All Who Wander

Sometimes, what you need to do is literally ask for a refill. I know that can be scary and upsetting and requires you to be willing to be vulnerable, but please consider two things:

One: if what you want to do is be able to fill other people's cups, you can't fill from an empty cup. You literally can't do the work if you're emptied out. You need to do this so you can help.

Two: for the people that love you, the people that really matter, you aren't imposing on them by asking for a refill. This is one of the things I really internalized from coming home to Judaism: when someone asks me to help them, they're giving me the opportunity to perform a mitzvah. No matter your belief system or outlook, I think we can probably all agree that being given an opportunity to be more awesome is pretty great.

So ask. Here are a few scripts you can try.

"Hey, I am...

... having a bad day.

... really struggling.

... really hurting because of the state of the world.

... having a hard time focusing on positive things.

... feeling emptied out.

Could you please help me? I could really use...

... some company.

... to hear about something beautiful you saw today.

... to hear some good news.

... to see a picture of your pet.

... to be told something you like about me.

... to be reminded of something I do that you like.

... your silliest new meme.

... to go for a walk with you.

... to hear about your favorite show.

... a hug."

I have genuinely never asked my friends to love me a little bit louder and gotten anything but an outpouring of support.

Men "care less about their appearance"? Men's clothing tends cheaper, sturdier, but also more boring and featureless. You have to work a lot harder to find interesting cuts or styles or vibrant colors. Shorter hair is far more forgiving to style- I can roll out of bed and examine myself in the mirror and think 'hey, that bedhead look is pretty solid and workable'. Cosmetics 'for men' tend packaged for bulk and convenience and seldom will tell you what their scents actually are so if you like smelling a certain way you have to work harder to think about it.

Even down to men's underwear has a much thicker waistband so it's more likely to show above your pants! I can dress the same way in the exact same pants with different underwear and one of them shows above the waistline and the other doesn't.

And sure we can argue the idea that this marketing exists because it's what men want (IMO, a bit naive considering how large and powerful corporations are / the very sorry state of the ostensible invisible hand) but then I can point to experience working at a daycare and tell you that every three year old boy wants ponytails and his nails painted and likes purple or pink, wants to be a princess, wants to wear costume skirts and dresses, because those things are exciting and pretty- and when those boys turn four or five and start to shy away from them, their response is not a refinement of taste nearly as often as it is one of anxiety and dread- that he has learned those things attract him unwanted attention or admonishment or scolding.

Boys are taught what is safe to want, what they 'should' want. And as a man who intends to enjoy being a man with exactly as much color and glitter as I please, the hollowness of the facade has never been more obvious. Nor more aggravating, considering how much genuine harm and misery comes from it. Manly dudes who really like being "conventionally masculine" aren't going to crumble into dust if walmart stops differentiating some shampoo brands as 'womanly' and some as 'manly'- and he might decide he really likes the way this fruity sparkle body wash makes him smell.

And anyone who replies to this, "Well then the poor shouldn't have children" I'll turn you into Soylent Green because, aside from that being eugenics and all the other reasons, guess what else is highly correlated with poverty? Access to birth control and factual sex education. The solution is to help people out of poverty

“let me be a part of the narrative

in the story they will write someday”

These lyrics have always held a special place in my heart. I think in life, a lot of times, people with abandonment issues can feel as though they’re looking at humanity from the outside in. Like they’re trapped at a window and everyone else is outside and they can’t get out. They can only watch.

I’ve felt that feeling so many times, and it honestly hurts. Especially when you feel like no one is wondering where you are in the first place.

There’s this figure in Greek mythology called Tantalus. He was cursed to live, starving and dying of thirst, while just out of reach of the best foods, water and wine. He could only stare at these things. Never reach them. Supposedly he was a wicked man. I don’t know that much history about him (maybe I’ll look him up in the future), but I think I’ve felt similarly to that with people.

- The gods are not always present, and they don’t hear every prayer

- There is no evidence that the gods can read your thoughts. If you want to pray, it should be said aloud. Whisper it if you must.

- You are not a bad person for existing. You are not sinful, you are not dirty.

- The gods are not wrathful.

- The gods love you, but will not intervene most of the time. You may find comfort in them, but they won’t save you from a bad scenario all by themselves. You have to work.

Figuring out how to fix your fuckups is an important part of the learning process.

Fire safety is iconic and fun for the whole family.

Basil, cinnamon, oregano, parsley, rosemary, and thyme are good spices that you should consider using more in your cooking.

Your mirror self is proud of you and envious of your sick skills. Continue making them jealous.

Sometimes you need to put people in a jar or the freezer for a time out until they learn their lessons.

Food is good for the soul or for growing a soul.

The mushrooms may be tricking you, don't eat them unless you're 100% certain they're safe.

Did you remember to bring your stones inside? Some fade in the sunlight over long periods of time. And others break down in water, so don't leave them out in the rain.

Four cups of water will revive you and any plants you have. Get the Pyrex measuring cup, it's in the back of your things in the kitchen.

Eat a leaf. Preferably not poison ivy, poison oak, or poison sumac.

Your enemies are weak. Do what you can now while you have the chance.

he talks about how deities don't have genders like mortals do and we classified their genders based on their attributes. male/masculine beings gave more 'form' and the female/femme beings gave more 'matter'. they brought this idea from how baby making works.

and someone like dionysos, who is genderfluid, is fluid between the two aspects is literally???

like instead of trans-masc genderfluid i could literally just say i'm form leaning fluid. (gods imagine the head turns i would get in public if i answered with that)

I had randomly generated 2 words, which is where “mole interest” came from. I failed to consider that by generating a new tag, it wouldn’t have had enough posts already in it to prove what I now call “the mole interest effect”.

But now it does.

In 2023, we said “fuck it” a la mythbusters and ended up doing whatever it took to get #mole interest to trend. And it did. And it happened to be September 11th that day, and we managed to get #mole interest to trend ABOVE #9/11.

Do one thing.

Start there, do ONE thing to help. Take an active role in bettering your little corner of the world by solving One Small Problem, whatever it might be.

It may not fix Everything, but it fixes Something. One less thing is broken. One less task needs doing. One less place is uncared for. One less heart is heavy. One less stomach is empty. One less voice is silent.

Vacations are for relaxation, for taking a break and leaving behind everyday problems. One way of doing this is by writing down what you want to leave on little pieces of paper and store them underneath a black tourmaline so they really stay at home.

To make sure your travels are not delayed and go over fast, sprinkle some cinnamon over your ticket and or a paper with your destination.

Train, car, or plane rides can also be very cleansing. As you travel fast, imagine the speed and the air washing away any lingering bad vibes. This way when you arrive at your destination in a clear state.

Singing with the windows down when driving for Hermes and Apollo

Taking the long way home for Hermes

Crocheting or mending my clothes for Hestia

Making meals for my family for Hestia

Washing my face for Aphrodite

Paying random strangers a compliment for Aphrodite

Giving the homeless food/water/change for Hermes

Doing my chores for Hestia

Caring for my pets for Apollo

Consulting my tarot for Apollo

Caring for my garden for Persephone

Setting boundaries for Persephone

Veiling/wearing a hat for Hestia

Exploring new music genre for Apollo

Writing for Hermes and Apollo

Lending a stranger an ear for Aphrodite

Taking an extra free sample for Hermes

having a hard time remembering to drink water? you have a devotional water bottle now

feeling down about your sense of style? devotional outfits are right there

struggling to shower? devote it, and use it to spiritually cleanse