women STOP working like a dog to financially support your bfs/husbands through advanced degrees or passion projects. "he says he'll do the same for me after," that is what they always say and then conveniently there is almost always an excuse why they can't when that time comes. "but when he achieves his goal it will pay off for us both" i know you think you can trust him but it is very common for these men to leave or cheat the second he lands the position he was aiming for. this is the #1 way i see young professional women getting their precious and hard earned resources funneled away from them and into a non-refundable deposit into a man who is not guaranteed to follow through on his promises. This is the oldest fucking trick in the "modern" man's book, please stop falling for it i am begging on my hands and knees

ive been having a lot of thoughts lately about what my goals are, who are potential allies in my feminism, who i relate most to, and coming to some different conclusions than i think a lot of online radfems tend to. I've been running this blog for ~10 years, and I've seen the same tired discourse cycles play out over and over. things stay so insular, (I know a lot of that is out of our control due to being blocked-and-stay-safe'd into a cupboard. but still.) I think there is a serious lack of understanding shown towards afab trans people. Of course it's the same in the reverse, they don't understand us. I'm not claiming to speak for all radical feminists but as a woman who is at least a bit GNC, who is drawn to others like me, I am becoming increasingly frustrated with this stupid millimeter thin but seemingly impenetrable wall between us. At least in many ways, i think we are the same kind of people, who got nudged one way or the other and grew into different shapes from the same starter plant. I think afab trans people are closer to feminist consciousness than the average "normie" woman, even a liberal feminist one. because like me, trans identified female people have recognized with horror that something is deeply, deeply wrong with the traditional heteropatriarchal world, and don't feel they fit in as a "woman" in society, as society defines it, whatsoever. That starting point is already way farther than your average "normie" woman ever gets, and I think it's very similar to the starting point for some radical feminists. Not to mention, the dwindling to almost to total lack of young GNC and butch women, while we see a proliferation of trans men and nonbinary female people, to me it's obvious, these are the same fucking people. I feel like a straggler who hasn't gotten with the program and joined the crowd, rather than a different type of person. I'm not saying i approve of the program, or that I'm going to join it, I'm just trying to articulate how I conceptualize my place in this insane world. I'm not sure what my point is, or if I even have one. But this is something I have been thinking about a lot. And I'll probably elaborate on more later as I continue to think things through.

I want to do patterns on my white/platinum buzz cut because It’s literally the ideal plain canvas but I can’t. Because of corporate hell

harriet tubman is mentioned here and there in the typical american history education but it seems like no one learns her full story. because she is literally 3500000x times more interesting and insanely badass than is ever typically mentioned. I had PBS on doing chores one day when a documentary on her life came on and i wound up putting everything down to watch it because i could not fucking believe what i was hearing. not joking i think she might be one of the most amazing people who have ever lived

I had the realization recently that in all my years of life prior to 2024, I had never experienced the level of anger, even once, that I now feel every single day since this administration came into power. Seeing the seemingly infinite amounts of abhorrent injustices of every type, rolling out all around us in a never ending stream, while you remain utterly powerless despite your desperate efforts; what kind of toll does this take on a human being?