The Nebulous System

sorry that you are reminded daily that some of these people would gladly take it upon themselves to hurt you.

💗"pro recovery for disordered / harmful to act upon paraphilias" doesnt mean conversion therapy!

when something is a disorder, it means it causes distress and/or significant impairment in daily functioning. when something is "pro recovery" it means to , well, recover. which that doesnt mean getting rid of the attraction, it means getting rid of / alleviating the distress and impairment.

in which, by the way, a part of alleviating distress surrounding a paraphilic attraction is by understanding it and accepting it, and self love. hating yourself for your paraphilia will make it worse and more likely for you to hurt other people and ultimately yourself.

neutrality is the baseline, as all attractions & emotions & internal feelings are morally neutral. but in a society with such heavy stigma and hatred towards paraphiles, you might feel as if you'll never be loved. thats why i recommend choosing self love and expression. because in a world where you are hated for an attraction you didn't chose to have, you need to be there for yourself . 💗

resources!

Understanding Paraphilia: Exploring Sexual Diversity with Empathy

Paraphile Support Resources

The Alternative Sexualities Health-Research Alliance

let your littles have sex and masturbate if they want to. if you're in an adult body and mind, it's more than likely they can understand consent like an adult can. of course it depends on the little, but i've met little hosts and littles who do everything the big alters do. the same thing can apply to animal alters.

i am an age slider. i've been as young as five in headspace before. my mind is still that of a grown adult and i can consent no matter how old i feel i am internally. i'm not harmed by having sex while little, our permanently little alters aren't harmed by it either.

This is good plural culture!

It takes a lot of time, energy, and patience. I wish everyone good luck with their healing.

I am so sick of when one trans men is shitty in some way, like being racist or transmisogynistic, people are like "omg this is proof every single trans men ever is an evil horrible person"

but then a trans woman can be like incredibly bigoted and racist and if you call that single person out for it, just that person, then you're a transmisogynist and how dare you accuse them of anything, because women are the Good Gender and are pure and can't be abusive or bigoted or rapists and men are the Evil Gender and every single man ever is a rapist

and it's like...idk how to express this because like trans women are pedojacketed and generalized by cis people constantly, but trans men are also treated horribly by cis people (fucking look at ANYTHING to do with Elliot Page), but transandrophobes will act like every trans man is evil and deserves anythhing that happens to them. and that trans women can do no wrong