#grayspec

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Greyspec, or Grayspec – not experiencing attraction in the same way as others. Some examples are: experiencing attraction less frequently; not experiencing it to the same degree as most; or feeling attraction only occasionally and not all the time.

Greyspec is the grey area between Aspec (little to no attraction) and Allo (experiences attraction normally)

There are many different ways to be greyspec, as it is a spectrum. And greyspec is not just for greysexual or greyromantic, it is a term that can be used for any and all attractions.

As an Alloromo sex-adverse ace it's my fucking dream. A relationship where there's no intimacy expected? But there's still wonderful chemistry and you're able to rely and confide in each other? And, to me, the romantic chemistry is everything I want.

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The recent shift in focus to lovelessness, heartlessness, repulsion has been great in giving representation to those that feel underrepresented, but it is ultimately coming with the cost of pushing out those that enjoy and enjoy experiencing romance and love. That's not to say that those that are favorable, lovequeer, romo aro, greyspec, etc cannot also be loveless, heartless, repulsed, etc. Nor is it to say we should now push the loveless, heartless, repulsed folks out of the community. Or that lovelessness, heartlessness, or repulsion doesn't also experience strife still.

It is instead to say: we as a community are fostering a space of romance negativity, and to a certain degree, love negativity. Treating romance or love as something evil, something weird or wrong, equating them to illnesses: these are all the examples of romance negativity seeping into our community.

Welcome! This blog is like those of @our-aroace-experience @our-aplatonic-experience @our-arospec-experience for users to share their experiences on the greyspec.

The greyspec is for anyone who is not strictly allo or aspec for any attraction, including greysexual-spec, greyromantic-spec, greyplatonic-spec, greyalterous-spec, greyqueerplatonic-spec, and any other attraction.

About the Mod: - he/him pronouns - 20 yr old adult - greysexual, greyromantic, and greyplatonic

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Today’s topic is

Queer-platonic relationships!

A LOT of misinformation goes around about qpps (which can also stand for quasi-platonic relationship), mostly due to the fact that the difference between romantic relationships and qpps is subtle and can be difficult to understand if you don’t experience attraction in a certain way. A lot of people, very confused people, like to say “YOU MEAN LIKE FRIENDS L M A O” whenever qpps are brought up. One thing that a ton of people forget is that anyone, aspec or not, could have a queerplatonic relationship if that was what they wanted to do!

I found a good definition of qpp on Urban Dictionary:

“Queer-platonic- Adjective describing a relationship which is more intense and intimate than is considered common or normal for a "friendship", but doesn't fit the traditional sexual-romantic couple model. It is characterized by a strong bond, love, and emotional commitment, yet is not perceived by those involved as "romantic". The relationship may or may not have some elements or degree of sexuality/eroticism at various times, or none - it doesn't matter, because sexuality/sexual exclusivity is not what the relationship is organized around. It's defined by the intensity and significance of the emotional connection.”

Ok that was long. Now that we have a definition, there’s some stuff I wanna ask you guys about. I’ve never had a qpp, tell me what y’all think!

Do any of you want a qpp and why?

Anyone currently in a qpp, tell us about it and maybe give some advice?

Is there anything anyone wants to add/change about the general definition?

How would you go about getting into a qpp? Any ideas?