#lovequeer

I feel completely disconnected from society's definition of love. This idea that the most fulfilling thing in the world is the love of a romantic partner is bullshit.

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Spring Lovequeer

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A spring-themed lovequeer flag, for lovequeer individuals connected to spring in any way!

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if it's something you're not already familiar with and may find useful, quoiromantic gets at the idea of "romantic" "attraction" not being a concept that is applicable to everyone (although that may not be the way it is most commonly used or understood, it is what the term was orginally created to describe).

I'm not suggesting that there's a "correct" way to describe yourself, and can see why, regardless of the original meaning, a term that follows the format of -romantic labels might not adequately communicate rejecting "romance" (and by extension, romantic attraction and romantic orientation) as a pre-discursive concept. just wanted to share that there are ways of conceptualising one's relationship with romance beyond aro & alloromantic, if it's something that would be useful to anyone.

and also wanted to add that the concept of romance is a western idea and is very culturally dependent. although the pressure to be in a monogamous committed relationship may be present in many cultures, this is often manifested through obligation of continuing the family name rather than from a belief of romance being a central experience.

I do identify as/with aromantic, for many of the reasons you do, as well as to reject the idea that my worth is dependent on whether I am romantically desired. sometimes it is hard to have discussions about this and to be vocal about not considering "being aromantic" something I inherently always have been, and I appreciate you sharing your perspective on it!

yes - i'm familiar with the concept and dated someone quoiromantic years ago. she was my intro to the term and i found a lot of resonance in it. generally, for me, the labels i share with others most are the ones i feel most efficiently communicate information between us that they need to know - for me, the term "lovequeer" tends to do this, as it identifies me as having a non-normative relationship w/ love and its strictures, but doesn't appear to preclude me from a relationship others might identify as 'romantic' (aromanticism doesn't necessarily need to do this either, but again, i'm talking about ease of communication)

And then others times it's like I feel like I'm missing out on an important life experience and I'm going to left behind by all my friends bc I luv so differently to the way others luv. I luv my friends whole heartedly but us it enough to stop them from leaving me and prioritising romance.

Happy pride to you as well ;)

When They’re Lovequeer

Calling their senseship partner their lover

Being able to say “I love you” without any partners getting the wrong idea

Yes, they were very much in love. Neck deep in alterous love

“Bold of you to assume I have one partner. It’s even bolder of you to assume it’s romantic.”

They just found out they were aroallo too and also looking for a partner. Would it be crazy to say they were already in love?

Ever since they started their exteramo relationship, they’ve never been happier. A nice “fuck you” to the person that said they needed romance to be happier

There was nothing like being in love while also being free from the implication that it could only be romantic

Creating art where they express their love for their partners

Of course they loved their friend. No they are not partners.

"Genuinely gonna start being annoyingly vocal about my relationships the same way allos are." "As you should."

They didn't really like that everyone assumed that when they said they loved someone, it meant it was romantic. The love they gave was not limited to any one category. Their love was meant for everyone they were willing to give it to in whatever form that felt right

Their love for each other couldn't easily be understood by the naked, uninformed eye. And they were okay with that. It only matters that they knew what their love meant to each other

There's nothing like aroallo4aroallo love. That was something they've happily accepted since they realized their orientation