i think most people accept the idea of "you don't control who you're attracted to" in terms of being gay but imo it can go further. like if you're not attracted to men, but you happen to find a transmasc person attractive, i dont think thats inherently transphobic if you acknoweldge that your attraction is incongruent with their identity. you dont need to run yourself in circles creating qualifiers for your sexuality when we live in a world of infinite gender identites. it's not like you have an inbuilt radar that tells you whether that hot stranger at the bar is a woman or not. man who kissed a twink that turned out to be a butch lesbian that thought he was a butch lesbian. etc.
[Image ID: Tweet from cohost. org/shel (@/ workingDog_) reading: I see someone at a party... I retrieve my pocket-edition of Eliza Smith's Gender & Sexuality Taxonomy 4th Edition... I run my finger down the chart... ah... this person is an A. C. M. P. H. aro homo cis n.b. demi-form sapphogender... i determine they are not attractive to me. /End ID]
Tag by @xpxssxm: #maybe we just don't let identities become walls
Tag by @moremyceliumnetworks: #i like the people in the comments saying labels are more noticing of a pattern than being like some innate truth about u
















