This Is Paramisia

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Important:

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NOTE: This account is strictly anti-contact, pro-kink, and unjudgemental of people who engage in their paraphilias in safe controlled consensual environments (ie; a pedo who does ageplay to cope with attraction, a zoo who consumes content of fictional sapient animals or feral content, people who read dark romances, a biastophile who does CNC, etc, etc, etc.)

NOTE 2: The reason why I tag "cw pedophilia", "cw zoophilia", and "cw necrophilia" is because some paraphiles themselves have obsessive-compulsive tendencies, and wish to avoid content related to their paraphilia, as to avoid having mental health episodes and spiraling. It is not because I believe the "big 3" should be censored or silenced, but rather to protect the wellbeing of certain disordered paraphiles.

Here are some posts I recommend looking over:

Blog-relevant terminology [link] (if you're confused about what's being discussed.) Myths about paraphiles [link.] Paraphilias can be nonsexual [link.] Children can be paraphiles [link] OCD vs Paraphilia [link] Why "paraphiles who don't act on it are fine" is still a paramisic statement [link.] Incest, inbreeding, and the issues with incest [link] Zoophiles vs Teratophiles vs Beastiality [link] Pedophilia, hebephilia, ephebophilia, MAP, and child predator - what is the difference? [link.] "MAP" is not a term for "child predators trying to infiltrate the LGBTQIA+ community." That is a myth [link.] Most child rapists are not pedophiles, just as most men who rape men are not queer [link]. Harmful vs nonharmful acts for MAPs & Zoos [link] The issues with corpse desecration [link.] Behaviors to avoid online [link] Tips for coping with paraphilic disorders [link] Warning signs of an unhealthy relationship with sexual fantasies [link] Warning signs of an unhealthy relationship with fiction [link] "Proship vs antiship" - an argument that is not actually helping anyone [link.] Is it unforgivable to fantasize about real beings/real situations? [link] What makes a paraphilia queer vs nonqueer? [link.] Red flags that someone is not safe to come out to as a stigmatized paraphile! 🚩🚩🚩[link]

Here are some resources I recommend checking out, if you're struggling with your mental health:

General:

Get Self Help [link] Therapy Worksheets [link] Project Lets [link] Fireweed Collective [link] The Wildflower Alliance [link] Stronger U/Stronger Together [link] ^These four are non-carceral support for suicidal folks. (Non-carceral means they won't call the cops to forcefully institutionalize you.) Self-harm resources [link] (Check out the "first aid" and "anatomy" information on the top of the screen for further advice about harm reduction.) Also recommend checking out @thisis-suicidism, @support-for-the-suicidal, and @self-harm-harm-reduction for further resources and support.

MAPs (though non-MAPs may find it helpful too, by just exchanging words like "minor" for whatever other thing):

Self-help modules [link] Advice, safety planning, and FAQs [link] Stop It Now UK [link] / Stop It Now USA [link] B4U-Act [link] ASAP International [link] VirPed [link] Global Prevention Project [link]

OCD & intrusive thoughts:

OCD worksheets [link] Grounding techniques for intrusive thoughts [link]

Sexual trauma:

Survivor's Toolkit [link] (Mainly recommending the worksheets there) Care Package for Survivors of Sexual Trauma [link] (mainly reccomending the "managing common reactions to trauma" segment.) Online Communities for Survivors (of sexual trauma) [link]

Who owns this blog?

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Hello! I am Kris, the owner of this blog. I am intersex transmasc non-binary and use they/them pronouns. I am part of @dhddmods system, though I tend to function on my own.

I run five other blogs, known as @this-is-varsexism-transphobia (dedicated to oppression of genderqueers & sexqueers), @this-is-amato-heteronormativity (dedicated to oppression based on amatonormativity and heteronormativity), @this-is-anti-masculinity (dedicated to oppression of atypical masculinity), @androqueer-struggles (focused on the struggles and/or oppression of intersex mascs, peritrans mascs, butches, etc), and @this-is-deformimisia (dedicated to oppression of people with deformities and/or disfigurements.)

What is this blog?

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This blog is dedicated to spreading awareness of the oppressive/negative experiences faced by people who have paraphilic attraction (kinks/fetishes), especially paraphilic disorders. You can submit your own experiences, or things you have witnessed happening to other people (so long as you respect their privacy.)

Am I welcome here?

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This blog is safe for people of any religious and spiritual practices, so long as said practices aren't used to excuse bigoted behavior.

This blog is safe for people of all races and ethnic backgrounds.

This blog is safe for people of any weight or body type, and does not tolerate body shaming.

This blog is safe for people with physical/sensory disabilities and neurodivergence of any kind (including cluster b personality disorders, behavioral disorders, paraphilic disorders, addictive/dependent disorders, etc.)

This blog is safe for non-disordered systems/plurals, non-dissociative systems/plurals, and endogenic systems/plurals.

This blog is safe for alterhumans.

This blog is obviously safe for "contradictory" labels (ie; transfems AFAB, transmascs AMAB, lesboys, turigirls, etc.) Being against these identities is deeply exorsexist, intersexist, and pluralphobic at its core.

- Triadic of paraphilic joy

I'm a disordered paraphile (biastophilia) who just happens to also have psychosis. I avoid shipcourse like the plague because it actively triggers my delusions super bad. But I recently got called paramisic in my inbox because I... avoid proship spaces... and "you can't be pro para if you don't like proshippers" and it made me panic super bad....

I do really like this blog though thank you for having it!!! It feels super impossible to find paraphillia spaces that aren't centered around a specific end of shipcourse......

Avoiding proship vs antiship debates doesn't make you "not pro para", because proshipping doesn't actually indicate a person is pro para in the first place. I've seen tons of proshippers who are INSISTENT that fictoparaphilias aren't actually paraphilias, and that they're "the good ones" compared to "actual paraphiles." (Which is ridiculous, because they clearly don't know the actual definition of paraphilia. Paraphilia includes ALL kinks, fetishes, and atypical attractions/arousal.)

For example, fictozoophiles who insist that being attracted to fictional animals isn't a paraphilia (which, again, is a ridiculous misunderstanding of the term), and that they're "not like those disgusting zoophiles."

I also see a lot of proshippers who claim that fiction doesn't affect reality, which just ignores the lived experiences of many people with psychosis, people with OCD, people with behavioral addictions, fictionfolk, etc. It also ignores the impacts of propaganda spread through fiction.

TLDR: Explaining that having pedophilia doesn't make you a bad person has people thinking you're a bad person.

which leads me to a discussion that was had in a server i’m in. everyone there seemed to agree that being attracted to dragon characters was zoophilia, and were very much acting as if that was an innately bad thing. not only that, they said that justifying it with saying the dragons are sapient/act like humans was still wrong, because they… look like animals/are feral, i guess?

and by default, there’s already nothing wrong with people being fictozoophiles (or zoophiles in general). i didn’t mention anything about how paraphilias =/= causing harm though, because i could tell the server wasn’t a safe space. but what really fucking gets me is that that discussion so obviously displays a complete lack of understanding as to WHY bestiality is wrong (not that FICTIONAL depictions are wrong, they’re fine, but i hope you understand what i mean).

i’m sorry, but if any nonhuman animals could communicate perfectly with humans and had full sapience irl, the concern of bestiality is *completely removed* because that animal can consent in that situation.

but nooo wanting to kiss big dragon who can speak to me and consent is BAD and zoophiles are BAD and should DIE /heavy sarcasm

This is paramisia. I need people to start thinking critically about WHY something is wrong. Why would it be wrong to hypothetically engage with a fully sapient animal capable of consent? None of their reasonings hold up.

The plain and simple of it is that it wouldn't be wrong. What is wrong about bestiality is that animals do not have the ability to consent to you.

I find his plushies attractive and if he does as well, that's no reason for him to receive hate.

Plushies have always been the safest way for me to cope with my sexual urges, I don't get why out of all things, people have to be hateful towards something safe to do stuff with. Most of my feelings as a zoo are towards realistic plushies so the hate just feels worse🙁

but when you get aroused by that cute thing and don't want to and don't do it then your weirdo

like- we should talk about the physical expectations that heavily patriarchal societies force upon people who are, are seen as and/or expected/forced to be women; and how a lot of times that requires forcing them to look young! we should criticise those expectations and the society that forces them! but we shouldn't be conflating those societal expectations with pedophilia. that's not what pedophilia is in the slightest. stop using pedophilia/pedophilic as buzzwords and start saying what you actually mean.

join a new group. ask "is this group against predators?" they don't understand.

make a distinction between a MAP and a predator.

"oh, Sir, we are strictly against predators only!"

look inside.

conflating predator with pedophile and worrying over a 13 year olds relationship with a 15 year old.

this is a reference to a copypasta but that is how things have been

We're a system who developed headmates due to paraphillias!! We have headmates who are endogenic in origin who have paraphillias!!!!!

It's just....... how can you say you support ALL system origins while also.... being paramisic......

It feels impossible to find a safe space to talk about our experiences as a sytem with a ton of paraphillic headmates 💔💔💔

And unfortunately, a lot of those "safe spaces" turn out to be radqueer 😔😔😔

This is paramisia and endopluralphobia.

I need people to understand that paramisia can also intersect with any other type of discrimination.

Back on this blogs topic I was talking about stuff like that and someone said I wasn’t a “pedo” because I thought she was an adult but that’s not how it works also pedophillia is attraction to children not teenagers but even if pedophilia was the correct term it woudibt make sense to say I wasn’t because I thought she was an adult at first more specifically they said

“yeah thats how blind attraction works. if you were a pedo her being a teen wouldnt be a deterrent it would be a bonus. you would be hoping she was young”

but not all maps are like that? It’s wrong to say all maps are like that

This is paramisia and blatant misinformation.

You can be pedophile, hebephile, or ephebophile and also be attracted to adults. Being a MAP isn't always exclusive. For some people it is, for others it is not.