I think I have like a paraphilia for my actual literal self... Well I'm a system and we more so have a paraphilia for our own physical body. For a long time we didn't like how we looked at all but after getting married and feeling more and more confident in ourselves we just can't help but feel like we're attractive. Idk if this actually counts as a paraphilia or not though...
But what irks me is when people compare selfcest to incest and claim it would be evil to depict it (and incest as well) in stories. Like I grew up on sans shipping with the sans au stuff and people will say with their full chest sanscest shouldn't exist and is evil and disgusting and grotesque. Like okay... What do you think about REAL PEOPLE who are into themselves then? What do you think of systems who's headmates date and have sex with each other?
How do you treat people who do have incestuous attractions that they don't act on? Or people who just like fauxcest that isn't hurting anyone either. Or just liking incest in fiction? Because it seems you hate all of us.
I personally am not into incest much... Or well I wasn't but trauma stuff happened and I've gotten a bit into fauxcest- but essentially it's not my jam. But I feel so much for people who's it is because of how similar they're treated to me being into myself is.
Also may be worth noting I have NPD as well.
This is paramisia and ectonormativity [link.]
The attraction to oneself is known as being auto-. Whether or not you consider it a paraphilia depends on the person. Its similar to objectum vs objectophile [link], and how the distinction between them can be arbitrary.
My headmate Ally is autorose, and fae do not feel aligned with the paraphilia community, personally, and dislike being referred to as an autophile. But some autospec people do use the -phile suffix, it's a matter of preference.
Ally also agrees with you about the "selfcest" term, because autospec attraction/arousal is really different from incestual attraction/arousal for most individuals, and the conflation of such terms is just inaccurate.
I will say, it is interesting meeting autospecs who also have NPD, because the two things are often compared, despite the fact that most people with NPD aren't autospec, and most autospecs don't have NPD. Of those who have both, it's intriguing to see how half of them will say "my NPD and autospec attraction are interwoven", while the other half will say "these are two completely independent experiences to me."
Now, for the incest aspect of this. I think people with paraphilias that would be problematic to fully enact within reality should be allowed to have outlets. A lot of paraphiles, especially those with paraphilic disorders, need a healthy way to release their feelings, or else it bottles up and fantasies begin overtaking them or escalating.
It just needs to be tagged properly and given it's own curated space, as to not flood the pages of people who do not want to see that (or may be potentially triggered by it.)
(Also, small note: Acting upon it =/= doing harmful acts. Consuming or creating fiction is still acting upon it as well, and so would things like roleplay.)
