Mental Macinations

me, quietly whispering to the ao3 page of an author who doesn’t even know I exist: I am obsessed with you

me, whispering to the ao3 page of an author who hasn’t updated anything in four years: I think about you often and I hope you’re alright

me, whispering to the ao3 page of an author who wrote one life altering banger and nothing else: I hope your pillow is cool and your skin is clear and you find money in a forgotten jeans pocket

me, whispering to every single person on this post: please leave one singular comment saying literally any of that

Also another thing that bothers me about hetero culture is that because wanting children is seen as the only correct way of being, that means that when someone who has never before wanted children suddenly changes their mind and dives head-first into parenthood, it's not seen as a sudden personality change and reckless behavior, which is a red flag that they might be having a mental health crisis. People just think "oh thank god, they've finally fixed themselves" even when someone is very noticeably going through some sort of personal crisis, like couples who have a kid after getting to the brink of divorce in hopes of fixing their relationship (which ofc always ends well for both them and the kid s/) or if your trans friend gets together with a new partner and immediately gets pregnant, quits their job and detransitions. Nobody will even ask them if they're ok.

There's no socially acceptable way to say "I noticed that you've suddenly started following the default heteronormative social script to a T in a way that you always said would be your worst nightmare, what's going on?".

sorry to be part of the elitist intelligentsia but i do think you have to read the text you have an opinion on if you expect your opinion to be taken seriously

It's incredibly sad people have to resort to this, but it's a damn good resource. Use it. Spread awareness. Maybe one day people with physical disabilities won't need DIYs like this. But until then, reblog and share.

possible ways this could go wrong: 0

"they'll never see it coming" & they fuckin DONT

developing the hots for ryan gosling because of project hail mary is so fucking embarrassing I swear to god. that is a conventionally attractive man. a noted hollywood heartthrob. he's even blond, are you kidding me? did he win people magazine's sexiest man alive? I don't know. I'm not going to check but it wouldn't surprise me at this point. it's such a mainstream taste. such a clichéd celebrity crush. like oh I fancy ryan gosling and my favourite drink is coca-cola and my favourite snack is ready salted crisps. jesus christ. 'b-b-but i only like him when he's in a science pun tshirt and playing a dorky-awkward loner type!' doesn't matter. he's still ryan 'ken from barbie' gosling. it's so trite. I feel like the weird nerd girl in a teen coming-of-age romcom falling for the super popular jock. don't I know that I have a reputation to uphold here? cringe.

That was me; size one tall, always hungry and passed out multiple times

For all its faults Tumblr has truly ruined all other social media for me because my friends all have Instagram and are all trying to get me on Instagram more but every time I open Instagram there are like fifteen things screaming for my attention and when I get over myself long enough to start scrolling it's like. Where is my chronological dash. Where is the following-only option. Who are these people. Why are there so many videos. Everyone is screaming at me. And then before I know it I'm thirty minutes into scrolling and I haven't seen a single thing that I actually care about. At least on Tumblr when I see stuff I don't care about I know someone I follow has found a new interest.

What wait WHAT

learning that providing people with food when they're experiencing a huge life change has really revolutionised my supportive gift-giving techniques and it works every single time. you've just moved house? takeaway gift card. you have a new baby? takeaway gift card. you're suffering a bereavement? guess what. takeaway gift card. have one evening of not having to thing about cooking or groceries or meal planning. take a little breathing space.

you think that you're so alone in the world then you read literature from hundreds of years ago and you realize that other people have always felt this way