"Making peace with not transitioning because your partner wouldn't like it is valid" is an attempt at conversion therapy btw. Just so you know.
"Valid" isn't worth anything. Valid isn't a substitute for self-determination. You can maximize your validity and feel literally nothing because validity doesn't factor in that the urge to transition can't be satisfied without actually doing something.
One of the healthiest things you can do as a trans person is to let go of the idea that "valid" is something you want or need to be. Focus on what you want to do.
