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a blog for general paraphilia support and discussion
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"what does the NO-ACT movement even do? you have no plans."
we hold hands and frolic together so we dont all kill ourselves
antis don't want you to know this but thoughtcrime isn't real and you can do whatever you want in headspace.
let your littles have sex and masturbate if they want to. if you're in an adult body and mind, it's more than likely they can understand consent like an adult can. of course it depends on the little, but i've met little hosts and littles who do everything the big alters do. the same thing can apply to animal alters.
i am an age slider. i've been as young as five in headspace before. my mind is still that of a grown adult and i can consent no matter how old i feel i am internally. i'm not harmed by having sex while little, our permanently little alters aren't harmed by it either.
of course this will vary from system to system but in our experience, and the experiences of several system friends, internal age and species don't always matter when it comes to headspace relations.
I would like say, the first line applies to headspace consang too.
Kiss your syster (sister) Kiss your brainther (brother) Kiss whoever. (I ran out of puns.)
antis don't want you to know this but thoughtcrime isn't real and you can do whatever you want in headspace.
let your littles have sex and masturbate if they want to. if you're in an adult body and mind, it's more than likely they can understand consent like an adult can. of course it depends on the little, but i've met little hosts and littles who do everything the big alters do. the same thing can apply to animal alters.
i am an age slider. i've been as young as five in headspace before. my mind is still that of a grown adult and i can consent no matter how old i feel i am internally. i'm not harmed by having sex while little, our permanently little alters aren't harmed by it either.
of course this will vary from system to system but in our experience, and the experiences of several system friends, internal age and species don't always matter when it comes to headspace relations.

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this was on the reblog of the last post but i'll put it here, too. because people need this reminder
contact stances have NEVER meant anything anti roleplay or anti-kink . anti contact is not against zoo4therian. anti contact is not against insys relationships . anti c doesnt include innerworld, spiritual, or psychological identity . anti contact is not against acting on any sexual contact that wouldn't be harmful to act upon (plushophilia, podophilia, etc)
these rules were made up for safety reasons, and its not good to be changing the meaning of them.
https://pache-definitions.carrd.co/
Alright kids say it with me
My thoughts don’t make me a bad person
My feelings don’t make me a bad person
My thoughts, feelings, and impulses only exist inside my head, and none of it matters unless I act on it
Nobody can see my thoughts or emotions
The only things anyone can see and judge me on are my actions
There’s no such thing as a thought crime
thank u
this is absolutely going to cause me to lose every single follower i have but i Do Not Care so anyways, i have something id like to say.
incest is not inherently damaging whatsoever as long as its consensual. there is zero scientific evidence that consensual incest is damaging. NONE. of course, incestuous abuse absolutely exists and is extremely damaging to the victims of it, but what i am talking about is consensual relationships between adults.
before you call me insane, here:
in an article by clare kasemset from stanford university, she states that one of the main (and only) scientific reasons that incest is illegal is that "the offspring of partners with a high level of consanguinity are more likely to have birth defects". however, this is eugenics: disabled people's children are also very likely to have children with birth defects, and anyone really could potentially have children with birth defects. this argument is simply that incestuous relationships should be illegal so that birth defects cease to exist. keep in mind, the definition of eugenics is "to arrange reproduction within a human population to increase the occurrence of heritable characteristics regarded as desirable"; in essence, make sure that the only people born are "desirable", which would include being able-bodied. kasemset goes on to explain that "the act of incestuous sexual intercourse does not cause harm". incest does not inherently cause harm. the only reasons people give for the illegalization of incestuous relationships are eugenics and the potentially offensiveness of it due to the fact that "the vast majority of people in this country have deep-seated beliefs that incest is immoral".
article source: https://ojs.stanford.edu/ojs/index.php/intersect/article/download/137/35/615
in an article by maria campo redondo and gabriel andrade, they state that "incest represents a risk, but this is not reason enough to illegalize incest". this is because "other circumstances of sexual intercourse may lead to similar risks, and yet, such practices are not illegal". think of how AIDs is used to say that homosexuality should be illegal, how the possibility of miscarriage is used to say that people should only be getting pregnant at young ages, how the possibility of disabled children is used to say that disabled people shouldnt be having children: all of these are arguments that rely on nothing but "disability should be eradicated". ableism is so extremely ingrained in our society that people constantly search for the cure to every disability so that they wont have to deal with disabled people existing. i have had friends who have been told "your children will be disabled though!!!!! 😥" for being disabled just like those who are in incestuous relationships have. you should be allowed to have a child as long as you or someone else is capable of taking care of them, no matter if that child is disabled or not - a child potentially being disabled is not a morally wrong thing. as the authors of this article say, the reasons why incest is illegal "do not relate to public health and genetic risks".
article source: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/phil.12332
in a paper by jeff sebo, he states that "incest increases the incidence of inherited genetic diseases by about three percent". three percent. that is only three out of every hundred children born out of incestuous relationships. the argument of incest increasing disabilities is not only founded on eugenics, but founded on a very small statistic - especially compared to the fact that the probability of an autistic person have an autistic child is, on average, 3.45%. it is no different from any genetically disabled person having a child. advocating for incest to be illegal based on the possibility of disabled children is no different from advocating for disabled people to be sterilized.
he also explains that family is not dramatically different from any other relationship, and that there "are numerous important relationships in our lives—some of which are based on blood, others of which are not—and it is ridiculous to assume that our family members, whoever they may be, are necessarily our emotional centers". for many, many people, friends can even more important than family, or family can seem much more similar to friendly dynamics than typical family dynamics. the argument of families is also very often used against queer people by saying that it ruins the inherent family dynamics that are supposedly present, when in reality, families all function very differently and many people see their siblings or cousins as more like friends than how families are typically portrayed. as the author says: "no relevant moral distinction neatly separates our family relations from the other relationships in our lives".
he also explains that many people claim that incest "turn[s] out badly frequently enough to warrant a categorical ban". incestuous relationships are often abusive ones, this is very evident. however, "the outcome of our test will depend largely on how we run it". if we only ask abuse victims what their experience was (as many, many articles do), we will come to the conclusion that it is all abusive. only looking at people who were children abused by adult family members is not looking at the effects of incest, but looking at the effects of child abuse. yes, there may be a lack of scientific evidence for incest being good - but absence of evidence is not evidence of absence, and there are many, many person experiences from people. on top of that, "those who breach the taboo are branded as outsiders, they suffer the effects of social ostracism, and since others misinterpret this suffering as caused by the act and not the label, they are used as evidence in support of the taboo". if someone is in an incestuous relationship, they will be hated by everyone, which will lead to them being depressed and possibly suicidal - not because of the incest itself, but because of how its treated.
source (PLEASE go read this its very well-done): https://jeffsebo.net/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/the-ethics-of-incest1.pdf
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ngl, if an artist has done genuinely fucked up shit in the past like grooming, being a racist asshole, harassing people, etc., and you take it as a chance to get mad at them for their rape and incest kink like it's equally important? your head is too far up your ass for me to care about your opinion on the artist. you have zero priorities to the extent it's actually embarrassing
that or OR. they just dont shut the fuck up about how much they dislike the artist's work itself. but yea man this guy is Really Really Bad and we're here to hold him accountable. anyways here's stalker post 100000 posted 10 seconds after he posted so i can make fun of the proportions

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"a dead body cant revoke consent" yeah thats the point lol
no but really. i believe when i die its just over. i wont know whats happening to my corpse. and if i somehow do, well, cool? i'll watch from whatever afterlife exists.
why are you people making this into a religious moral issue?
my partner should not be legally punished or socially ostracized for something i consented to even in a hypothetical situation where i can regret it afterwards.
also the "its unsanitary" argument can be used against SO many kinks. its not a good measure of morals.
you should learn about RACK, Risk Aware Consensual Kink. people should be allowed to take risks if they know the consequences.
you know people have a feces kink, right? you know people are allowed to have that kink, riiiight?
the unsanitary argument is weak. just say you havent yet unpacked your religious upbringing.
what was your relationship with your brother like when you were children? most consang, statistically, is abusive and comes from grooming, so I don't support it
We were basically best friends. There was no stereotypical ‘sibling rivalry’ or parentification going on.
Also, there’s a lot of problems with that last statement. Consang refers to consensual relationships. If it involves grooming, then it isn’t consang because grooming isn’t consensual. That’s called intrafamilial CSA. And statistics on incest are heavily flawed because healthy relationships don’t get reported. And even if most relationships were abusive, then just say you’re against the abusive ones? Most doesn’t mean all. There would still be many consensual relationships and they don’t deserve to get lumped in with abusive ones.
#my wife is on the SOR for being gay #no joke #she hit on a girl in a straight bar once #in 1997 #and while the girl was into it #the off duty cop sitting nearby was not #and so he arrested her for ‘soliciting homosexual activity’ #which in our state was still a felony #in 1997 (and would remain so until Lawrence v Texas in 2003) #and since ‘soliciting homosexual activity’ was a felony and a sex crime #she got put on The List #she is still on there to this day #because it costs MONEY to ask a judge to take you off #and she has tried four times#since 2003 #to get taken off the SOR #but every time the judge has said something like ‘no you pled guilty to the crime i can’t possibly take you off the sex offender registry’ #with no acknowledgement of what the actual crime was #(the crime of being a butch lesbian hitting on a cute girl who was into it) #(in 1997)
Reposting these tags with consent from the person that wrote them. The post about the Sex Offenders Registry is locked, but these tags are too important to go unnoticed.
Younger queer people need to realize that the SOR being used against queer people simply for being queer isn’t some ancient history thing. It still impacts queer people today. And it can quite easily be used that way again.
Listen!
When you hear people throwing around the talking point of “well there’s a high rate of sex offenders in the trans/queer community”, this has to do with why.
Being on the sex offender registry isn’t inherently equivalent to whatever horrific sex crime you’re meant to think of when it’s mentioned. It evokes imagery of pedophilia and rape, but there is a lot that can get you put on it and not a lot you can do to be taken off of it.
Public crossdressing used to be able to get you put on the sex offender registry (and by used to I mean as recently as 2011).
Public urination (you know, the literal only option for someone who’s homeless and doesn’t have access to public bathrooms, a venn diagram where trans people are more likely to rest in the meeting zone) can get you put on the sex offender registry.
Sex work is pretty much an automatic way to end up on the sex offender registry if you’re caught. (This is especially weaponized against black trans women who do sex work)
“Deviant Sexual Intercourse” (aka literally any sexual activity aside from penis-in-vagina penetration) could get you on the sex offender registry as recently as the early 2000s. That effectively impacts the entire queer community in one way or another.
The sex offender registry is, first and foremost, useless. It tells you nothing about what someone did. It’s mentioned to quickly associate a person or a group of people with the worst possible crimes imaginable.
It has been used against us time after time and it will continue to be used for that.
And this is where the push of purity discourse in fandom shows its fetid, fascist underbelly.
This is why they are making being trans in public a felony in some states.
When you decide that people who commit a certain crime or category of crime should legally lose their humanity, you create incentive for more people to be charged with that crime.
I might lose some people for this but at least read it fully. I want to start by saying that i would not apply this kind of mercy and understanding to an offender. None of this is to ever excuse the actual act of preying on a child. Its to create a clear understanding that paraphiles arent these evil things waiting to grab your kids.
Pedophilia is not offending. Pedophilia is the medical disorder term for a paraphilia involving prepubecent kids or the fantasy of such. For example, I have autopedophilia meaning im the victim in the fantasy. I dont want to hurt kids, never have. When I was abused by my ex and coerced into looking at CSAM, I got physically nauseous. I dont like the idea of kids, I dont want to do something that would hurt anyone especially the vulnerable. For me, it stays a fantasy. I cant even look at loli shit because it triggers me. I was SAed at 11. This is how my brain coped with it and I should not be executed for a trauma disorder that YOU dont understand.
If you really want to get into it then listen. Not all people with BPD are bad. Not all people with NPD are bad. Not all people with homocidal ideations act on them. Why should we suddenly blame the person with the disorder rather than the stigma and system that upholds pedophilia. We should talk about how convicted and proven rapists and pedophiles get less of a sentence than a black man with weed.
The sympathetic nervous system is the same part of the brain that activates sexual arousal as well as fight, fight, freeze, fawn. This is why I think that trauma based kinks, fetishes, and paraphilias exist.
People are using epstein as an excuse to prey on those with paraphilias. And dont get me wrong. Theres such a strong repulsion to the idea and I get it. But those with paraphilias should be helped and not executed.
Idk if this makes me a radqueer and honestly I dont give a fuck. Im so fucking done with infighting. SHUT UP OR REVOLUTIONISE!
Edit: Wanting to kill all pedophiles and not offenders who have actually done something wrong is eugenics. If that take is too hot for you then you can cry about it.
"I don't support the radqueer ideology because they support taboo fiction, transids and paraphilias" ❌
"I don't support the radqueer ideology because their ideology is inherently built on accepting people of all contact stances and the community blurs the lines of consent, contact and harm so much that it hurts the people participating in it." ✅

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fun fact, self expression of paraphilias is literally a thing they teach you during recovery!
it's called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT)
don't believe me?
https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2020-16775-009
https://reachlink.com/advice/psychotherapy/understanding-paraphilia-exploring-sexual-diversity-with-empathy/#:~:text=Acceptance%20and%20commitment%20therapy%20(ACT),while%20working%20through%20internalized%20stigma.
being anti-self expression for harmful (and nonharmful) paraphilias is quite literally anti-recovery.
make those flags!! preach ur heart!! love yourself for the sake of yourself!!
wow! almost like making pride pins of our paraphilias is completely fine!! gosh, who would've guessed being a proud paraphile is better than repressing my thoughts & attractions! :D
in all seriousness, I am glad that it's been proven that having pride in your paraphilia is indeed a way of recovery and making flags, and such of them is completely fine
Cub identity flags. The top two are in the style of llipup's flags, and the bottom two flags are in the style of sholita's kodo flags.