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Me before I came out, when I did pageants and modeling.

This was me the day of my junior prom. The dress weighed around 20 lbs, was the first one I tried on, and my makeup was done by someone who still thought brown lip liner looked good on white people. I spent the entire day being photographed and generally hating how I looked and wishing I could figure out why, when everything was technically perfect.

Came out in 2016, here's nine years of transformation (in reverse order, sorry)

Turns out I'm neither a Normal Guy nor a woman, but a much weirder type of faggy masc thing.

In my lifestyle lolita egg era. Somehow getting to dress like a princess gave me the will to get up in the morning

granted being a big ol goth doesn't really fit the bill of "socially acceptable heterosexual femininity" but i was HYPER feminine when i was closeted, especially in the years between when i FIRST tried to come out (age 16 - around the time of those first photos) and when i actually made the jump (age 19 - about a year after the last photo)

you can tell in that second to last photo i literally got a tattoo that said "MAD GIRL" which was an exercise in many things, including abstract self-harm, a visual reminder that i had given up on myself, and wildly underestimating the number of dudes who would misread it as BAD GIRL and take that as a cue to say gross shit to me while i was at work

anyway never kill yourself

haha yeah 🫣

consciously dipped my toes into the gender fuckery pool at around 15/16 but I was pentecostal at the time and well. took them out real quick

i tried very very hard to be “femme” for a LONG time but during covid lockdowns I didn’t have to perform for anyone and I slowly started to let it all go and now I’m a silly little man 😌

So, if any trans men are being told about this, it’s not true!! Smoking will not change your voice, at least not until you’re about forty years down the line and you’ve already irreparably destroyed your lungs and throat and mouth and pretty much every other organ in your body. When you hear heavy smokers with deeper, scratchier voices it is literally because their vocal cords have been ruined. This is not a passive effect of smoking, it is a very very damaging one!

It’s simply not worth it! There will be no meaningful changes except terrible ones. Voice training will do a lot more for you than cigarettes will, I promise that the people urging you to start smoking as a voice training method do not have your best interests at heart!

(And you know what, this also goes for not eating due to the idea that starving yourself will decrease your chest size. Like with smoking, there will be no meaningful changes except terrible ones. Your body is worth so much more than that and there will always be healthier alternatives!)

(Btw, afaik smoking only has this effect on estrogen from HRT. Estrogen that AFAB bodies produce naturally is not affected, so smoking is still bad for trans men)

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So many of the items in our daily lives are sew-able. A simple needle and thread changes the way you think. When an item breaks, you no longer think, "I guess I must buy a new one..." Instead, you think, "I guess I must fix it..."

How many of these everyday items rest for eternity in a landfill, because of a simple break that a needle and thread could have fixed? How many excess items were manufactured to make up for the forgetting of the humble needle and thread...?

Började spela det där spelet du berättade om Kan tyvärr inte så många städer men råkade upptäcka att den accepterar väldigt många förorter! Så typ Huddinge, Knutby och Vårsta går jättebra. Helt plötsligt gick det ganska mycket lättare

Väldigt kul spel, tack för tipset!

I Sverige använder vi oss av den senare, vi sitter alltså inte och bestämmer i riksdagen eller kommunfullmäktige vad som är och inte är en by (som de gör på lokalnivå om cities i t.ex. USA). Men mer relevant är att vi inte har byar, samhällen, eller städer som administrativa enheter. De finns i vardagsspråket, men inte i juridiken.

Samma sak gäller inte för hundar. Där parar random personer sina hundar, oftast helt utan hänsyn till beteende och hälsa, och många gånger verkar det till och med vara oplanerat flr att de haft okastrerade hundar med okastrerade hundar av motsatt kön. Jag fattar inte varför, istället för att bara göra lagar kring att ägaren ansvarar för hundens beteende, att de inte har gjort några lagar om att hundar ska kastreras. Det finns egentligen ingen anledning till att random hundägare som inte har någon erfarenhet av uppfödning behöver ha en okastrerad hund som de kan få valpar från.

Det gör tyvärr också valpar till smugglingsvaror - särskilt under covid när folk jobbade hemma och "passade på" att skaffa hund. Tror ärligt talat att det finns en sorts hundägare som tänker att de får igen kostnaden för att ha hund om de säljer lite valpar. Och så finns det en annan typ som verkar tycka kastrering är grymt ("jag skulle ju inte vilja bli av med mina ballar om jag var hund!" är ett argument jag har hört flera gånger).