I’m not calling you queer. I’m calling the community who are queer queer, which is the vast majority of non-cishet people outside Tumblr.
How funny, isn’t it, that
the term that allows people to keep the details of their identity private
the term that allows easy space for nonbinary, transgender, ace, questioning and fluid/complex identities
the unapologetically political, non-conformist and activist-associated term
the term associated with our anger, with our non-assimilation
the term associated with our history, studies and education that can empower us
is the one that’s apparently unreclaimable.
Friendly reminder that LGBTQ+, Queer, and LGBT+ are the preferred terms for the community (x).
Friendly reminder that Queer is approved by 72.9% of the people, and the groups who don’t prefer it’s use as an umbrella term are straight people, exclusionists, transmeds, truscums, sex-negative people, and sex work critical people (x).
Friendly reminder that aros and aces are excluded only 9.2% / 8.1% of the time respectively while being included 78.9% / 81.2% of the time (x)
Friendly reminder that exclusionists are in the minority and aro/ace people are included in the LGBTQ+ community by the people within the community.
The whole “wah you can’t call anyone queer ever” thing was started by TERFs and straight 4channers trying to stir shit (along with the “pedogender” nonsense). You can be part of the “LGBT” community, we’re part of the queer community, which is a different, more inclusive thing.
https://asynca.tumblr.com/post/176979904304/waiti-always-thought-the-q-in-lgbtq-was-for
https://www.quora.com/Is-it-offensive-for-asexuals-to-turn-up-at-Pride-Events-If-so-Why
https://justonepurpose.tumblr.com/post/162940965965
https://alarajrogers.tumblr.com/post/180560034794
https://dragon-in-a-fez.tumblr.com/post/158320252851
https://sarahsyna.tumblr.com/post/162406515781
https://a-polite-melody.tumblr.com/post/186316809932
Okay, then, try this. The term dates back to 1907. We also face many of the same problems as other queer and LGBT people (see, different groups).
https://bi-asexual.tumblr.com/post/161938628812
https://autismserenity.tumblr.com/post/162696065856/are-aces-lgbt
https://captaintoughfluff.tumblr.com/post/175794199814
https://chelonianmobile.tumblr.com/post/185688727059/autismserenity-disanthropi-lynati#notes
https://chelonianmobile.tumblr.com/post/185688628359/some-fun-lgbt-history-from-todays-pride-tag-on#notes
https://chelonianmobile.tumblr.com/post/183984138774/legsdemandias-saltypersonbasketballspy#notes
Stonewall and the United Nations accept aces as queer, as do most organisations outside Tumblr. So forgive me if I don’t listen to you.
Also, to answer your questions in your original comment: do you plan your life around living with your “friends”, want to live together forever instead of just living with them till you get your own place and start your own life (albeit your own life with them involved in it), make major life decisions based on their input, and generally do everything but fucking with them? If not, that’s not a QPP. And we compare our struggles to yours because those struggles are comparable to yours, as you’d know if you asked us.