#greyro

I adore you, aros!

I adore you, arospecs!

I adore you, aroaces!

I adore you, queerplatonic aros!

I adore you, polyam aros!

I adore you, nonpartnering aros!

I adore you, alloaros!

I adore you, loveless aros!

No, actually I can.

I can do exactly that. If I want to see them multiple times a week with no commitment and no exclusivity I can.

If I want to cuddle and kiss and not be any more intimate than that I can.

If I want to go on fun dates and spend time together and have little adventures but never call them my partner I can.

If I want to do these things with multiple people at the same time I can.

If I want to call it hanging out instead of dating I can.

If I want to keep things private but also post us being silly on my close firends stories I can.

I can do anything I want to as long as all the parties in the relationship are happy and it's not hurting anyone.

So, if you’re familiar with battery health on phones, then you know how if it says your battery is at 80% capacity, it only charges up to 80% of the original charge. So your phone will say it’s charged to 100%, but it isn’t the most it can be compared to when you first got it as a brand new phone.

Being greyromantic is like having a romantic attraction capacity set at 80%. When you’re charged to 100%, that’s the most you can feel and have ever felt. To you, that’s a lot.

AROSPECK !!

arospeck is a term for people who may technically be on the aromantic spectrum, but feel a disconnect from being aro(spec), do not fully identify with it, do not feel it is important to their identity, or feel a disconnect from the aro(spec) community / experience. they may feel like they are only "kind of" aro(spec).

this may be because: they are (extremely) romance-favourable. they do, or desire to, feel romantic attraction in some way – perhaps feeling that the attraction they do (or desire to) experience outweighs any lack of attraction they have. they may be in (or desire to be in) a relationship where romantic attraction is present. they may feel more alloromantic than aromantic, or connect / identify more with alloromanticism while still being aro(spec). they may be romance-obsessed, romance-focused, they may prioritise romance in their life, or feel like romance is a big or important part of their life or identity. they may not understand romantic attraction / have a complex relationship with it, but also not feel connected to the idea of lacking romantic attraction. they may be romo-aro, cupioromantic, quoiromantic, greyromantic, or any other arospec microlabel in a way where this label resonates.

this term was made with aro(specs) who feel a connection to romance / romantic attraction in mind – but can absolutely be used by anyone who feels it fits them.

name comes from the idea of having a "speck" of aromanticism in your identity. I liked how "speck" also sounds like "spec" (spectrum).