|| Bigender transmasc boygirl she/he || This is specifically a feminist blog, I mostly talk about transmascs but will frequently expand to talk about feminism in general
My name is V I’m bigender (transmasculine) and I post a lot about how my identity intersects with misogyny. I believe that I am fully a woman as well as fully a man although I live most of my life as a woman. I could also be classed as genderqueer or androgyne but I don’t call myself that as often.
If you’re going to make a callout post about me at least @ me I love attention
Running list of things I’ve been called because I think it’s funny, if you hate me please feel free to add to this list. All of these come from either TERFs or transmasc targeting transphobes
Middle aged British woman
Most mentally ill trans man
Least obvious transandro
Sock puppet
Deranged psycho
TMRA trying to poison transfeminism
Transmasc Ben Shapiro
Pathetic cisgender woman/fake trans
Terven princess
Bitch (x5), Cunt (x6), Pooner (x3), Slut (x1)
Some more info about me and my beliefs under the cut:
I’m pretty critical of the trans community because it’s my home and I love it. I don’t want us to have to live in a house with broken windows and leaky faucets just because we’re convinced that we can never have anything better. I want better for us. I want us to be safe and happy and I don’t want any of us to be shoved aside as if we don’t matter. Trans liberation should not only be available for white binary trans people who pass. We need more love for trans people of color outside of turning dead Black trans women into saints without ever listening to what they fought for. We need more love for trans people outside of the imperial core, especially those who don’t speak English or who struggle with it. We need more love for intersex people no matter how they identify. We need love for people who, seeking acceptance from a community who is meant to love and care for them, are told that their issues are “too complicated” or “derailing the conversation”. To the people on the fringes: I love you.
One thing that’s going to be controversial about me is that I will be referring to myself as female. I don’t believe that it’s useful to me to say I’ve changed my sex or that I’m not deeply affected by the patriarchal, sexist society we live in. I don’t believe this is “self misgendering” as I literally don’t believe that it’s possible to misgender yourself and I also don’t think sex and gender are the same thing. If you, the person reading this, do not identify this way that’s fine but please don’t try to change the way I speak about my body and my oppression because it makes you uncomfortable. I don’t believe that your identity has any impact on mine or my validity and I hope you will extend me the same courtesy.
I do also believe in *some* of the tenets of radical feminism. I mean this with as much emphasis as possible: some. I don’t believe in trans exclusion, I’m not a lesbian separatist, etc etc. What I do believe is that gender is a construct that has mostly been used to create a sexist hierarchical society (think gender roles and stereotypes). In my ideal post-patriarchal world, nobody would be trans in the way that no one would be cis, we would all just use whatever clothes and pronouns we wanted and there would be no hierarchy. I also believe that sex based oppression is real and I don’t think misogyny could exist without it. This does not mean I don’t believe in transmisogyny or that I think all misogyny is sex based.
Another important thing I believe is that we really *really* need to do more to center trans voices outside of the imperial core. White people in the trans community (including myself) also need to stop appropriating language used specifically about racial violence (eg “digital lynching” to refer to blogs getting banned) and language that is hyperbolic to the point of meaninglessness (calling bans on gender affirming care for children in the US “genocide”)
As a last note I’m sincerely uninterested in any discourse that completely ignores misogyny as a monstrous violent force in our world. If I see one more person talk about “AFAB privilege” or say female specific issues like pregnancy, abortion, FGM, menstrual stigma, lack of inclusion in medical studies, child marriage, (I could go on forever) don’t matter as much as what trans people in the US go through I’m going to lose my mind.
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Do you have a favorite book or author? I liked your feminist rec list but do you read fiction at all?
Oh I read wayyy more fiction than non-fiction lol. I tend to lean more towards literary fiction and those aren’t as fun to talk to people about unfortunately. When someone asks me what the book I’m reading is about they don’t usually want to hear “it’s a fragmented narrative of several generations of dead women preparing for another to die” or “it’s a novel by Virginia Woolf exploring gender roles throughout history and the meaning of beauty through an immortals perspective” like that’s no fun.
Pedro Páramo by Juan Rulfo - fragments, ghost towns, memory/“murmurs”
Orlando by Virginia Woolf - time, womanhood/gender, beauty, self understanding
I Gave You Eyes and You Looked Towards Darkness by Irene SolĂ - generational curses, the human body, folklore
The Left Hand of Darkness by Ursula K. Le Guin - balance, love, human connection
I Who Have Never Known Men by Jacqueline Harpman - isolation, intimacy, unanswerable questions, time
Purple Hibiscus by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie - coming of age, abuse, hypocrisy, freedom
We Have Always Lived in the Castle by Shirley Jackson - isolation, willful ignorance, mental illness
I’m about to read Our Wives Under the Sea by Julia Armfield and The Sundial by Shirley Jackson (she’s one of my favorite authors, pretty much everything she’s written is gold). For short story collections I really recommend Changing Planes by Ursula K. Le Guin.
Do you have a favorite book or author? I liked your feminist rec list but do you read fiction at all?
Oh I read wayyy more fiction than non-fiction lol. I tend to lean more towards literary fiction and those aren’t as fun to talk to people about unfortunately. When someone asks me what the book I’m reading is about they don’t usually want to hear “it’s a fragmented narrative of several generations of dead women preparing for another to die” or “it’s a novel by Virginia Woolf exploring gender roles throughout history and the meaning of beauty through an immortals perspective” like that’s no fun.
question: what the fuck do you think happens to people seen as women who are "treated as little more than delusional" because historically its been putting them in mental institutions and conversion therapy. this idea that trans men are less harmed by transphobia is just fucking wrong and harmful and it needs to fucking stop
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Hey so the porn post is really bad because my sexuality is tuck inside a screen and I can't physically get off unless it's to potentially abused and trafficked women so could you stop talking about it entirely? It's not MY fault I have to do this and it doesn't matter anyway since I am only one person and it says nothing about me as a person who thinks there's nothing wrong with this continued abuse as long as I get some fleeting pleasure out of it. /s
Honestly, thank you for speaking up about the horrors of pornography. I haven't ever worked with pornography actors but I have worked with prostitutes who used to work in that field and the stories they had to tell me kept me awake at night and led to my getting my first long-term therapist because I could not handle that on my own. I cannot imagine what so many of those women (and men as well) go through and this brushing off of their struggle is just really disgusting.
Yeah a lot of people think sexuality is completely removed from social attitudes about misogyny and racism (or both at the same time I mean god look at the first page of Pornhub) and that since conservatives don’t like it, the porn industry must be a wonderful leftist institution. As much as the chocolate you eat is likely farmed with slave labor, much of the porn available is either made from or directly profits from exploitation and abuse.
People always accuse me of being a prude or being anti-masturbation and say porn has always existed (it has but it also doesn’t exist in a vacuum, for example much of the visual pornography from the Roman times has been taken from the walls of brothels where enslaved women were raped in dark stone rooms. So yes funny sex haha but theres still blood on it). So just go do that! Jack off to vampire erotica! Call up a friend who’s chill! Draw a big penis! Oh my fucking god you have to know it’s possible to get off without benefitting from exploitation or possibly even bona fide sex slavery!!
And if you can’t muster up the will to give a shit about cis women and girls (because I know that’s really fucking hard for a lot of people apparently) at least acknowledge the fact that gay and trans people often have to do sex work to survive and just for a moment think about how you profit from your siblings exploitation.
i love how these anons are erasing the fact that you are also a woman. anything to put that damn ~TME~ back in their place
Honestly it’s probably a good thing they can’t see through my TME aura or whatever because a transmasc with any sort of relationship with womanhood or femininity is kind of blood in the water for these kinds of people
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Also to clear everything up (even though I absolutely should not have to, people are just fucking piranhas over a trans man having a hard time) the reasons I’m not friends with that person anymore is because when I confronted them on using AI to write their entire capstone paper and threatened to tell the principal if they didn’t fess up, they had a meltdown on my birthday and told everyone they were going to commit. I spent my entire 18th birthday terrified and could not enjoy a single moment with my family because my best friend knew staging a mental breakdown would get them out of consequences. Which yeah it did their only “punishment” was getting even more attention. Throughout our entire friendship I initiated every hangout, every discussion, paid for every concert and convention, you know the deal.
So yeah I stopped talking to them and it has literally nothing to do with this blog. Is that enough for you vultures?
Finding out that not only is the average person suspicious of feminism but other queer people are too has actually made me feel the need to be like 300% more feminist irl
honestly I do kinda get why some transfems might be wary of some just generally feminist talking points, as a lot of them could be a slipperly slop to terfism, but also like you are actively alienating your fellow queer people by like refusing to engage in anything feminist because it might make other people realize that they experience oppression too, and that there are things to discuss other than transfem's problems. Like making feminism a bad dirty word makes people 'peak' and become radfems/radleaning
“Slippery slope to TERFism” get it together dude wtf
has anyone else noticed how tumblr “transfeminists” have not read a single book of feminist theory except whipping girl? (and tbh i bet most of them have not read WG either, just tumblr posts badly regurgitating it but thats another matter)
like they always go on about listen to women when women feminists are telling you to shut up feministly hey lil bro lil buddy why do you hate women for being feminists you stupid MRA… and then none of them have read a single work of feminist scholarship. Yk. The thing that feminism actually is and came from. An intellectual practice started by women to discuss and critique the way misogyny works in society both structurally and interpersonally.
its almost like they don’t think much of women at all actually, if those women are cis. It’s almost like they dont think anyone assigned female at birth has anything worthwhile to say about the female experience or misogyny or gendered oppression. One has to laugh…
*obv not all the feminist canon is written by cis women, there’s plenty by trans people of all genders and types, but foundational feminist scholarship is still largely cis female
Yeah that’s pretty much it, any feminism that doesn’t directly apply to them must simply be TERF bullshit
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spend more time being bitter towards women online, that will definitely make you friends
Isn’t it funny how when someone stops being friends with a trans woman for literally any reason it’s basically murder but when I decide to stop talking to someone who makes me feel like shit for reasons completely unrelated to my tumblr blog it’s because I’m secretly evil?
agdhdhffd how funny would that be oh my god. I don’t think it is but if she’s a grown adult “lawyer” and is getting involved in teenage drama that would be hilarious
