not be categorized as “men’s” or “women’s” but people could should whichever they liked. Or chose to not wear accessories at all if that’s what they are more comfortable with.

Females would not be pressured to keep their bodies slim, soft and hairless. Males would not be pressured to be athletic and muscular. Expectations of femininity and masculinity upon the body would not exist and affect negatively people’s relationship with their own body.

Everyone could choose a career without fearing stigmatization within that particular field because of their biological sex. The most important thing would be competence and not what someone has between their legs.

Domestic work would not be considered “women’s work” and would be shared equally between the sexes.

Biological sex would only be thought about when relevant. And everyone would be free to be themselves without ever having to worry about gender expectations. Nobody would feel the need to repress certain parts of their personality and exaggerate others in order to fit into some gender role that is being forced on them.

Gender abolitionism is not about restricting people’s choices but about giving them greater freedom.

Racial segregation was put in place to alienate, disenfranchise, degrade, and control Black people in America. Any spaces that were accessible to Black people were usually put in inconvenient places and made with lesser quality. They could be jailed, beaten, or murdered for daring to use white facilities for ANY reason.

Black men and women have the same needs as White men and women. Segregating schools, restaurants, water fountains, and public areas was not for the protection of either class. It was meant to oppress. This is not the same as women fighting for their own protected spaces.

Sex segregated things like bathrooms, locker rooms, gyms and even schools emerged from the fact women were literally not allowed to be there in the first place. Feminists had to fight for a public bathroom, they had to fight for the right to an education. Even when women were legally allowed to have jobs and attend school they were subjected to mass amounts of sexual and physical violence.

Women created female only spaces for themselves. For their protection in public spaces that they have every right to occupy. Black women have the same need and right to safety from men that White women do.

Trans women are not being denied access to public spaces. They never have been. They can use public bathrooms, locker rooms, and gyms. They have never historically been banned from getting an education, having a job, being able to vote, getting an abortion, or owning property. They never had to use a 'trans only' water fountain, lest they be jailed or beaten.

Trans women just want access to female only spaces because it validates their identity. It doesn't offer them any real opportunities that they didnt have before. This is why its racist to compare the plight of Black women to Trans women. It completely ignores the aspect of sex based oppression. Trans women have the privilege of being born male. They have never had to experience sex based oppression and they never will.

and that made me think of what Kajsa Ekis Ekman said about the trade unions that consider prostitution to be work and prostituted women to be workers: they offer trainings about condom use and spend millions of dollars funding "worker peer education" about "safe sex".

So one again, it's prostituted women who are held responsible for the spreading and the prevention of STDs - not the johns, not the pimps. the prostituted women, many of them victims of sex trafficking. "As human trafficking expert Malka Marcovich has pointed out, this means a return to nineteenth-century ideals of hygiene, where the onus was “primarily on the women to take responsibility for the health of ‘the customer’, so diseases would not be spread to their families” (2007, p. 347)."

To claim that patriarchy happens basically at random to a group of people who claim an “identity” with no discernible common characteristics, to the benefit of no one, is insane. It happens to women, with the intent of exploiting our reproductive potential, and this fact necessitates recognizing the importance of what women have in common.

There is no reason for this to be controversial, except that to name this reality makes certain men very angry. Men have always valued their own feelings and desires over the wellbeing and liberation of women, and they have always felt comfortable defining our experiences for us to their own benefit. Because being truly female is something they cannot actually attain, and the oppression of female people does not affect them, they feel comfortable demanding that femaleness now be defined by claiming it as one’s own on no basis of experience whatsoever, and that true female-specific concerns and experiences be silenced for their comfort.

 
-sekhet is for infertile and gay men. if you can’t make babies you’re an entirely different gender.

 
-ashtime is for men who are infertile who were forced to live as women.

 
-out of all the north and south american indigenous alternative genders (there are several) only the Ninauposkitzipxpe were women allowed to live as men

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-hijra is for gay or infertile men or even fucking women who can’t bear young and they’re treated like DIRT.


-yinyang ren is for someone who doesn’t conform to either gender role or fluctuates between both. any woman who doesn’t shave or any man drawn to makeup can no longer be their sex, they are “others”


-köçek, oman, metis, acault, chuckchis, fa'afafine, Mukhannathun? all reserved for men. only men are allowed to go against their gender role, but even then they are denied their manhood and are treated as “others” despite their will most of the time.


-in afghanistan and pakistan, when a family doesn’t have a son, they raise their daughter as a bacha posh, or a male, until she’s of marrying age. because if she’s not a man, the only other thing she’s useful for is marriage

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-burrnesha were women forced to live a life of celibacy and “manliness”


-femminello even means “little man woman” for trans woman. 

And I think people also don't understand how much more severe sex based oppression is around the world. They think the patriarchy is men being mean to men. That the only spaces we have are bathrooms, that that's radical. But trans activists have already destroyed rape shelters because they weren't allowed to work there. I can't imagine what they would do to FGM shelters. Would they insist they become nurses and leaders at these female-only schools, where tweens and teen girls need guidance on very specific female issues?