what do you believe when no one is around?

i love you lesbians and bisexual women in my phone you make my days brighter happy pride

Aging is horrific actually I'm sorry feminism. The thought of being unable to move properly, muscle tissue wasting away, bones wasting away, losing sight and hearing, taking 500 medications a day, just hanging around like a corpse that hasn't died yet.... I think I'll just kill myself at like 70

Becoming medically fragile with old age is not a given!!! Weight bearing exercise, regular cardio, a healthy diet, and an engaged mind do wonders to keep you healthy well into your 80s and 90s! In my career I have taken care of plenty of old people who passed away peacefully from age after a life well lived. Some parts of aging are inevitable, like increased risk of cancer(due to accumulating cell damage) but many “normal” parts of the aging process are absolutely preventable or at least able to be reduced. Don’t lose hope and take care of yourself!

I’m going to say something that might sound crazy. Suicide and suicide attempts are sort of a societal alarm bell that says “something is very wrong with the environment this individual was in.” A living being choosing to take themselves out of existence is the most extreme act of distress there is. The state stepping in to silence this alarm bell by funneling suicidal people into a state sanctioned euthanasia program, normalizing this act through a socially accepted bureaucratic system, is not a good thing. It goes hand in hand with the state’s interest in maintaining the status quo at the expense of the population and the psychiatric industry’s interest in individualizing societal problems to extract profit and aid the existing system. It’s saying “there are no complaints here, just people with sick brains, carry on.”

it does not sound crazy

not every mutual fits neatly into an archetypal medievalism but there are some mutuals that im like yeah addressing you as “my liege” would come strangely naturally

Use your PTO

I feel like bigotry is so normalized that people will inadvertently say genuinely strange and awful things, and because these things don't go against the grain and they're phrased "politely" (and are usually -- but not always -- out of white mouths) you'll see..........basically no push back. It's treated as a joke, or something that should be glossed over. But then something is pointed out, and suddenly the pointer outer becomes treated as a sort of complicit aggressor in the situation for speaking out. The fact that you have to be God's most articulate orator who is ever polite and ever patient, the fact that you had to be the one to shoulder the burden of saying something at all instead of it being immediately rectified, the fact that the pattern repeats.....I don't know, it's the kind of shit that genuinely breaks the spirit a little bit. The prioritization of "politeness" but the "politeness" holds no kindness; the "politeness" centers certain people's feelings. The "rudeness" comes from a place of genuine righteousness, but it's treated as if it's more of a problem, because direct phrasing offends sensibilities. The way that you can never lose patience, especially if you are perceived as racialized -- hell, the way that when you are racialized, it is always on you to be the one who speaks up and explains. Why do I have to perform for you while you and your saltine flavored peers slobber at the table, reckless and unthinking, considering yourselves the ultra civilized and beneficent while I stand alone except for my fellow outcasts, forced to perfectly fold the napkins lest I be accused of being lesser, unstable, unkind? You people are throwing mash potatoes. I'm just stuck cleaning up the mess. I'll need to probably write a post that untangles my thoughts and sections them off better, if I feel up to trying to disentangle my feelings better, later. But I think self-examination stays woefully lacking.

A lot of this is the crux of Sara Ahmed's work on how disruption of bigoted norms are treated as more troubling than the norms.

I guess I wish there was wisdom to be dispensed for in-the-moment type situations. (Probably there is; I just haven't googled it yet.) Like, ime, it's not just "I went to [whoever is supposed to be moderating the space] and they were like 'uhhhhh sowwy'" it's also in the moment, there's this shift -- where the person calling out the aggression is suddenly made into the aggressor, because they're the only one who's responded to [insert bigotry, usually racism] with the proper amount of "what the fuck," and then all of a sudden because they broke the 'tone' they are swooped in on, and no one else says anything. I feel like in a group situation, if more people were willing to -- I guess put it bluntly, be race traitors, at least a little bit -- then situations like these wouldn't go the way they do. If you can correct the culture in the moment, if you have enough people go, "yeah, what the fuck actually," you shift the culture of the space. It forces the situation to go differently, it teaches people that this shit won't be tolerated, and it protects the more marginalized people getting shafted. Like...please for the love of God call people out in the moment for being heinous in a liberal racism (and liberal any bigotry way, but in particular racism) way, please don't wait for the people of color in the room to be the ones to say something first (when the people of color have been gaslight all their lives into immense amounts of self doubt), please be direct and forward and stand up. It's not just authority, though that's certainly part of it. It's also all the people who stand there and say nothing, or wait until the Pee Oh Cee coughs first. Which, the Pee Oh Cee has been taught all their life that they must immediately explain their existence in as tolerable way as possible, and that they must accept any treatment, even if it's genuinely dehumanizing, just because the other person is "nice" and not calling them slurs. Like, if someone else could shoulder the burden a little bit, that would be great, thanks. I would like people to please stand up.

New idealogy i call it Alcohol Feminism

When you get lots of really good books for really cheap in great quality it lowkey feels the most illegal out of the deal based shopping. like how the fuck are they letting me walk out of the store with this without tackling me. these are people's life's work and I got that shit for $3

You can replace [ACTIVITY YOU ENJOY] with [SCROLLING] but watch out. This sucks bad 👍

hmmm, this seems to be some kind of curse breaking spell… be free ye reader

have you guys heard about the greenland shark. some crazy shit happening there.

something i've noticed that has become really annoying in the past 10 years or so is this fad of what i've been calling, for lack of a better word, "structural whataboutism." it's that thing where, when faced with a concrete, resolvable problem in your community, your answer is to blame it on a vast, unsolvable issue of structural inequality and then throw up your hands. "there's trash all over the ground in this corner of the park" becomes "well, that's where MEN OF COLOR congregate after their 12-HOUR GRAVEYARD SHIFTS and i'm not going to support a CARCERAL SOLUTION to a CAPITALISTIC PROBLEM. WE NEED TO ELIMINATE POVERTY AND THE SUBJUGATION OF THE WORKING CLASS" and it's like okay but sis. someone still has to go pick up the trash. we don't need a carceral solution, we need more trash cans. you're not going to eliminate poverty and the subjugation of the working class and even if ya did, there would still be trash on the ground. how any of this passes for radicalism within their peer groups i simply don't understand. it's radical laziness more than anything else

its probably a normal sign for the economy that all of my adulthood fantasies are like "imagine having your own kitchen living room and bathroom to decorate" "what if i could get on a train" "maybe one day i could purchase a sturdy pair of shoes" "i should save and invest in a single bicycle"

when you're petting a cat and the cat raises its tail it's to let you know that that's where the cat ends