Fallen potato

Being attracted to any kind of body is normal. Fat bodies. Trans bodies. Disabled bodies. All normal. Being extra attracted to a specific kind of body is normal too. Totally normal to have a type.

Not unlearning the societal stigma attached to those kinds of bodies, the people who inhabit those bodies, and the people who fuck them, to the point where you do any of the following:

Only want to date/fuck the person in secret.

Reduce the person to the feature that you desire and ignore the rest of who they are as a person.

Expect the person to be a walking porn fantasy instead of a real person with their own sexual preferences and boundaries.

Would no longer love the person if the stigmatized aspect of their body changed.

Consider yourself superior to the person, think the person should be 'grateful' that you love their body, etc.

See the person as a temporary adventure while planning to eventually settle down with someone whose body isn't stigmatized.

Is bad and harmful and you shouldn't be dating anyone until you've worked on your shit, because this makes you a very terrible partner. This doesn't mean you are a bad person with bad-fetishist-desires who can only desire people badly, it means you need to unlearn societal stigma so you can be a better partner to the people you desire.

women can have penises and men can have vaginas, and it's great that we understand that, but we've done little in the way of challenging what these body parts mean, what types of people they're attached to, what those people's personalities are like, how dangerous or not dangerous they are, how they think and behave

our own narratives about ourselves have deprioritized our own internality. it's thought of as regressive to care about your gender beyond the surface level. somehow, not transitioning is thought of as a radical statement about the unimportance of gender that we are obligated to make. gender is a frivolous game. agab is the real deal

Anyways! HERE'S YOUR HANDY GUIDE TO WHAT CAN COUNT AS EYESTRAIN! I'm pulling this straight from the Artfight rules page about what needs to be labeled and filtered as eyestrain because it's VERY helpful and VERY accurate! I also know not everybody has an AF account and might not always have access to this handy guide, and this is an important resource; That's why I'm sharing it here! (under the cut)

PLEASE TAKE THIS SERIOUSLY!!! THIS IS ABOUT THE HEALTH AND SAFETY OF OTHERS!!!

“Wow that adult was being a jerk”

“That sounds really frustrating”

”Good job handling that, I would have lost my mind”

“It’s cool, I don’t expect you to remember me”

“You don’t have to hug me if you don’t want to”

“Yeah sometimes (authority figure you can’t avoid) doesn’t know what they’re talking about, it’s not your fault, just do your best”

“I don’t totally understand what you mean but I get that you’re upset, is there anything I can do?”

”Wanna go yell and break stuff with me?”

“You don’t need to be friends with that kid as long as you can still be polite”

“If an adult tells you to do something that will get you hurt, you don’t have to listen.”

“My number one goal is to keep you safe, but I don’t know everything and sometimes I’m wrong, so let me know if I make a mistake.”

“Man. Today sucked.”

“Yeah I also kinda wanna cry right now”

“Whoops, yeah, my bad”

"they identify as animals" thats nice, sharon

"no but they actually think they are animals" theres a war going on, sharon

It also goes without saying that bioessentialism inherently can’t be trans inclusive no matter how hard you try. “All men including trans men—” probably not. “This is only a woman’s issue—” is it really? “Afabs only—” why? “All trans men are like—” what? what are they like? finish the sentence i dare you.

elphaba visits glinda the night before her wedding. she literally breaks her window to get glinda's attention. it's the classic 'throwing pebbles at your lover's window' that you see used countless times across fiction. then there's the whole fact that elphaba meets glinda on her BALCONY...very romeo and juliet coded.

elphaba crashes glinda's wedding. glinda is more hurt at the assumption that elphaba has left her behind once more than the prospect of fiyero leaving her at the altar.

glinda being the literal 'knight in shining armour' when she grabs elphaba's boots !!! and disguises herself and rides on horseback to try to save elphaba!! it's literally the trope also used in shrek!!

everything about them has been romantic because they're so inexplicably connected to one another. they cannot exist without each other. they're romeo and juliet except WORSE because glinda and elphaba couldn't even die beside each other. glinda watched her best friend. the love of her life. the only person she's ever loved kill herself and she had to keep on living. we need a word stronger than doomed.