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hair, be it on my legs, arms, armpits, face or pubic area is not radical.

my bare face is not radical.

my fat & my rolls are not radical.

my skin without layers of lathered on serums and creams is not radical.

my visible pores, circles under my eyes, acne, be it hormonal or anything else, are not radical.

the natural form of the human body is just what it is; human. and i will not be selling it to young people and women as punk or grunge, as a movement, or as a radical statement made.

this is the mundane, the norm, the every day, the reality, my existence. embrace it, live it.

you just can't reason with a group of people who base so much of their ideology & decisions based on their feefees. so, pretty much every response will be inflammatory and reactionary.

& look, i'm not saying radfems never argue out of very real emotions, but there is a clear & observable pattern.

TIF comments on a post about "phallophobia" and womyn being afraid of penises, bathroom debate, so on and so forth. can we guess the replies?

lots of infighting it seems.

between who? that doesn't matter, certainly. right?

they're almost getting it...

and we lost them, yeah.

like, oh my god, if you're not deluding yourself it's glaringly obvious.

TIFs need to stop the cope & realize obviously TRAs see them as stupid blabbering females invading the dude bro oppression circejerk with their stupid blabbering female opinions.

this isn't the first instance, and isn't even rare at all, we see TIMs malding & screeching over TIFs existing basically. lmao.

it is by a group called "labrysz" which is so ironic.

it was specifically advertised as a lesbian feminist event, and i was so excited to make friends but it clearly wasn't my group of people.

i didn't want to be too explicit, but now i'd like to highlight how fetishy a lot of the people dressed up. especially the TIM who stood up in anger.

he was in pigtails, fishnets, some anime-ish/hentai shirt and those amazon skirts with a harness. like, so, stereotypical.

TERFs were mentioned, homosexual lesbians were called bigoted, the non binary speaker said that they felt ostracized by the lesbians in my city when they came out as a transmasc non binary. the one radical feminist adjacent woman "rejected" being called it though.

bathrooms & changing rooms were mentioned, the room went still and quiet. only i was nodding because the woman was saying trans women shouldn't be going where they aren't invited. the other attendees side eyes her like crazy, really.

the two romani women barely got any attention when they spoke about charities and women's shelters.

another audience member asked them to not mention menstruation so much, and make the conversation more gender neutral.

i asked a question about choice feminism and OF, which the more radfem lady agreed and said they have no place in feminism. so big win in that. 🙌

If only I saw the warning signs then. But teens are fools and so was I.

Explains so much of their behaviors. Women will never feel safe in the name of inclusivity

i also had a TIM classmate in high school. we were friends.

i was very GNC in high school, i looked very masculine and i was often mistaken for a younger boy which never really bothered me.

she would insist i am non binary though, and then gradually started convincing me i am a trans guy, would show me binders and everything.

stereotypes that otherwise are tools to oppress women all over the world.

but here we are, in a predicament, where an entire ideology is built on the idea of upholding these stereotypes as an identity to take up. it's fundamentally incompatible with feminism.

& how is it gender abolitionism if the ideology itself upholds gender as an expression of oneself?

i'm all about supporting female artists, and whilst i was a kpop fan i primarily supported and streamed female kpop idol groups. as i grew and watched the kpop fandom evolve, i became more and more disgusted with how korea's misogynistic obsession with beauty is affecting the majority female following base of the genre.

these girls are getting skinnier and skinnier, looking deathly bone thin, with OBVIOUS (largely undisclosed) plastic surgery & beauty modifications that they sell to young viewers as attainable through overconsuming k-beauty, k-fashion and partaking in crazy diet culture. (diet culture being eating disorder culture, but anyway.)

for those who haven't delved deep into the fandom, there's this thought terminating (sometimes un-) spoken rule: never mention/critique physical appearance because it's body shaming. which is insane, and creates this echo-camber of "actually, looking skeletal and "plastic" is normal and completely natural". it's insane how easily one becomes brainwashed into thinking the amount of hiatuses and breaks between public appearances/filmings is anxiety or illness related and totally not for plastic surgery recovery.

unfortunately as a 22 young adult i still become self conscious when i get a video of a kpop girl on my feed, and i have to reality check myself with what that girl is going through, and what she's trading in life to look that way.

i'm surprised i don't see more people addressing the "wonyoungism" pipeline to "wltok", which is the mostly underaged kpop tiktok equivalent to edtwt, which is somehow even worse due to the addictive nature of the tiktok algorithm.

if you know any young girl or young woman who over-consumes kpop, please talk to her. chances are she thinks the way these women and underage idols look is normal, and can't see that they are ALL underweight. there is not one ideally/normally weighted idol in the industry, like genuinely.