#nuancefem

this idea that women just “choose” SW on a whim or because they’re wanting to cater to the male gaze?? delusional. at least 90% of women end up there because they don’t have other options. this is my personal opinion as a former sex worker who used it to escape homelessness. most of my co-workers were single mums struggling to feed their kids. full stop.

and YES you’ll see women online saying “i love it, i chose it, it’s empowering.” but you’re forgetting: that’s the JOB. the fantasy is the product. the whole point is to make men believe it’s fun, empowering, and a choice.

No. They can be better. And they are morally worse and more corrupt for it. Men can choose to fight the patriarchy and treat their female counterparts with respect and dignity. But they choose not to, because they can reap the same or more societal benefits by being misogynistic.

Baby boys aren’t born misogynistic. Sure, they may be born with whatever male hormonal differences do, but that isn’t even 1% of the reason why they grow up to be misogynists.

As they grow up they learn that misogyny is rewarded. As they grow up they are exposed to porn which they choose to use as a sexual role model. As they grow up they watch their parents model a hierarchal power dynamic. They see all of this, and they like it. They choose it for themselves.

I think that men can change for the better. People here hear this and say “you can’t teach them” or “coddling them won’t do shit” and I agree. What women need to do is stop rewarding and enabling their behavior.

We need to free women from human trafficking and exploitation, and we also need to convince women who make porn of their own free will to stop. We need to punish the men who make it. We need to help women out of their abusive marriages, and we also need to convince women who are in relationships with even slightly misogynistic men to end them. We need to have zero tolerance for casual misogyny. We need to start shunning men who are misogynists. We need to hold accountable women who are enabling the men in their lives to hurt other women. Shun men who watch porn. Shun men who say slurs. Stop having their children.

And for the men sympathetic to our cause, we need to convince them to use their privilege as men to further feminist goals. We need them to vote for women’s rights. We need them to intervene during “locker room” misogynistic talk when women aren’t around. We need them to break up the male solidarity around misogyny in a way only they can do.

But we can’t do this as individuals. Strength comes in numbers. Women do face societal consequences for standing up to misogyny. Other women need to defend her and provide for her needs. And in order to do this we need to educate ourselves. Make money. Be independent of men. Become doctors, lawyers, teachers. We need to do everything we can to support women in places where they cannot do these things.

If we can do all of this, men will change. Maybe not the men who are already set in their ways. But those growing up will see that misogyny does not reward them in life. They will not see porn. They will not see their mothers submitting to their fathers and they will not see women submitting to men. And they will choose to treat women as human beings. Because they can.

SCREENNAMES / BIOS:

names like aidan, kai, lily, skye, jay, rory, xander, asher/ash, ethan, ophelia, etc.

uses neopronouns

pronouns.page or pronouns.cc linked

"male" in bio with a clearly female pfp or vice versa

terfs/radfems dni

onlyfans link

puppygirl / pup / catboy / catgirl

bimbo / whore / slut

ugly toothpaste flag plastered everywhere

RHETORIC:

women are just as violent as men

men don't rape more than women

(men on men rape is ignored by almost all libfems)

being "nonbinary" erases your birth sex

lesbians are attracted to men and penises

men can and should be lesbians

bi lesbians are real, labels are meaningless

all of the world's suffering is driven by terfs and jk rowling

women would be better off submitting

an all-nonbinary society is utopia

sex isn't real and intersex people are a secret magic third sex

women should stop being scared of men

lesbian relationships are inherently homophobic or toxic unless they include males

terrible world events wouldn't happen if aidan he/they/woof was in charge

feminists are stupid and aggressive

being a woman is not a positive thing

women's problems are lesser than men's

penises are beautiful and vagina is disgusting

transwomen are literally the exact same as biological women

attraction is pronouns based

porn is #empowering

watching porn is feminist and based

bdsm is the height of women's liberation

we should inject children with hrt

"bitch" and "cunt" are just normal words to describe women you don't like