I got 99 problems Madeleine & Joey are all of them

i agree and i made a generator! if someone wants to do something with this please be my guest 🤗 https://perchance.org/trekrarepairs

2) slapping random trek characters together and trying to make it make sense at least for the course of a drabble is my favourite thing

The tournament has ended, and we have our winner!

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1st place: Year of Hell

2nd place: Night

3rd place: The Killing Game

4th place: Scientific Method

5th-8th place: Deadlock, Resolutions, Counterpoint, Relativity

9th-16th place: Threshold, Macrocosm, The Q and the Grey, Future’s End, Worst Case Scenario, Scorpion, Timeless, Bride of Chaotica!

17th-25th place: Meld, Death Wish, The Thaw, Coda, Waking Moments, Message in a Bottle, One, Latent Image, Equinox

26th-44th place: Caretaker, Parallax, Eye of the Needle, Prime Factors, Emanations, Resistance, Dreadnought, Day of Honor, Concerning Flight, Living Witness, Dark Frontier, Course: Oblivion, Barge of the Dead, Blink of an Eye, Child’s Play, Muse, Shattered, Workforce, Endgame

45th-80th place: The Cloud, The 37’s, Projections, Twisted, Persistence of Vision, Alliances, Prototype, Innocence, Tuvix, Flashback, The Chute, Remember, Alter Ego, Blood Fever, Distant Origins, Real Life, Displaced, The Gift, The Raven, Random Thoughts, Hunters, Demon, Drone, Extreme Risk, Once Upon a Time, Thirty Days, Nothing Human, Tinker Tailor Doctor Spy, Riddles, Memorial, One Small Step, Collective, Life Line, The Void, Lineage, Friendship One

81st-160th place: the rest of the episodes :)

how to troubleshoot by yourself when you have a technical problem

what common file types are

some very basics on how to use ""developer tools"" on your computer (because i cant think of a better way to refer to them) like task manager and command prompt (and their mac equivalents, terminal and activity monitor ofc)

how to read and understand a privacy policy and what your personal data is, as well as what it being collected actually means and steps you can take to keep it private

how to understand terms of service (hey. if you have trouble with reading legalese and worry about being able to understand these policies anyways, here's a site that gives basic summaries of privacy policies and ToS)

what a cookie actually is

internet privacy and your digital footprint!! seriously i dont know why we stopped teaching people that they shouldnt be putting their entire real identity online in a world where your online actions can ruin you irl

basic safety measures like antivirus software (and why you should use it or if the built in one on windows or mac is enough for you) and backing up your computer (also a mac guide)

common keyboard shortcuts (and on mac)

as an additional note: things i think everyone should know on computers and the internet but schools may bit hesitant to teach about for whatever moral/legal standards schools pretend to operate on

vpns and adblockers! (btw for most of these where you can pay for things im purposefully not recommending any specific software but seriously just use ublock origin for an adblocker)

how to not get a virus while pirating something

what a temporary email is and when to use one

red flags that you shouldn't trust a website (and how to quickly check the security of a site)

an online compiler so you dont need to download anything or worry about running code directly on your computer if that makes you nervous

a basic video guide to introduce you to python and walk you through beginner steps

a guide to some syntax and commands you should know (this was literally my lifeline in my first CS class)

In this hypothetical scenario, how are you feeling? A little uncomfortable, perhaps. The age gap isn’t sitting right with you, is it? Dawn being 14-16yo and Spike surpassing that by over a century; even if we don’t look at the years he spent as a vampire the age and maturity gap is still very… what’s the word? Illegal? Immoral? Predatorial? Perverted? This is a situation in which we would say the minor has been groomed

"Buffy was mature for her age." - What in the groomer justification.

"Spike was ALSO attracted to Buffy in s2 when she was underage."

JM said he played an attraction to Buffy as part of his character, correct. Whether you consider this canon confirmation or not, I don't care because --

Spike was *checks notes* a villain at this point. Remind me, what was Angel?

S2 Spike *checks notes again* didn't act on this attraction. He didn't start interacting with her like that until S4, again when he was still very much a villain (or at least demonstrably Not Being Portrayed as a Good Guy). Remind me, again, did Angel act on his attraction?

Spike didn't have a soul until S7. I can't remember, when Angel pursues Buffy, whom he canonically says he fell in love with when he first saw her (age 15 max), did he have a soul?

If you use any of these arguments to justify or downplay Angel's actions, congrats, you're an apologist.

The last one is, "Of course there are age gaps, it's vampire fiction!" And I will say this -- yes, I expect age gaps in vampire fiction. That's fine. That's a surface read. A deeper contextual read would be determining how those age gaps are presented and explored within the narrative itself.

Angel constantly uses his age and experience to both condescend to and make decisions for/about Buffy. He considers Giles a peer and Buffy a kid. He doesn't include her in any of the decisions that affect them as a couple until after he's arrived at a conclusion, then explains that he knows better in a way that completely dismisses her agency in her own life. Leaving Buffy WAS the best thing he could have done, sure, but the way he did it was extraordinarily condescending, to the point that Buffy started doubting her own heart and judgment. We don't see him treating Buffy as an equal until after they've been apart long enough for audiences to forget that this has never been their dynamic.

On the other hand, I can think of only one (ONE) time in the whole of the series run where Spike ever said, "I'm older than you," and it was in an effort to build her up, not tear her down or control her. Age gaps where the parties, regardless of age, treat and regard each other as equals? Oh no, the horror.

Age gaps where the age gap is expressly baked into the story in a way that supports the metaphor of "predatory older man preying on young girl" (you know, what Bangel was originally designed to be before they decided to keep DB around for reasons), yeah, I'mma call a groomer a groomer.

And you know what? I still support you if you know all this, accept it, but prefer Bangel to Spuffy. Because it is vampire fiction and I do not come to this fandom looking for uncomplicated, healthy relationship dynamics. In fiction, you can enjoy a lot of shit you would never condone in the real world. That's perfectly fine.

What I will argue against until I'm dead: pretending these Bangel dynamics do not exist, that Bangel is healthy, that Angel isn't a creep, that the actions of a souled "good" guy are 1-to-1 comparable with those of a unsouled bad guy, that this is just "vampire fiction" when the entire fucking show, especially in the early seasons, was monster-as-metaphor code for growing up. What other metaphor could Angel have been in S2?

For fucking real.

*mic drop*

Close the Chrome application completely before altering any files or settings.

Access the internal configuration settings by entering chrome://flags/ into the address bar and pressing Enter.

Locate the setting Enables Optimization Guide On Device and set the configuration to Disabled.

Locate the Prompt API setting and disable this option as well.

Once these flags are disabled, delete the weights.bin file, which is approximately 4 GB, from the C:Users<username>AppData>Local>Google>Chrome>User Data>OptGuideOnDeviceModel>{directory name will vary} directory.

Users should exercise caution during this process. Incorrectly modifying browser directories may adversely affect application stability. Users should ensure they understand the function of any file before deletion. Instead of deleting the file immediately, users may rename it to verify system behavior after relaunching the browser.

Some tribal owned grocers that ship:

Bow and Arrow (Ute Mountain)

Native Harvest (White Earth)

Red Lake Fishery (Red Lake)

Wozupi (Mdewakanton Dakota)

Ramona Farms (Gila River)

Tanka Bars (Oglala)

Indian Pueblo Store (Pueblos)

Twisted Cedar Wine (Cedar Paiutes)

Ute Bison (Ute)

Seka Hills Olive Oil and Vinegars (Yocha Dehe Wintun)

She Nah Nam Seafood (Nisqually)

Sakari Botanicals (Inupiaq)

Honor the Earth (? Anishinaabe)

Nett Lake Wild Rice (Boise Forte Anishinaabe)

Passamaquoddy maple (Passamaquoddy)

BONUS: coffee :)

Yeego Coffee (Navajo)

Spirit Mountain Roasting (Yuma Quechan)

Birchbark Coffee (Anishinaabe)

Honor the Earth is an organization founded by Winona Duke of the White Earth Nation (Anishinaabe/Ojibwe) with Amy Ray and Emily Saliers (LGBTQ musical duo Indigo Girls and long-time political activists.) You can buy Honor The Earth merch online to support the environmental work they do, specifically to help protest Enbridge Oil’s Line 3 Pipeline routed through tribal lands that endangers wild rice beds which are both a staple crop and sacred to Anishinaabeg.

However, Winona also heads up a hemp farm called Winona’s Hemp & Heritage Farm located on and run primarily by members of the White Earth Nation. It seeks to general local wealth for the tribe by encouraging the production of hemp as a fast-growing renewable and regenerative crop resource to be used for everything from non-plastic textiles/clothing, housing construction and insulation, food products, and CBD products! (They also grow other crops there such as heirloom varieties of corn, beans, squash, Jerusalem artichokes, potatoes, and ceremonial tobacco in an effort to help re-establish and increase tribal food sovereignty!)

They have both a brick-and-mortar shop called The Hemp Market Store and Coffee Shop in Osage MN where they sell their products and others by Indigenous-owned & -run companies! (They also sell those seasonal tribal heirloom crops there including Lakota squash and Ojibwe purple potatoes.)

it looks like some shops’ products are seasonal and arent avaliable at this time of year (november 2023), but it may be at a different season

new or fixed links in green with ✳️ emoji inactive/closed website in red with ⛔️ emoji

Grocers: from salamanderinspace’s reblog of product list

Bow and Arrow –> Cornmeal, Polenta

Native Harvest –> Maple Syrup, Plum Syrup, Coffees, Jewelry

✳️Red Lake Fishery –> fish (Walleye, Perch, Crappie, Northern, Whitefish, Smoked Fish)

✳️Nawapo (formerly Red Lake Nation Foods) –> Mixes & Batters, Teas & Coffee, Fruit spreads, Wild Rice, Personal care, Handcrafted gifts

Wozupi –> seasonal produce [no online ordering right now]

Ramona Farms –> Beans, Wheat Berries, Whole Wheat Flour, Corn Meal Products, Grits, Pinole, Chickpeas/Garbanzo beans

Tanka –> Buffalo-cranberry snacks [no online ordering right now]

✳️Indian Pueblo Store –> Housewares, Apparel, Mugs, Jewelry, Decor, Baked goods mix, etc

Twisted Cedar Wine –> Wine

Ute Bison –> Bison jerky sticks, skulls, and robes

Seka Hills –> Olive Oil, Wine, Vinegar, Nuts, Beef jerky, Honey, Body Care / Soaps, Pickled Asparagus

⛔️She Nah Nam –> [website is closed]

Sakari Farms –> Hotsauce, Tea, Seasonings, Lotions, Medicinal herbs & oils, Squash Candy

Honor the Earth –> [see the reblog above]

✳️Nett Lake Wild Rice –> Wild rice (website features recipes)

✳️Passamaquoddy maple –> Maple products (syrup, sugar, candies), Pancake and muffin mix, Seasoning

✳️Ioway Bee Farm (Iowa, recommended by watcherscrown) –> Honey, Lotions, Lip balm, Beeswax, Candles, CBD products, Honey sticks

Online retailer: partnered with some of the grocers in the list above, so you can order several grocers’ products from 1 place

✳️Tocabe (Osage, recommended by killmecoward) –> Pantry food staples

✳️Indigenous First (recommended by pingnova) –> Handmade crafts/art, Foods & Teas, Personal care, Decor, Seeds, Books, Jewelry supplies

✳️SweetGrass Trading Company (Winnebago, recommended by watcherscrown) –> Handmade crafts/art, Foods (of note: Salmon), Coffee & teas, Personal care, Books (website features recipes)

Coffee/Tea:

Yeego Coffee

✳️Spirit Mountain Roasting

Birchbark Coffee

Thunder Island Coffee

✳️Owl Lightning Coffee (Ute (?), recommended by c4-magic)

Bow & Arrow Brand, Ute Mountain Tribe

Native Harvest, White Earth Band (wild rice recipes)

Ramona Farms, Gila River (bean/corn-based recipes)

Sweetgrass Trading Co., Winnebago Tribe

I don't have a lot to say that hasn't already been said and picked over about NG specifically, but I want to address something I have seen referenced a lot in the last few days, which is "counterintuitive" responses to victimization. I have tried to write this post in pretty clinical terminology, trying not to be inflammatory or graphic, but be mindful that what follows is a discussion of sexual assault.

I am not a social worker or a psychologist, however, I am an attorney working in the criminal justice system in the US for the past ten years. I've had maybe 25-35 sex crime cases go to trial; I have probably handled several hundred. I have heard numerous experts testify on counterintuitive victim responses. I have heard numerous victims and their friends and family testify. I will try to link some good articles at the bottom.

There is a huge variability in how victims respond to assault. There is no one common response.

"Counterintuitive" responses by victims of assault are responses that the average person thinks: why on earth would someone do that if they'd been a victim? which is frequently followed by: if they were really a victim, they wouldn't have done that.

It's not that simple. Victims react in all sorts of different ways, for all sorts of different reasons, including anticipated societal reactions, cultural values, psychological health prior to the assault, support networks, severity of the assault, physical injury, conceptualization of "what counts," relationship to the perpetrator, reliance on the perpetrator, and so on. So many things.

The typical 'expected' response are those we think of when we think of PTSD, like nightmares, fear/anxiety, development of triggers, increased use of drugs or alcohol, suffering grades in school/university or suffering work performance, flashbacks, self isolation, etc, and those we think of as the legal response, like reporting to police or a hospital.

But a lot of victims don't react in those ways. In fact, "counterintuitive" is a label that should be applied to the expectations of the audience of the disclosure, not to the victim - because there is no average or typical response, so there's not really a counterintuitive one. Counterintuitive responses are actually so common that prosecutorial societies and law schools routinely educate on how to identify these responses and how to present expert testimony on these responses to jurors, who are the audience asking why on earth any victim would do that.

Here are some super common things victims of all ages may do when talking about their assault:

Laugh, giggle, or otherwise act flippantly

Flat affect - a lack of emotion

Minimization of what happened

Refusal to identify as a victim or to identify what happened to them as rape or assault ("It wasn't that bad, you're being dramatic")

Outright denying it, or talking about it with false bravado

I have seen victims of all ages do all of these things on the stand. Victims who are actively pursuing a case or who were at one point pursuing a disclosure against their abuser in front of a judge, jury, detectives, and their perpetrator will do these things. Laughing is probably the most common one I see.

Here are some super common things victims of all ages do following their assault:

Continue contact with their perpetrator, including affectionate, supportive, or loving contact, doing favors for them, sending gifts or money to them, continuing to see medical providers who assaulted them, etc. Continued contact frequently occurs even if assaults continue

Initiating sexual contact with their perpetrator

Normalizing the assault

Failing to disclose for years, even among adult victims

Disclosing and later recanting

Piecemeal disclosures - disclosing part of an assault but minimizing other parts or failing to disclose (usually the aspects perceived as more 'serious') parts of an assault

Deny that it was nonconsensual because they 'consented' under duress ("I did it so he would stop hitting me", "I did it so he wouldn't do it to someone else") or because it's shameful or embarrassing ("I thought I was too smart to ever be a victim" "I always said if this ever happened to me I would do xyz thing and I didn't" "I felt so stupid that I put myself in this situation")

These are all also things I have seen in cases I have personally worked on.

These reactions all depend a great deal on what is going on in a victim's life and how their perpetrator responds in the aftermath. Some things perpetrators may do that all count as part of a "grooming" process, which may occur before, during, and after an assault:

Threaten to harm a loved one or even themselves if the victim discloses, or blame the victim for the consequences of disclosure ("if you report I'll go to jail and who will pay for this house then")

Point out the victim's bodily reactions as indicating pleasure

Behave afterward as if it was entirely consensual, or behaving in an overtly affectionate way, doing things like texting the victim that they had a great time, would love to see you again, telling the victim how sexy or beautiful they are, telling them how special they are or how mature they are, etc

Isolate the victim or put the victim in a position to rely on the perpetrator socially, financially, or otherwise

Tell the victim no one would believe them, either relying on a distrust of police, the perpetrator's power or authority, or casting the victim as the seducer

A lot of these are done much more covertly than my straightforward recitation above. Grooming is not restricted to getting a victim ready to be assaulted; grooming is a pattern of behavior that allows a perpetrator access and safety from accusation at any point in the relationship between perpetrator and victim. A lot of this relies on shifting the burden onto the victim, which involves manipulating both the victim and the community surrounding the victim and perpetrator - remember, most sexual assaults are perpetrated by people the victims already have a relationship with, with a shared social or familial circle.

When we hear accusations of sexual assault, I think it's hugely important to remember that the current idea is to believe the victims in part because counterintuitive responses are very common and that makes it especially difficult to identify victims and sexual predators. These are all factors that contribute to failures to disclose. These are all factors that contribute to under-investigation and under-prosecution of sexual assault cases. In investigations, "believe the victims" is not intended to be a blanket conclusory statement; it's meant to be a starting point from which investigators start so they approach victims with empathy rather than suspicion. Investigators are still not very good at this. In the larger social context, "believe the victims" is intended to empower victims to come forward and to assure victims that they will not be disbelieved. As a society, we have a terribly long way to go with how victims of sexual assault are treated and how these cases are handled, but we can educate ourselves here and now so that when we hear accusations within our own communities, we can respond from a place of empathy and understanding instead of dismissal.

"No victim would ever do that" is never a true statement. "If they were really assaulted, they would have done this" or "they wouldn't have done that" is never a slam dunk conclusion. Every case is different. Every victim is different.

Here are some resources to learn more.

Victim Responses to Sexual Assault: Counterintuitive or Simply Adaptive? *note: this one is a bit old, from 2007. We understand more about victim responses now than we did in '07, but it's a good explainer.

Why Didn't They Tell? Counterintuitive Victim Behaviors * note: this one is formatted weird because it was adapted from a presentation given at a conference. Please note that there are very graphic stories of cases the speaker worked on.

Common victim behaviors of survivors of sexual assault

Rape Victims' Reactions Misunderstood by Law Enforcement

Introducing Expert Testimony to Explain Victim Behavior in Sexual and Domestic Violence Prosecutions * note: this is actually more a prosecutorial manual, but I'm including it so you can see how this works in real life, for those interested. The PDF is free, linked on the upper right.

Surprisingly, Netflix has done several series/documentaries on these issues which are fairly good. Unbelievable is a fictionalized version of a true story in which a victim was not believed by police due to her reactions, and eventually was manipulated by police into confessing that it was a false accusation. It was not a false accusation.

I use the term victim because that's the term used in my field to describe this role in litigation. Many individuals prefer the word survivor.

Although most domestic violence and sexual violence situations arise between male perpetrators and female victims, this is not always the case. DV and SV also occurs between female perpetrators and male victims, or between same sex partners. Note that victims in these dynamics are much less likely to report and much more likely to display counterintuitive responses - in same sex relationships, it may feel like a victim is 'letting down' their community; with male victims, there is a tremendous amount of shame and failure to identify behavior as abusive. We must be especially vigilant in our empathy and understanding when these victims come forward.

I'm listening to another expert testify about counterintuitive behaviors today, and I'm reminded that I didn't include resources to get help if you recognize these behaviors in yourself or in your loved ones.

In the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is a national hotline/text resource. Here is a list of resources by state. RAINN has a national sexual assault hotline. The National Sexual Violence Resource Center also maintains a list of resources.

In the UK, Victim Support has a hotline or a chat. Safeline has a hotline and a specific hotline for male victims.

Some tribal owned grocers that ship:

Bow and Arrow (Ute Mountain)

Native Harvest (White Earth)

Red Lake Fishery (Red Lake)

Wozupi (Mdewakanton Dakota)

Ramona Farms (Gila River)

Tanka Bars (Oglala)

Indian Pueblo Store (Pueblos)

Twisted Cedar Wine (Cedar Paiutes)

Ute Bison (Ute)

Seka Hills Olive Oil and Vinegars (Yocha Dehe Wintun)

She Nah Nam Seafood (Nisqually)

Sakari Botanicals (Inupiaq)

Honor the Earth (? Anishinaabe)

Nett Lake Wild Rice (Boise Forte Anishinaabe)

Passamaquoddy maple (Passamaquoddy)

BONUS: coffee :)

Yeego Coffee (Navajo)

Spirit Mountain Roasting (Yuma Quechan)

Birchbark Coffee (Anishinaabe)

Honor the Earth is an organization founded by Winona Duke of the White Earth Nation (Anishinaabe/Ojibwe) with Amy Ray and Emily Saliers (LGBTQ musical duo Indigo Girls and long-time political activists.) You can buy Honor The Earth merch online to support the environmental work they do, specifically to help protest Enbridge Oil’s Line 3 Pipeline routed through tribal lands that endangers wild rice beds which are both a staple crop and sacred to Anishinaabeg.

However, Winona also heads up a hemp farm called Winona’s Hemp & Heritage Farm located on and run primarily by members of the White Earth Nation. It seeks to general local wealth for the tribe by encouraging the production of hemp as a fast-growing renewable and regenerative crop resource to be used for everything from non-plastic textiles/clothing, housing construction and insulation, food products, and CBD products! (They also grow other crops there such as heirloom varieties of corn, beans, squash, Jerusalem artichokes, potatoes, and ceremonial tobacco in an effort to help re-establish and increase tribal food sovereignty!)

They have both a brick-and-mortar shop called The Hemp Market Store and Coffee Shop in Osage MN where they sell their products and others by Indigenous-owned & -run companies! (They also sell those seasonal tribal heirloom crops there including Lakota squash and Ojibwe purple potatoes.)

it looks like some shops’ products are seasonal and arent avaliable at this time of year (november 2023), but it may be at a different season

new or fixed links in green with ✳️ emoji inactive/closed website in red with ⛔️ emoji

Grocers: from salamanderinspace’s reblog of product list

Bow and Arrow –> Cornmeal, Polenta

Native Harvest –> Maple Syrup, Plum Syrup, Coffees, Jewelry

✳️Red Lake Fishery –> fish (Walleye, Perch, Crappie, Northern, Whitefish, Smoked Fish)

✳️Nawapo (formerly Red Lake Nation Foods) –> Mixes & Batters, Teas & Coffee, Fruit spreads, Wild Rice, Personal care, Handcrafted gifts

Wozupi –> seasonal produce [no online ordering right now]

Ramona Farms –> Beans, Wheat Berries, Whole Wheat Flour, Corn Meal Products, Grits, Pinole, Chickpeas/Garbanzo beans

Tanka –> Buffalo-cranberry snacks [no online ordering right now]

✳️Indian Pueblo Store –> Housewares, Apparel, Mugs, Jewelry, Decor, Baked goods mix, etc

Twisted Cedar Wine –> Wine

Ute Bison –> Bison jerky sticks, skulls, and robes

Seka Hills –> Olive Oil, Wine, Vinegar, Nuts, Beef jerky, Honey, Body Care / Soaps, Pickled Asparagus

⛔️She Nah Nam –> [website is closed]

Sakari Farms –> Hotsauce, Tea, Seasonings, Lotions, Medicinal herbs & oils, Squash Candy

Honor the Earth –> [see the reblog above]

✳️Nett Lake Wild Rice –> Wild rice (website features recipes)

✳️Passamaquoddy maple –> Maple products (syrup, sugar, candies), Pancake and muffin mix, Seasoning

✳️Ioway Bee Farm (Iowa, recommended by watcherscrown) –> Honey, Lotions, Lip balm, Beeswax, Candles, CBD products, Honey sticks

Online retailer: partnered with some of the grocers in the list above, so you can order several grocers’ products from 1 place

✳️Tocabe (Osage, recommended by killmecoward) –> Pantry food staples

✳️Indigenous First (recommended by pingnova) –> Handmade crafts/art, Foods & Teas, Personal care, Decor, Seeds, Books, Jewelry supplies

✳️SweetGrass Trading Company (Winnebago, recommended by watcherscrown) –> Handmade crafts/art, Foods (of note: Salmon), Coffee & teas, Personal care, Books (website features recipes)

Coffee/Tea:

Yeego Coffee

✳️Spirit Mountain Roasting

Birchbark Coffee

Thunder Island Coffee

✳️Owl Lightning Coffee (Ute (?), recommended by c4-magic)

Bow & Arrow Brand, Ute Mountain Tribe

Native Harvest, White Earth Band (wild rice recipes)

Ramona Farms, Gila River (bean/corn-based recipes)

Sweetgrass Trading Co., Winnebago Tribe

and when buffy is dead everyone who ever knew her let's him take over taking care of her because they all fucking KNOW he's what's best for her,,

he's a monster until it comes to protecting the most precious part of buffy. and even after he's (almost) done the unthinkable, buffy still goes to him to take care of dawn.