You can call me E. He/him. I'm white, european and in my twenties. I'm also a lifelong student of feminism, which is the scholarly, artistic and interpersonal practice of misogynized subjects to discuss, name and organize against our oppression.
Transfeminine, transneutral, non-transmasc nonbinary people are welcome and loved here, but know that this space is first and foremost for the transmasculine. We have no real place to speak without being silenced and ostracized. This is a space for me to let my thoughts out, but hopefully also a space to gather and exchange ideas. I also want to post quotes of feminist works I read and perhaps in the future organize communal artistic projects.
All people AFAB experience misogyny. Prefacing this as I'm not remotely interested in debating it. I'm also completely uninterested in bad faith arguments with people who see me as subhuman. Enjoy the block.
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I mean in this instance when Iām talking about a disease that affects the uterus then yes people with a uterus are going to suffer from it and people without a uterus arenāt? Yall are going to call me a TERF for believing in cervical cancer next
literally stomping your feet plugging your ears and going no no no we get raped more when faced with hard data and evidence that is not the case is fucking reprehensible by the way and makes you look so immature i am actually feeling second hand embarrassment that has me feeling like i need to go take a fuckin lap lmao
get a fucking grip.
i fucking wish we as trans men and mascs had lower numbers are you joking? i wish i could white knight and play the part of cis man feminist it would be easy but unfortunately my community is facing drastic levels of violence and no amount of gender euphoria iād get from getting on my knees to help lift up women is worth erasing the highest rates of assault in the entire queer community that we are facing. my moral back bone is stronger than my desire for gender affirmation, how about yours?
(A clarification to all: I believe in transmisogyny and use it as a word. I do not want to use it as a tag in order to avoid negative attention from people who would not engage with my thoughts respectfully or in good faith. I hope this makes sense.)
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Itās very funny how many self proclaimed transfeminists will say that transmisogyny is both the most heinous and the most ubiquitous type of oppression there is, that any sort of criticism of any transfem for any reason is itself transmisogyny or even if in good faith it will be used by all the evil transmisogynists always lurking behind the corner to do transmisogynisty to her so you must never ever antagonize, criticize, gently correct, or even raise your eyebrow at anything a transfem says or doesā¦ until the transfem doesnāt conform to their gender expectations, or uses the wrong pronouns, or is sexually unavailable to them, or is sexually unappealing to them, or says something about her own experience they disagree with, or expresses an opinion they have deemed taboo, and so on and so forth. And then the most mean spirited, heinous dogpile and harassment is suddenly fine, because maybe we donāt know what transmisogyny is, we donāt know what misogyny is, we donāt know anything, can anything be known truly, are we maybe lost globes floating about in a sea of ether dreaming of experiencing consciousness? Do words mean anything? Can actions be objectively observed and criticized? Is it possible to commit an āactionā, even, as such? Perhaps we should consult the oracle about thisā¦
When I was diagnosed at age sixteen, after having one period in the eighth grade and then never again till a medically induced one my junior year of high school - my uterine lining measured in centimeters because it was so thick, my mother turned to me in the car. She was upset. Literal tears in her eyes. And she told me her friend had PCOS, but was still able to have kids. That this was still a possibility for me if I did injections and fertility treatments, etc. My mom had never asked me if I wanted kids, she just assumed.
My first conversation about PCOS with my new endocrine/OBGYN was about weight management and how that could improve my fertility when I eventually wanted kids. It wasn't asked what my goals were for my health or if I wanted kids, just assumed.
I was a hormonal, depressed mess. I hated my body. My body dysmorphia was so bad that I cloistered myself away from so much. I wore hoodies and jeans in the 90Ā°F, 80% humidity summers. This was considered fine. I was given metformin and birth control pills and told this was all that could be done. That PCOS wouldn't affect my life until I wanted to be pregnant. I wasn't asked if I wanted to be pregnant, just assumed.
I don't know how many PCOS groups I joined on my early 20s hoping to find community and commonality for body dysmorphia and symptom management, only to be bombarded with fertility treatments and tips and 'inspirational conception' anecdotes. They never asked if I was attempting to conceive, just assumed.
It's a problem. It's been a problem. And thank god I learned to speak up and find medical professionals that would help me with *MY* goals. I shouldn't have had to, someone should have recognized the needs of that sixteen y.o. and protected her, but I can only hope the conversation changes as awareness increases.
love seeing revisionism in the wild āfree the nipple never meant you can walk around topless every where thatās still sexual harassment it just meant for like breastfeeding and stuffāno it literally means you should be able to walk around topless anywhere because get this. breasts arenāt fucking sexual organs.
I remember when I was about 12, I watched a show on TLC that followed people as they got somewhat uncommon medical procedures.
There was one episode with a trans woman getting different gender-affirming operations, including breast implants. It showed the procedure, and (what I found so fascinating that it's stuck with me for decades), as soon as the doctor put the implant in, a censor blur popped up on the nipple.
And you just know there was a meeting between the TLC lawyers and the editors and producers of the show to discuss what the difference was between a "man nipple" (can be shown) and a "woman nipple" (no no must obscure, 'tis naughty). And they decided that as soon as the implant goes in and the nipple has more mass behind it, that's the moment when it becomes a woman's nipple and must be hidden to comply with TV rules.
But it's the same nipple. On the same person. I know what it looks like; I just saw it. But TV and obscenity rules are rules, and the rules say woman nipple = sexual and therefore explicit, but man nipple = neutral, just fine.
"Free the Nipple" was calling out arbitrary bullshit like that, because someone just existing with their body parts should not be considered obscene, and the double standard that men can be topless but women can't is so blatantly ridiculous. All nipples are just nipples. If you get turned on or bothered by them, that's on you.
I thought of something similar when I first transitioned and considered posting a picture of my chest every day on my fb account until it looked 'femenine' enough to be a content violation.
Considering how they turned out, I really wish I went through with it cause it could have turned into a fascinating experiment.
ty for this blog!!! i realized i was transmasc 3 years ago, but iāve been a feminist my whole life and even have a degree in it. it drives me so insane to see people imply that because of my gender, all of my previous experiences as a woman are invalidated. i love feminism and i love being transmasc!!!
Thank YOU anon! I also love being a feminist and I love being transmasc! And I love you!!!!
āgender envyā this āgender envyā that can we talk about gender grief? the boy i want to be is a ghost that hovers in my periphery always and forever and i mourn that i am the only one who can see him
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Gender essentialism is useful for those who utilize it because it allows for a complete and total enabling of abuse from all angles. To label all men and/or masc-aligned people as inherently predatory and all women and/or fem-aligned people as inherently victims excuses behavior as either a symptom of an immutable, nature-based trait or as literally impossible, depending on which group you are shuffled into. To acknowledge the behavior typically associated with cis men is nurtured by society and completely within our power collectively to change is far less convenient than the idea that this is simply how things are. Especially so if you are interested in denying the victimhood of members of the former camp/the abusive actions of members of the latter. Nothing will ever improve if we continue to fall into this way of thinking, especially as trans people who have experienced our societyās gender dynamics in a fundamentally different way to the average cis person. It absolutely must be purged and we must acknowledge that while society may influence and incentivize certain behavior, it isnāt an inherent trait and therefore individuals must be able to be treated as just that- individuals whose capacity for harm or to be harmed is in no way an inditement upon their identity, let alone anyone elseās.
transmascs, even those with a robust knowledge of feminism and long practice analyzing situations in their own lives through a feminist lens, are both directly and indirectly discouraged from seeing sexist treatment they receive for what it is. a very simple example is sexualization: in both LGBT+ and feminist spaces, transmasc existence itself is often taken as a sexual ouverture, an invitation for the non-transmasculine onlooker (be they a cis man, cis woman, transfem, or non-TM NB) to comment on the transmasc sexually. sometimes this takes the form of taking the transmasc to be a submissive, penetrable subject due to their 'inferior' masculinity and presumed 'female' body parts, sometimes it swings hard in the other direction with the transmasc being taken as an ultra-dominant ultra-masculine top figure, with the underlying assumption that they will rejoice in the opportunity to prove themselves as such in order to show their 'manhood'. personally i've often been faced with the latter. just acting casual, pleasant, and politely friendly, in a way entirely devoid of romantic or sexual undertones, has often caused other people (mainly, in my case, cis gay men who exclusively bottom, cis women, and trans women) to go into loud and elaborate displays of their sexual availability and high sexual desire that somehow were both targeted to me but still indirect. again, the underlying assumption being that as "the man" of the situation (a situation I never once endeavored to put myself in and was forced into against my own will) I would pick up on the presence of an available and willing subject of fucking and go into some kind of sexual frenzy. 'every hole is a goal' etc.
using my feminist lens and pattern recognition to explicitly name this unwanted and insistent sexualization as sexual harassment, operating along extremely similar patterns as the kind i'd been receiving from cis men for my entire life, has garnered me reactions going from suspicious and weirded out looks quickly followed by abrupt topic changes, to screeds about how i was being aggressive and hostile and should apologize to the interlocutor. to be clear, this was the case even when i tried bringing it up to friends who were not and did not know the people who had done the harassment. essentially;
feminist consciousness is actively discouraged in transmasculine people, even when it's about extremely straightforward, cut and dry situations.
like iām just saying. at some point we have got to stop entertaining the obviously bad faith arguments and name the underhand rhetorical strategies aimed at wasting our time, making us feel and/or look crazy, and publicly humiliating us, for what they are.
Person who is definitely doing this on purpose: no you see itās not a slur. Itās only a word that originated in one of the most male-dominated and violently bigoted speech spaces in the last 20 years, a word specifically and exclusively used about people AFAB, to indicate that they are stupid, shrill, lying, attention-seeking, duplicitous, delusional, irrational, and overall inferior to the speaker. So how can it be a slur? Itās not like there is a well known and powerful oppressive social force that has historically been created and maintained for the express purpose of keeping people AFAB in a subjugatted position by painting them as exactly those things. Whatās that? Misogyny? Misogyny is only against WOMEN, you silly hysterical little boy. It works on the basis of gender identify, and you donāt identify as a woman, do you? There. I have built an impenetrable unassailable fortress of bad faith arguments and logical fallacies. Now you canāt say anything, and you also canāt get mad Iām treating you like this or else you look crazy and I also get to call you a violent oppressive male abuser.
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Did you just say that older white women are "punished" for affairs with younger people as much as a woman speaking about feminism? And that in itself it's a feminist act? What about women preying on their lovers, is that also feminist? Women don't get socially pubished for taking younger lover outside of maybe strange comments here and there, they barely get punished for statuary rape.
And what about women punishing other women for not conforming? You are missing a whole dimension to your analysis in order to paint white woman as only ever a passive victim, who yes does abuse minotities - but we won't focus on that - which is so common in white feminism it makes me want to scream.
The post anon is talking about
Did you just say that older white women are "punished" for affairs with younger people
younger men. i was trying to refer to, say, a straight woman in her 50s having a relationship with a man in his 30s. Perhaps I wasnāt clearn enough, I apologize. Seeing as it was one example of many, mentioned in passing in a long sentence, I did not give a high amount of detail, assuming good faith in the reader.
as much as a woman speaking about feminism?
I wouldnāt say as much. These things hard hard to quantify in a generalized manner, It would have to be determined on a case by case basis. As i said in the post.
And that in itself it's a feminist act?
i absolutely, categorically, 100% never said that. You are missing the point of what I said.
What about women preying on their lovers, is that also feminist?
Nope, never said this either. Nor implied it.
Women [ā¦] barely get punished for statuary rape.
??? First of all I donāt think this can be said without the smallest shred of evidence, even anecdotal. Second of all, again, not remotely the topic of my post. My post did not speak on or involve cis white women who groom and abuse minors. You are way off topic.
And what about women punishing other women for not conforming?
i did, in fact, mention this in my post. Itās true I did not offer much analysis about this phenomenon, because this was not the topic of the post. But i did not by any means ignore or deny that this happens.
You are missing a whole dimension of analysis
if you are referring to how cis white women are taught to police each otherās behavior in order to make each other comply with feminine behavioral expectations - I do agree that this is worth analyzing. However, The ādimensionā of sexist punishment to cis white women I was most interested in discussing in my post, is that done by cis white men, the actual holders of patriarchal power. Again, as said in the post.
in order to paint white woman as only ever a passive victim
Absolutely never said that. I in fact repeately said the opposite - that cis white women, AND white transmasculine people, are equally able under white patriarchy to enact harm on people of color, and often do so, both knowingly and unknowingly. That was in fact the main point of the post and reason I made it.
