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when society expects you to "love" your family because "they're still your family" and shame you if you express any kind of distaste for them (especially in certain cultures that are family-centric like mine, wherein most children are expected to support their parents even if they've been shitty)
this is afamphobia.
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Im non-partnering and anattractional on all fronts. Platonic, familial, romantic, sexual, aesthetic, sensual, etc. I have never experienced any of these, and I have expressed discomfort with "affectionate" terms of all sorts since I was able to speak at age 2. I only accept my name, title, and pronouns as terms of address, and I don't feel a *need* for any sort of social contact. Partly because of SPD.
Nobody in my life will accept this. Coworkers constantly attempt to call me things like "buddy" or "pal" despite me repeatedly telling them to only use my name or title.
My doctor always tries to initiate physical contact (shoulder touches, etc) in sympathy when I'm talking about my symptoms even though I have told her several times that I don't want to be touched outside of necessity, and that I don't consider sympathy a necessary situation for touch.
I cut off contact with my relatives because they wouldn't accept the fact that I don't see any of them as anything past my relatives and that I don't feel any strong emotions towards them.
I even had to drop the therapist who diagnosed me with schizoid personality disorder because she wouldn't accept the fact that I didn't want to "fix" my lack of desire for social connections. I only wanted to address the issues with derealization I was having, which I ended up having to do with a different therapist that specialized in a less effective form of therapy.
Apologies for how long this ask is, I just wanted to talk about it somewhere without being scrutinized
This is aphobia and ableism.
I hate how some people truly just won't back off. Don't use nicknames people ask you not to, don't touch people against their consent unless it's literally necessary, don't try to push relationship standards onto people when they don't feel comfortable with it. Respect people's individuality.
I was in a Discord server that had a lot of aces and aros talking about their experiences (it had a channel for a-spec people), but as soon as I brought up parts of my a-spec experience that weren't about my aroaceness, like my aplatonic and afamilial experiences, they were always just sort of ignored. It made me feel so unwelcome after a while that I left...
this is aspec antagonism. atertiary identities are often ignored in favor of aromantic and asexual ones. it's an unfortunate result of platonormativity and such (do we have a word for how familial relationships are pushed?).
I am afamilial and sometimes I’m neutral about familial attraction and sometimes I’m repulsed. I’m also tired of everyone having to bring their families into everything. Yes, family is important to people, but why is it the most important thing in some people’s lives?
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Welcome to @this-is-afamphobia, a blog where we look at things and say "That's afamphobia!"
A little bit about me: my main blog is @privygrid, I am demifamilial, aroace and agender, and I am of legally adult age (thats the closest im getting to revealing my age on here). I go by she/they, and am not a big fan of gendered terms, so please try to avoid using those for me. I am also a university student with a ton of assignments, so apologies if I miss any submissions.
What's afamphobia? Afamphobia is discrimination towards afamilial individuals. What is afamilial? A person who is afamilial/afamspec is someone who experiences little to no familial attraction/love.
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the heeeaaavy societal expectation that to be successful or fulfilled in life one needs to get married and have kids, aka start a family. ESPECIALLY for women who are expected to be baby making machines as soon as they’re old enough. it’s a super duper fun mix of afamphobia and misogyny. not everyone wants a family! i can have a completely fulfilled and happy life with 0 family!
this is afamphobia and misogyny.
i am afamilial and aroace. the thought of having a child or a family *disgusts* and repulses me, literally, i cant even think about it without wanting to vom-t, it's so tiring when people say "everyone will eventually want a family!" or "i also didnt want a bf back then" or "thats selfish!" :((
cant i just not want to date/marry/have kids with anyone :(
[PT: Vomit.]
This is familial-normativity.
the way people like to say “they’re not just friends, they’re family!!” to stress the importance of their relationship, and make every platonic relationship into ‘found family’. it feels exactly the same as when arophobes go “they’re not just friends, they’re romantic partners!!”
as if being friends isn’t enough?? as if platonic bonds aren’t good enough or strong enough, we need to make it MORE important?? no, they don’t need to be family to be important and loved!
this is afamphobia.
