|| Bigender transmasc boygirl she/he || This is specifically a feminist blog, I mostly talk about transmascs but will frequently expand to talk about feminism in general
My name is V I’m bigender (transmasculine) and I post a lot about how my identity intersects with misogyny. I believe that I am fully a woman as well as fully a man although I live most of my life as a woman. I could also be classed as genderqueer or androgyne but I don’t call myself that as often.
If you’re going to make a callout post about me at least @ me I love attention
Running list of things I’ve been called because I think it’s funny, if you hate me please feel free to add to this list. All of these come from either TERFs or transmasc targeting transphobes
Middle aged British woman
Most mentally ill trans man
Least obvious transandro
Sock puppet
Deranged psycho
TMRA trying to poison transfeminism
Transmasc Ben Shapiro
Pathetic cisgender woman/fake trans
Terven princess
Bitch (x5), Cunt (x6), Pooner (x3), Slut (x1)
Some more info about me and my beliefs under the cut:
I’m pretty critical of the trans community because it’s my home and I love it. I don’t want us to have to live in a house with broken windows and leaky faucets just because we’re convinced that we can never have anything better. I want better for us. I want us to be safe and happy and I don’t want any of us to be shoved aside as if we don’t matter. Trans liberation should not only be available for white binary trans people who pass. We need more love for trans people of color outside of turning dead Black trans women into saints without ever listening to what they fought for. We need more love for trans people outside of the imperial core, especially those who don’t speak English or who struggle with it. We need more love for intersex people no matter how they identify. We need love for people who, seeking acceptance from a community who is meant to love and care for them, are told that their issues are “too complicated” or “derailing the conversation”. To the people on the fringes: I love you.
One thing that’s going to be controversial about me is that I will be referring to myself as female. I don’t believe that it’s useful to me to say I’ve changed my sex or that I’m not deeply affected by the patriarchal, sexist society we live in. I don’t believe this is “self misgendering” as I literally don’t believe that it’s possible to misgender yourself and I also don’t think sex and gender are the same thing. If you, the person reading this, do not identify this way that’s fine but please don’t try to change the way I speak about my body and my oppression because it makes you uncomfortable. I don’t believe that your identity has any impact on mine or my validity and I hope you will extend me the same courtesy.
I do also believe in *some* of the tenets of radical feminism. I mean this with as much emphasis as possible: some. I don’t believe in trans exclusion, I’m not a lesbian separatist, etc etc. What I do believe is that gender is a construct that has mostly been used to create a sexist hierarchical society (think gender roles and stereotypes). In my ideal post-patriarchal world, nobody would be trans in the way that no one would be cis, we would all just use whatever clothes and pronouns we wanted and there would be no hierarchy. I also believe that sex based oppression is real and I don’t think misogyny could exist without it. This does not mean I don’t believe in transmisogyny or that I think all misogyny is sex based.
Another important thing I believe is that we really *really* need to do more to center trans voices outside of the imperial core. White people in the trans community (including myself) also need to stop appropriating language used specifically about racial violence (eg “digital lynching” to refer to blogs getting banned) and language that is hyperbolic to the point of meaninglessness (calling bans on gender affirming care for children in the US “genocide”)
As a last note I’m sincerely uninterested in any discourse that completely ignores misogyny as a monstrous violent force in our world. If I see one more person talk about “AFAB privilege” or say female specific issues like pregnancy, abortion, FGM, menstrual stigma, lack of inclusion in medical studies, child marriage, (I could go on forever) don’t matter as much as what trans people in the US go through I’m going to lose my mind.
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hi so sorry but yay-bunnies saying "i dont like it when people are inconvenient sex dolls #transmen" is obviously going to be read as calling trans men sex dolls? like? i fear that is the most obvious interpretation? not jumping through five hoops to assume that it means that trans men view others as sex dolls?
like sorry but if someone were to post "i hate them #[group of people]" you would reasonably assume that the poster hates [group of people]
and i see people saying she meant it as in "#transmen be like" but if she meant that she should've just said that?? instead of assuming that people will interpret the extra two words which completely change the meaning of the tag?? i fear it might be better to oh idk fucking say what you mean?
its really interesting how transandrophobic trfs will post shit like "trans men need to kill themselves" and "trans men deserve to be raped and murdered" and then tag them with #trans man and #transandrophobia, specifically so trans men will see violenr rhetoric against us just by following those tags, while we cant even use the #transmisogyny tag when we're talking about transmisogyny or even follow it because then we'll be harrassed by trfs and will have that violent rhetoric on our dashes. like its almost like this isnt "infighting" but is a hate group and victims of a hate group or something
Locking tf in as a feminist and not letting things slide anymore will have you pissed off 24/7. I would love to say “has anyone figured this one out yet” but unforch being angry out your gourd is kind of impossible to avoid. No live organism can continue for long to exist sanely under conditions of absolute reality and all that.
Shout out to straight/lesbian trans men in t4c relationships, literally everyone feels like they gotta say put in their 2 cents about shit that is not their business. You call yourself straight? You’re still going to face insane lesbopbobia and in many places will not be able to get married/be together publicly but you’ll be called privileged. You call yourself a lesbian? You’re a faketrans who is trying to invade women’s spaces and kick trans women out. Factor in all the bullshit your partner gets too and it’s crazy. If she calls herself a lesbian she’s a radfem trying to detrans you, if she calls herself straight she’s actually just suffering from comphet and you’re abusing her. There really is no winning tbh.
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pro tip: you ever see someone, anyone, making reference to trans men having short heights or small sized bodies or small genitalia even, that is immediately your sign that that person is deeply hateful and should no longer be given the benefit of the doubt or engaged with.
there is this odd sort of plausible deniability that is happening these days because references to things that make trans men physically dysphoric is not widely seen as an issue, (because if we take issue with it we are just upset about being ‘emasculated’ and are not trans people with dysphoria. obviously.) and that leads to people talking about us in explicitly transphobic ways with minimal to zero push back.
if someone was constantly referring to the large height and size of trans women in disparaging or fetishistic ways i’d hope you’d be able to clock how fucking weird and transphobic that was, and this is no different.
i hate how many things have been thoroughly ruined and dotted with bitterness for me because anti-transmasc prejudice has corrupted it. I used to love paris is burning, but ever since learning that trans men were supposed to be interviewed as well but they decided to only focus on trans women for the film (and a bunch of the footage that was shot of transmascs was never used, idk if it was ever released at all), so now there's just a bunch of transmasc history that's fucking Gone? it makes me so fucking sad and I can't see anything about that movie without the biggest wave of grief and genuine hatred for the film makers for making that decision. it's not the most rational feeling in the world but it's just...
I am actually so confused and baffled as to what possible reason there is to react like this to this comic. All the artist is saying is that it’s… fine for trans people to be gender nonconforming? That it doesn’t make their identity less valid? Literally why would you be upset about this other than you’re a raging transphobic bigot. Much less making literal death threats towards the creator and directing others to harass them. Actually ghoulish, please report this post and get it taken down because this isn’t okay.
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Do you have a favorite book or author? I liked your feminist rec list but do you read fiction at all?
Oh I read wayyy more fiction than non-fiction lol. I tend to lean more towards literary fiction and those aren’t as fun to talk to people about unfortunately. When someone asks me what the book I’m reading is about they don’t usually want to hear “it’s a fragmented narrative of several generations of dead women preparing for another to die” or “it’s a novel by Virginia Woolf exploring gender roles throughout history and the meaning of beauty through an immortals perspective” like that’s no fun.
Pedro Páramo by Juan Rulfo - fragments, ghost towns, memory/“murmurs”
Orlando by Virginia Woolf - time, womanhood/gender, beauty, self understanding
I Gave You Eyes and You Looked Towards Darkness by Irene Solà - generational curses, the human body, folklore
The Left Hand of Darkness by Ursula K. Le Guin - balance, love, human connection
I Who Have Never Known Men by Jacqueline Harpman - isolation, intimacy, unanswerable questions, time
Purple Hibiscus by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie - coming of age, abuse, hypocrisy, freedom
We Have Always Lived in the Castle by Shirley Jackson - isolation, willful ignorance, mental illness
I’m about to read Our Wives Under the Sea by Julia Armfield and The Sundial by Shirley Jackson (she’s one of my favorite authors, pretty much everything she’s written is gold). For short story collections I really recommend Changing Planes by Ursula K. Le Guin.
Do you have a favorite book or author? I liked your feminist rec list but do you read fiction at all?
Oh I read wayyy more fiction than non-fiction lol. I tend to lean more towards literary fiction and those aren’t as fun to talk to people about unfortunately. When someone asks me what the book I’m reading is about they don’t usually want to hear “it’s a fragmented narrative of several generations of dead women preparing for another to die” or “it’s a novel by Virginia Woolf exploring gender roles throughout history and the meaning of beauty through an immortals perspective” like that’s no fun.
question: what the fuck do you think happens to people seen as women who are "treated as little more than delusional" because historically its been putting them in mental institutions and conversion therapy. this idea that trans men are less harmed by transphobia is just fucking wrong and harmful and it needs to fucking stop
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Hey so the porn post is really bad because my sexuality is tuck inside a screen and I can't physically get off unless it's to potentially abused and trafficked women so could you stop talking about it entirely? It's not MY fault I have to do this and it doesn't matter anyway since I am only one person and it says nothing about me as a person who thinks there's nothing wrong with this continued abuse as long as I get some fleeting pleasure out of it. /s
Honestly, thank you for speaking up about the horrors of pornography. I haven't ever worked with pornography actors but I have worked with prostitutes who used to work in that field and the stories they had to tell me kept me awake at night and led to my getting my first long-term therapist because I could not handle that on my own. I cannot imagine what so many of those women (and men as well) go through and this brushing off of their struggle is just really disgusting.
Yeah a lot of people think sexuality is completely removed from social attitudes about misogyny and racism (or both at the same time I mean god look at the first page of Pornhub) and that since conservatives don’t like it, the porn industry must be a wonderful leftist institution. As much as the chocolate you eat is likely farmed with slave labor, much of the porn available is either made from or directly profits from exploitation and abuse.
People always accuse me of being a prude or being anti-masturbation and say porn has always existed (it has but it also doesn’t exist in a vacuum, for example much of the visual pornography from the Roman times has been taken from the walls of brothels where enslaved women were raped in dark stone rooms. So yes funny sex haha but theres still blood on it). So just go do that! Jack off to vampire erotica! Call up a friend who’s chill! Draw a big penis! Oh my fucking god you have to know it’s possible to get off without benefitting from exploitation or possibly even bona fide sex slavery!!
And if you can’t muster up the will to give a shit about cis women and girls (because I know that’s really fucking hard for a lot of people apparently) at least acknowledge the fact that gay and trans people often have to do sex work to survive and just for a moment think about how you profit from your siblings exploitation.
i love how these anons are erasing the fact that you are also a woman. anything to put that damn ~TME~ back in their place
Honestly it’s probably a good thing they can’t see through my TME aura or whatever because a transmasc with any sort of relationship with womanhood or femininity is kind of blood in the water for these kinds of people
