I didn’t realize there were so many people getting destroyed by mattresses 😂
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I didn’t realize there were so many people getting destroyed by mattresses 😂
I love these so much.

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Oh, to be a little kitten who just got vaccinated and then taken to a high-end restaurant and tasted the best food the chefs could offer and then fell asleep in a basket.
They're so young, but you know that was the best meal of their lives.
For a craft exercise, I read a BUNCH of romcoms recently, and condensed a bunch of notes on each into a set of observations coming at the genre as a fantasy author. Would y'all be interested in me sharing that here?
Okay, SO. A brief disclaimer: I will not be naming titles or saying what a specific book did wrong, because at the end of the day, I know how much work it was regardless and there's also a non-zero chance I will sit next to that author on a panel someday. Now let's get into it!
Most of these novels introduced the love interest not just in the first chapter, not just in the first scene, but on page one. And it's smart, because the point is that these two people fall in love, so you're jumping right into the thick of things.
The romcoms that made me laugh the hardest utilized physical comedy the best. I love banter. I love banter. But it can't carry a romcom on its own.
Publishing meta gets publishing money. Books about booksellers, editors, publicists, etc sure seem to get above-average in-house support. Which is not to imply that it's undeserved! Just that it's landing with its targeted readers.
The (usually) contemporary setting means the reader's holding less setting-specific info in their head. This frees up some RAM, as it were, for things I would have to approach very carefully in fantasy, such as dropping a flashback smack in the middle of a scene, or nonlinear storytelling.
Compelling chemistry involves the traits the love interests uniquely bring out in each other. E.g. a stoic person's hidden sense of humor, or a pushover's ability to stand up for something. It's also key that they like these traits on some level, and tied to the person they want to be.
Negative character traits can be greatly mitigated by self-awareness. E.g. It's one thing if someone is consistently and needlessly blunt to the point of rudeness, and acts like that's not a problem; it's another if, internally, they are unhappily aware they're driving people away but don't know how to be any other way.
Escalation. The obvious choice is predictable (some may say boring), but the unexpected choice can feel over-engineered and inorganic. I feel like the balance here is to take the obvious choice and push it further. E.g. Horrible ex shows up at the bakery the narrator just started! Obvious choice is to kick him out. Engineered choice would be having him slip on fresh-waxed floors and land in a vat of custard that just happened to be the right size and sitting in the middle of the bakery. Hm. The escalated version is to have the narrator tell him to get out, and when he balks, start throwing day-olds until he goes. Another example: Our two jerks are going on their first date. An obvious complication: Someone's ex is also on a date at the same place. An over-engineered complication: The ex insists they leave, and when they don't, they go to the manager and try to have our jerks kicked out because their daddy owns the restaurant, and also they have the jerks' car towed. An escalated complication: The ex insists on sharing a table with the jerks, and it's clear they still have feelings.
Related: There's a lot of mileage to be had from people/things progressing a funny and covert goal while the non-narrator scene partner is distracted. E.g. a dog slowly stealing off its owner's plate while the owner is flirting and/or arguing with the narrator.
A lot of books used interstitials for flavor, like emails, transcripts, etc. These can also be used to do some heavy expository lifting by letting you set expectations—think an open mic night flyer that can convey the venue's vibe, or directions to a corn maze that get increasingly sketchy.
We all love competence porn. If we can see what a character is good at, we'll want to see it again. If we can see them be very, very good at it, but thwarted at the last moment—by their own character flaw, for maximum impact—then we will be desperate to see them pull it off in the future. IMHO the more you, the author, want the reader to like a character, the sooner we should see their competence.
RELATED: If a love interest is meant to be a snob, it is non-negotiable that we have to see their competence, in action, on the page. There was one romcom I bounced off like a basketball, and this was a major part of why. I'm altering occupations here, but in a nutshell:
Narrator, a pastry chef with struggling career, idolizes a famous and award-winning baker
Turns out the baker can't make pastries worth a damn because he thinks sweets are frivolous, but the bakery needs to expand its offerings, so she gets brought in to help him
He tells her what she does is meaningless, and she doesn't know how to do real baking, and overall is wildly condescending, but the narrator puts up with it because she idolizes him
We see many awards he's won as a baker, and many high-level professional connections he has
We never see him bake. And we never see her eat something he baked. Our narrator tells us he's just that good and we have to accept it.
Y'all, I was so mad. Give us a crumb, please.
12. Most books tackled a sense of loneliness or isolation in at least the narrator, and sometimes the love interest as well. Even if they had active social lives, there was a gap that only the love interest sees, and only they can fill.
13. There were really interesting uses of sensory and signature details to make a character stand out and/or stand in for physical intimacy early on. E.g. a character slowly rubbing a thumb over the chip in a mug's rim—to me, that gesture is close enough to evoke running a thumb over someone's bottom lip, and the chip gives it sensory oomph. Other characters would have a recurring signature nickname, appearance detail, or gesture; bonus if it had actual character significance.
14. On a slightly more downer note... I found one thing a bit unsettling. I'm threading a needle here, because no, fiction is not supposed to be a moral lecture, yes, there is room for all types of fantasies and explorations in romance. But I found it a tad grim how many books were specifically fantasies of enormous men and itty bitty women. How most of the heroes are supposed to be flawed but romantic, attractive, respectful... and yet in the physical intimacy scenes, a lot of the language falls back on evoking domination, possession, and control by a man. He "claims" lips, he "brands" with his touch, he's "marking [narrator] as his own." And none of it is an actual D/s relationship, it's all quite vanilla. I may just be too ace for that to sound appealing?
It does go hand-in-hand with an interesting recurring bias against cities, where they're scary places that people leave after their dreams are crushed, and find real happiness in a "sweet, traditional life" in a small town. With 80% of the US population living in urban areas, the framing of small towns as keepers of tradition was similarly dissonant to me.
All in all, it was a great study for character work, sensuality, and executing straightforward plots well. Highly recommend y'all pick up a romcom or several and take notes yourself!
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Quotes from the first 30% of The Will To Change by bell hooks that I've highlighted during my read:
"[...] we have to admit to the truth that we sometimes wish our own fathers, sons, brothers, lovers were not there. But, this truth exists alongside another truth: the truth that this wish causes us anguish."
"[...] many women simply felt that feminism gave them permission to be indifferent to men, to turn away from male needs."
"Feminist thinkers, like myself, who wanted to include men in the discussion were usually labeled male-identified and dismissed. We were "sleeping with the enemy."
"Many women cannot hear male pain about love because it sounds like an indictment of female failure. Since sexist norms have taught us that loving is our task whether in our role as mothers or lovers or friends, if men say they are not loved, then we are at fault; we are to blame."
"Even the women who are pissed off at men, women most of whom are not and maybe never will be feminist, use their anger to avoid being truly committed to helping create a world where males of all ages can know love."
"[...] no one talks about the role patriarchal notions of manhood play in teaching boys that it is their nature to kill, then teaching them that they can do nothing to change this nature -- nothing, that is, that will leave their masculinity intact."
"Men do oppress women. People are hurt by rigid sexist role patterns. These two realities co-exist. Male oppression of women cannot be excused by the recognition that there are ways men are hurt by rigid sexist roles."
"Patriarchy as a system has denied males access to full emotional well-being, which is not the same as feeling rewarded, successful, or powerful because of one's capacity to assert control over others."
"If patriarchy were truly rewarding to men, the violence and addiction in family life that is so all-pervasive would not exist. This violence was not created by feminism. If patriarchy were rewarding, the overwhelming dissatisfaction most men feel in their work lives -- a dissatisfaction extensively documented in the work of Studs Terkel and echoed in Faludi's treatise -- would not exist."

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A knitted belt from the Byzantine Empire, c.420-600 CE.
hang on a sec. this belt was, in all likelihood, not formed by knitting, but by nalbinding.
nalbinding is sometimes called “one-needle knitting,” and they do look very similar, but the method of construction is completely different. nalbinding uses a single needle (more like a large, blunt sewing needle than a knitting needle) to loop shorter lengths of yarn onto itself. it’s hardier and less prone to unraveling than knitting, since nalbound stitches are almost like knots.
[ID: a diagram showing the method of construction of the nalbinding “coptic stitch,” the stitch that most resembles knitting.]
so why do i think this example is nalbound instead of knit? because as far as i can tell, the earliest extant example of knitting dates to the 12th century AD at the very earliest. nalbinding goes at least as far back as the 3rd-5th century AD. here’s an article from the victoria & albert museum explaining just that.
plus, i think the hardier nature of nalbinding would be better for a belt anyway. this belt appears to be constructed in a tube—if it were knit, this would probably be far stretchier than you’d want for a belt. nalbinding would hold its shape better, imo.
the louvre caption does state that the method of construction is tricot, which google tells me is french for knitting. (i’d love to know from someone who speaks french if tricot is also the term for nalbinding.) but as i said before, they really do look very similar until you get into them & examine the structure, & it’s not uncommon for even museums to make this mistake.
anyways…… if anyone has evidence that this actually is knit, lmk because that would set the development of knitting way earlier than is currently supposed. but if not—nalbinding is cool, too, check it out!!
I was scrolling down looking for this reply because I thought the same thing, but I looked it up and apparently there's some indication that this method, and even this specific piece, might be compound knitting! Possibly but not necessarily done on a peg loom
The earliest known specimen of true knitting has been dated to 425-594 CE. By comparison with similar objects from Egypt, it may also have o
After all the computery shenanigans, it's high time for a proper textile post again. And fortunately, I have just the topic! When I was at
!!! this is so cool, thank you so much for correcting me!
“everyone is mad at me and they just won’t tell me” —> “no one has said anything about being mad at me and i haven’t done anything to warrant being mad at so if someone is silently fuming about me and not saying anything that’s their problem and actually quite weird of them and i can effortlessly move on with my life”
this took SUCH a huge deal of unlearning because, like so many of you, i came out of a home where being quietly in trouble WAS the default state, and i DID grow up not just with the assumption but borderline religious conviction that Everyone Is Mad At Me, I Am Bad, I Must Exist In A Constant State of Attempting to Pacify The Natural Rage I Inspire In Everyone. and no it actually turns out that my family are the freaks . and yours are too
“this isn’t true because i DEFINITELY silently fume at people in the hopes they’ll figure out what they did and apologize” that’s not good. you shouldn’t do that
“this isn’t true because the ex-friendship that traumatized me ended explosively after they were mad at me and never told me why” that’s not good. they shouldn’t be doing that
“i don’t think this is true because my current friend group is constantly icing me out until i figure out what ive done to upset them and properly apologized without being told” hey thats not good. they should not be doing that
if the peacefulness of your relationship with someone (familial, romantic, friendly, anything) can be destroyed by effective communication/asking them for effective communication, you have got to get out of there. if you can’t get out of there, you’ve got to throw away any ideas about what that person thinks of you because they have their own shit to figure out before they can accurately read anyone else
some of you don’t seem to realize that In the clearing stands a boxer and a fighter by his trade and he carries the reminders of every glove that laid him down or cut him till he cried out in his anger and his shame "I am leaving, I am leaving" but the fighter still remains
hi, a lot of you need a perspective reset
the average human lifespan globally is 70+ years
taking the threshold of adulthood as 18, you are likely to spend at least 52 years as a fully grown adult
at the age of 30 you have lived less than one quarter of your adult life (12/52 years)
'middle age' is typically considered to be between 45-65
it is extremely common to switch careers, start new relationships, emigrate, go to college for the first or second time, or make other life-changing decisions in middle age
it's wild that I even have to spell it out, but older adults (60+) still have social lives and hobbies and interests.
you can still date when you get old. you can still fuck. you can still learn new skills, be fashionable, be competitive. you can still gossip, you can still travel, you can still read. you can still transition. you can still come out.
young doesn't mean peaked. you're inexperienced in your 20s! you're still learning and practicing! you're developing social skills and muscle memory that will last decades!
there are a million things to do in the world, and they don't vanish overnight because an imaginary number gets too big
Funny growing up in the late 2000s and seeing constant "don't text and drive" warnings, PSAs telling us to put our phones down behind the wheel, wait until you're home to send that text, a phone-distracted driver is a deadly driver etc etc
Only for modern car manufacturers to be like "we made the car a phone :) now you have to text and drive to change the radio station :)"

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YouGov doing the Lord's work yet again
Which of the following is your favorite dinosaur?
Tyrannosaurus Rex
Brontosaurus
Triceratops
Pterodactyl
Velociraptor
Stegosaurus
Brachiosaurus
Other
I don't have a favorite
*We know pterodactyls and plesiosaurs aren't dinosaurs
did you know?
- the menu at a restaurant is not an ingredient list you can use to create new dishes we could hypothetically make for you instead of the choices on the menu
- we do not have omelets on the menu because we do not make or serve omelets
- yes, i know we have eggs on the menu, but we still do not have omelets.
- yes, i realize omelets are eggs, but not all eggs are omelets, and the eggs we serve are not omelets.
- you cannot out-logic me so that i cave in and ring in an omelet for you. i am better at arguing than you are.
- there are no omelets here. there have not been, and will not be, omelets here. if you want an omelet you will need to go somewhere else.
- i can also promise that you do not want an omelet cooked by line cooks who have not been trained how to make omelets. because we don't sell omelets.
- no, i am not going to single-handedly put service on pause for the next twenty minutes while three cooks google how to make an omelet and then proceed to fuck up multiple omelets that our kitchen is not set up to prepare, so you can have an omelet.
-and we both know you'd bitch if it takes longer than six minutes to come out anyway.
- no, you may not just go back into the kitchen and make yourself an omelet. the line cooks do not take kindly to trespassing. also, what the hell.
- i hear that you want an omelet. that does not change the fact that we do not offer omelets. if you want to eat an omelet, you will need to go to another restaurant that does have omelets on the menu. this is not negotiable.
- i am the manager.
- yeah, alright, go fuck yourself too, bob.
Pinned comment on James Somerton's video essay The History of Queer Baiting (Part 3...The Movies), where Somerton talks in part about the queer coding of Steve and Bucky's relationship in Captain America: The First Avenger.
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honestly i feel like the first avenger works more for a trans narrative than for a gay narrative.
what i gathered from the movie was a few themes that really work for a trans masc story. and just some things that really stuck out to me and thing that i just really identified and related to.
-before the serum, there's a huge message of struggles of being in a body that you don't really identify with. steve feels like he isn't a real man. before the serum, he's this small skinny guy that almost everyone looked down upon. and who everyone considered to be less than. he keeps trying to enlist into the military to "prove himself" as bucky puts it --that could easily be taken to mean "prove you're a real man" because there's this huge undertone of identity struggles, and steve has this masculinity complex. he feels like he isn't a real man so he keeps forcing himself into the most masculine role thought possible at the time --a soldier in the US military, out on the front lines fighting for his country. and not back at home collecting scrap metal while bucky is out there fighting.
(also an interesting thing to note is that during their argument at the recruitment booth steve tells bucky that he's "not going to collect scrap metal in a little red wagon" which was highly advertised to be a woman's wartime job at the time.)
also the parallels between the first avenger and mulan are pretty impossible to ignore:
-both people who don't feel like they fit into the ridged roles that society has expected them two
-both military centric, they both enlist illegally to fight for their country because it's what they believe is the right thing to do
-the flag pole scene and the arrow scene are practically IDENTICAL, or they at least carry the same message and themes
-the steve rogers transformation scene and mulan cutting her hair scene are also very similar. both represent "rebirth" (a project rebirth lmao) for their respective characters.
while on the subject of the steve rogers transformation scene. there's simply no way that you can tell me that it doesn't carry some trans themes. like. steve is this little guy that girls won't even spare a glance at and just overall someone who wouldn't be respected in a masculine context in 1940s america. then when they put him in the pod, he comes out with "everything on the inside enhanced", and he just so happened to look like what the ideals for a "man" were at that time? big and tall, muscular and a strong jaw. handsome, and a soldier. the "specimen" of a perfect man. as a trans guy, this is exactly how i feel about myself sometimes. steve basically went on testosterone and transitioned on screen right in front of me. he went in a pod and then he was "rebirthed" into looking like what he always felt he should look like.
remember that erskine said that steve was the chosen one basically, i remember the lines "everything on the inside becomes the outside" and "this is why you were chosen. because a strong man who has known strength all his life may loose respect for that power, but a weak man who knows the value of strength, and knows...compassion. this is why you were chosen." from doctor erskine have me squinting. remember that steve specifically was chosen by dr. erskine. he wanted steve specifically, and in some scenes it's very clear that erskine is adamant about choosing steve for the program, when he was talking to that general guy he wouldn't even consider taking anyone else for it. it's almost as if erskine found someone who wasn't very secure in their masculine identity, and who was forcing themselves to conform to society's expectations of being a "Man" and found the perfect person in his eyes for a project that's literally described as the inside becoming the outside.
(one interesting thing to note is that during the 1930s-40s germany was ahead of the game when it came to medical transition, the first top surgery was performed by a german doctor in 1912. and when the nazi's became a thing anything gay was kind of illegal so they moved to the US to continue their work there. so i think it just WORKS so well to apply this story to a trans narrative.)
it also really plays into the idea that steve was captain america even before the serum --before he was a "man" or before society saw him as one.
sorry this was reaaaaaaaally long, but this idea just makes so much sense to me as a trans guy who often struggles with his identity and warped ideas of masculinity and being a "man". and this concept explains why i was so obsessed with this movie when i was like 11. like small dude hops in a pod and boom he looks like that now, it was all just very appealing to me.
askksjksjksj anyway stucky rights.
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Got into a discussion about emergency response at a professional retreat recently and everyone was going on and on about agility, and I was like, "Okay but what about contingency?"
And they were like "What?"
And I was like, "Agility isn't the ultimate form of preparedness. Contingency is. Agility still requires you to flounder and figure out a solution in the moment, but if you have a contingency plan, all you have to do is implement it."
And they were like "But you can't make contingency plans for every situation!"
And I was like, "Yeah, you basically can if you just identify all of your basic dependencies and contingency plan around the loss of any dependency," and then I gave a few examples.
And they all stared at me like I'm an alien.
Anyway, that's how I figured out I'm Batman-coded and also learned how Batman must feel talking to supposedly professional superheroes who never bothered to run disaster scenarios until I pointed out that it's insane that they don't already have a plan for if Superman turns evil.
There’s a phrase that really stuck in my head around this. It was from one of the British divers who enacted the Thai caving rescue, though I couldn’t tell you which one or which interview.
As he described to the interviewer a moment of panic and how he he overcame, the interviewer said, in one of those, summarise-last-answer-given-with-appropriate-levels-of-respect-in-order-to-proceed-to-next-question phrasing’s, “Wow, so you rose to the occasion -“
And the diver said, “No, actually people always get that exactly wrong. In an unexpected and urgent situation you don’t rise to the occasion. You sink to the level of your training.”
sometimes people think I am on Mad At Them Island, when in fact I am far more often paddling around in the waters of Slightly Annoyed With Their Recent Behavior Bay, or perhaps on the beautiful Peninsula of Get Well Soon But I Will Not Be Engaging With All Of That
You Owe Either Myself Or A Loved One A Specific Apology Island is also a different location

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DID YOU KNOW that sometimes characters lie. out loud to others and internally to themselves, and it'll happen right there on the page. other times they are just flat out wrong and don't know it. oftentimes they don't ever find that out. a sizable portion of any story is decidedly not cold hard fact.
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I like the implication that Caesar gets re-murdered each time
that's what makes it a ritual celebration