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and if you’re going to argue that the third gendering is is a good thing then I have to ask how come there’s no third gender available culturally for people with vaginas? This is why the argument that some cultures were better or more accepting before European colonization falls flat… it was marginally better but still not that different. The sacred “third gender” was only for the girls with dicks, but even then the dolls were NOT recognized as “real women.” Take for example the Muxes of Oaxaca. My research says that these women cannot marry and have to remain celibate all their lives in order to be seen as worthy of their cultural importance or spiritual powers… and their community treats them like a mix between beloved gay boys and nice aunties. Like, I remember I watched El Secreto Del Rio, and in it there’s a scene where the main character, a trans woman, tells the group of Muxes, “I think ‘‘Muxe’ is fine but it’s not me. I want to be a woman! I AM a woman!” Beforehand, the Muxes had been telling her to settle for the Muxe label. That show is really wow

Balkan Sworn Virgins

Ayelonit in Rabbinic Judaism

Sipiniq in Inuit culture (sometimes considered under the Two Spirit umbrella)

Female husbands and female kings in various parts of Africa (here is more information — also see King Ahebi Ugbabe, Nzinga Mbande)

Third gendering is often used as a way to delegitimize trans women, but its a massive oversimplification to say it was *only* a method to degender trans women and had no other social significance or that it never affected transmasculine people. As Julia Serano acknowledged, “men of science” including often anthropologists had crazy levels of effemimania. They ignored or did not document transmasculine third genders regardless of whether those genders were relevant to the cultures they were studying.

And not one person thought to bring it up.

When I was talking about how horrifying puberty felt. When I was cutting myself. When I was in inpatient care. When I attempted suicide. When I talked for YEARS in therapy about how dissociated and trapped I felt in my body. When I felt like I never truly fixed something that was deeply wrong about me that started at puberty.

Not one person said it was a possibility. No one thought "hey, maybe this kid should go to someone trained to identify dysphoria". No one mentioned that trans people weren't some weird other group of people. It didn't have to be pressure. It didn't have to be "forcing" me. Just mentioning that trans people exist and it could be me. That it was possible and it was easy. No pushing, just laying the option out there.

HRT is treated like this last ditch option. This horrific, mutilating thing that I GUESS we can give to you if you have NO OTHER options. Because did you know it's permanent? Did you know you'll be on it for the rest of your life? Did you know the health risks? Did you know it'll make you infertile? Did you know that it's deviant? Did you know that it's an alternative lifestyle for other people?

No one said it was okay to WANT it to be permanent. Or noted that most people are reliant on the medical system in one way or the other anyways (and it's not even necessary for HRT). Or that the health risks are the normal parts of having that hormone, even in cis people of your gender. Or said it was okay to not want kids, or mention that you can just freeze gametes. Or acknowledged that the "deviant" people are just people, living their lives, that have been violently pushed out of "normal" society.

I grew up in an area that Republicans mock for being a kind of "woke central". And even then it's just. Not treated as an easy option. It was never on the table if you don't specifically already know you're going through gender stuff, and no one will help you get to that point. At which point, it's still treated like the last ditch option. Did you know you can be a feminine man? Did you know you can slap a "she/her" in your twitter bio and be done with it? Did you know that you're oh-so-valid without it? Did you know that you shouldn't take HRT? Maybe don't take HRT? Don't take HRT? Don't take HRT? Don't ta-

When you've been in it a while, HRT is the easiest, most casual thing in the world. Just pop a shot on a Saturday as part of your "everything shower" routine and you're done.

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i have a file or folder on my pc that i want to share with other people. let's call it gayshit.mp3

unfortunately gayshit.mp3 is 750mb and im not paying for discord nitro so i need another way to send it

i put it into qbittorrent and it makes a torrent file. this is essentially a very small file that points to gayshit.mp3 so other computers can find it. kinda like a treasure map

i send this tiny file to my friend, who loads it into qbittorrent. their computer takes a moment to find mine over the vast expanse of cyberspace and then (as long as my pc is running and the file is still where it should be), it gets copied from my hard drive to theirs

this is the cool part: if somebody else loads that tiny file, they can download it from both of us. if i'm offline but my friend is on, the third person can still get it. this also means that if two people have separate halves of the file, they can download the other half from each other. as long as some combination of people have the pieces between them, they can all have the whole thing.

crucially this does not require a server!!! you can just upload the file to a few people and as long as they keep it, it's still accessible. as long as somebody, somewhere is still connected, it's available forever. the only way it goes away is if everybody disconnects from it.