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You texted me before lunch that your day was dragging and nothing exciting would be happening at work.

Luckily for you, I was already planning on bringing you your favorite lunch, but after that text, I decided that we should add some excitement to your boring office job.

I walked into the lobby, rode the elevator up, and made my way to your office. As I passed so many people, I smiled at the thought that none of them knew what I had in store for their boss.

You were shocked to see me, but even more so when I pulled a diaper out of my purse with your favorite print. You only wore them in the evenings, sometimes, but mostly on weekends, and never around anyone but me. You put up a little fight, but were quickly defeated by a simple "baby boy.” I locked the door to your office, closed all the blinds, and laid you down on the floor. Then, I slipped your suit pants down and took your big boy undies away, putting them in my purse where I’d just had your diaper hidden.

"You can pretend to be a big serious boy, but we both know that you need your diapers. You just love them so much."

You looked so handsome in your suit, and honestly, it hid your diaper quite well. Well, except for when you walked.

Of course I had to tease you about it, reminding you that you may look like a big serious man on the outside, but we both know that you're just a soft baby who needs his thick crinkly diaper.

For lunch, I brought a PB&J with the crusts cut off, your favorite little lunch with a sippy cup full of juice (and diuretics, but I didn’t tell you that). I made sure to put a bib on to protect your tie and dress shirt.

After lunch, I cleaned up the crumbs and wiped your mouth. I put your bib away and made sure you finished your juice. Then, I gave you a quick kiss on the cheek and left.

“That diaper needs to last until you get home, don’t leak!”

Mommy Baby

Thin, sexy panties 🩲 Thick, crinkly diapers 🧷

Calm & nurturing 🤱 Fussy & fidgety 😭

Soft, feminine perfume 💋 Babyish smells 🙈

Sundresses & heels 👠 Onesies & booties 🚼

Balanced meals 🥗 Mushy baby food 🥣

Hangs w/ friends 👯‍♀️ Hangs w/ stuffies 🧸

Many partners new to Diaper Discipline struggle to increase their involvement, the below list is designed to provide ideas and inspiration for you to implement in daily life.

You don't need to do all of these every day but try incorporating 2-4 elements a day and work up in terms of frequency and progressing from Beginner items to Intermediate & Advanced.

Beginner

Make an effort to talk about their diapers. Casually ask things like:‍

“How’s your diaper holding up?” “Your waistband is showing baby” “Do you need to change?” “Those jeans hide your diaper well” “These diapers look cute on you” “Do you need to order more diapers soon?” ‍

Let them know you expect them to use their diaper, by saying things like:

- “This diaper should hold all of your wee’s and poops” when changing them into a fresh diaper - “Remember you’re not allowed to use the toilet today” - “Did you wet your diaper like a good boy/girl?”  - “Good boy/girl for messing your diaper.“ - “Did you poop today or do you need something to help tonight?” ‍

Make an effort to interact with their diaper. Squeeze it, pat/smack their bottom when padded, rub the front of it to get them excited, and when hugging place a hand on their diapered bum, etc. ‍

Implement simple Baby elements:

- Call them your baby boy/girl, etc - Dress them in baby-style (AB) clothes at night  - Give them a bedtime drink in a sippy cup or baby bottle - Have them use a adult pacifier at night ‍

Each morning check their diaper, this can be done in bed by just squeezing the front of it. ‍

It will likely be wet so comment on that by saying something like “I’m glad you had a diaper on or you’d have wet the bed” or “You really are turning into a bedwetter aren’t you” ‍

After their morning shower either change them into a fresh diaper if you’re up, or if you're still in bed, get them to come over and drop their trousers / lift skirt so you can check they're wearing one. ‍‍

Each evening lay out a thick diaper and ABDL bedtime clothing and tell them to go get ready for bed. This should be a few hours before you actually go to bed. ‍

Before leaving the house make them drop their trousers / lift skirt so you can check they're wearing a diaper. For day trips, also ask them if they've got their diaper bag packed. ‍

Once or twice a week force them to mess themselves by giving them either 2x Ducolax tablets or a suppository which they must take/insert. ‍

When not wearing diapers, make them wear pull-ups, training pants, girly underwear (if male), or childish patterned pants. 

When at home and not working dress them in embarrassing clothing, good options include:

- No bottoms / exposed diapers - ABDL onesie / romper - A skirt (male or female) - ABDL shortalls or dress - Childish 2-piece PJs - Footed sleeper

Experiment with light bondage:

- Add a locking diaper cover over their diapers - Restrain them to a bed for 2 hours after making them insert a suppository - Chain them to their desk using locking ankle cuffs or diaper cover - Use other locking clothing to prevent diaper access (e.g. rear zipping footed sleepers)

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Intermediate

In public, ask them about their diaper or do a subtle diaper check (squeeze front/back) when nobody will hear or see.

Add more elements of babying:

- Feed them a bottle of milk each night - Make them sleep with a teddy - Talk to them like a baby during diaper checks and changes - Make them use a pacifier in the daytime

Encourage them to mess in their diaper for convenience. For example, if heading out for the day ask them to fill their diaper before leaving so they won’t mess in public.

If you notice their wet diaper is starting to smell take them by the hand, lay them down, and change their diaper. Don’t ask if they need one or make it a choice. ‍

Surprise them by buying new ABDL items (clothing, diapers, pacifiers, etc)

Punish any bad behavior by making their diaper experience less pleasant:

- Smack them until crying before changing them into a new diaper - Add elements of forced regression such as locking mittens, pacifier gag, restraints  - Make them stay in messy diapers for extended periods - Feed them a blended or cut-up version of their meal. Use a bib and mittens to force them to let you feed them. - Treat him as a sissy/girl with pink diapers and female clothing or baby girl AB items.

Twice a week, force them to mess themselves. Insert a suppository into their bum (wear disposal gloves) or use a fleet-enema (no gloves required) during a change.

Make them ask you for permission to get changed and use the opportunity to inspect their diaper. If it doesn’t look full, make them wait 1-2 hours longer.

Get them ready for bed each evening by changing them into thick diapers and dressing them in ABDL clothes.

At home only allow thick or ABDL diapers to be worn.

Take them shopping while diapered to buy new medical diapers, pull-ups, feminine/childish underwear/clothing, and other baby supplies (powder, baby food, etc)‍

Make their diapered / baby status obvious around your home when visitors aren’t present:

- Have a dedicated changing area with diapers stacked up clearly - Keep a pacifier next to their bed - Have a few ready-made bottles in the fridge - Hang up their ABDL clothes so they’re easily accessible ‍

Make them wear a swim diaper on vacation (at the beach/pool)

If they're male, experiment with treating him as a sissy/girl some days:

- Pink / girl-themed diapers - Feminine ABDL clothing (onesies, rompers, etc) - Women’s clothing (dresses, skirts, leggings) - Butt plugs - Chastity

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Experiment with more bondage:

- Use locking mittens at night - Restrain them to a bed overnight after giving them 2x ducolax tablets - Add ankle and chest restraints to their office chair to prevent movement while working from home - Use a pacifier gag regularly

Advanced

Change their diaper while out in public. ‍

Look for a changing places toilet (Europe) or a standard accessible restroom can be used by bringing a disposal changing mat for the floor. You can also change them laying down over the back seats of your vehicle if in a secluded area.

Increase Babying:

- Create a baby bed for them, ideally a single bed with childish sheets, teddies, and restraints to simulate being locked in a crib. This can be used for naps or overnight punishments. - Regularly feed them a blended or cut-up version of their meal. Use a bib and mittens to force them to let you feed them. - Make them wear mittens to bed each night  - Force them to crawl by using training booties (small spikes prevent standing) - Pacifier must be attached to them at all times while at home - Setup a playpen which they must stay in for extended periods (even if still doing more adult activities like being on a phone or gaming)

Force them to mess themselves in front of you.

Administer a suppository or fleet enema but make them stay laying or sitting next to you. Encourage and then tease them for messing themselves like a baby.

Occasionally change them out of their messy diapers. Disposal gloves and adult wipes are recommended.

Force them to mess themselves while out of the house:

- Hand them a suppository to go and insert after finishing a meal at a restaurant. They'll have to try to hold until you’ve got the bill and left. - On long drives make them insert a suppository when you’re still 1-2 hours away from your home/destination - Administer a suppository or fleet enema before sending them to go shopping or other out-of-home chores.

Incorporate bondage into their forced babying by:

- Use locking diaper covers, plastic pants, or onesies to prevent self-changing - Attach hands and feet to restraints during changes - Restrain them overnight - Use a straightjacket 

Take them shopping to buy supplies from an ABDL shop 

If male, treat him as a sissy most or all of the time at home:

- Pink / girl-themed diapers - Feminine ABDL clothing (onesies, rompers, etc) - Women’s clothing (dresses, skirts, leggings) - Chastity cage - Pegging

Dress them as a baby most or all of the time at home:

- Exposed diapers & babyish t-shirts  - Baby-themed onesies (not plain) - Baby dresses/rompers - Baby-style socks & tights - No adult clothes (if working from home, adult clothes can be worn on top but the lower half should still be babyish)

Force them to lose control by adding laxatives without their knowledge to some meals and drinks (have prior consent to do this).

Restrict their diaper changes to certain times ensuring they’ll sometimes have to wait a few hours to change out of well-used diapers.

Switch to thick or ABDL diapers exclusively, making them less discrete in public.

Increase use of bondage:

The plastic crinkles softly as you shift on the couch, your pull-up and your wet shirt clinging to your skin after another sticky accident. The wetness indicator is a dark, mocking blue, and the fabric is sticky between your legs… again. You can still feel the remnants of your last "cummies," the way your hips had bucked helplessly into the padding, the way the pull-up had failed to contain you. The sticky, embarrassing aftermath had been impossible to hide, and Mommy had seen. Of course she had.

Now, she sits beside you, her expression a mix of exasperation and something softer, something that makes your stomach twist. She’s holding two things: a sleek, black penis cage, its cold metal glinting in the lamplight, and a thick, baby-blue diaper,  like an invitation. Your throat goes dry.

“You’re at a crossroads, baby,” Mommy says, her voice gentle but firm. “You can’t keep going like this. Pull-ups weren’t made for this kind of use.” She taps the cage against her palm, the sound sharp. “Option one: You stay in pull-ups, but you wear this. No more humping, no more stickies. Your little penis stays locked away, and you’ll learn to behave.” She lets the words sink in, her fingers tracing the edge of the cage. “No more sticky surprises, no more ruined t-shirts. But…” She tilts her head, her tone shifting to something almost teasing. “No more cummies either. Not like you’ve been having, anyway.”

Your face burns. You know what she means. The way you’d grind into the padding, the way your body would tremble as you chased that forbidden pleasure, the way the pull-up would give way under the pressure. The cage looks so final.

 wrist. The padding is thick, the kind that would swallow your hips whole, the kind that would hold everything, pee, messes, cummies, without a single leak. “Option two: You switch to diapers. Full time. No cage, no restrictions. Your cute penis stays free… but it stays in the diaper.” Her lips quirk. “You can hump all you want, baby. You can make as many messes as your little heart desires. And I promise you, these won’t leak.” She gives the diaper a little shake, the crinkle loud in the quiet room. “But you’ll look like what you are. A baby. A good, thick, diapered baby. A good, thick, diapered baby who will never sit on the potty again.”

The thought sends a shiver down your spine. The diaper is so obvious. So undeniable. Everyone would know. But then again… the cage is worse, isn’t it? The idea of being locked away, of never feeling that release again, makes your chest tighten.

Mommy watches you, her eyes knowing. “So. What’s it going to be, baby?” She holds out both options, one in each hand. “Do you want to be restrained… or do you want to be free?”

Your fingers twitch toward the diaper. The cage is a prison. But the diaper… the diaper is a promise. A promise of warmth, of safety, of never having to hide what you are. Of being able to give in, completely.

You swallow hard. “I… I want to be free, Mommy.”

Her smile is slow, satisfied. “Good boy.” She sets the cage aside and brings the diaper closer, her voice dropping to a whisper. “Now, let’s get you diapered.”

i’d let him struggle n squirm n whimper for a bit, all while watching and giggling to myself 🤭

then, once he’s whining and begging for release (he knows he’s only allowed to make cummies in his diaper) i’d make him tell me exactly what he needs out loud. need to hear his cute lil voice say “needa make cummies mommy”

Years of being a responsible, put-together adult and YOU get to remove all that and reduce him to a docile pamper-bottomed mess. Getting him to the point where he’s desperate, CRAVING to be your whimpering little baby despite his outward appearance is a level of submissiveness few are able to experience. He may be a big strong man, but underneath all that you know who he really is:

So, this will probably be my least popular post ever, but here we go.

One thing I’ve noticed since coming here is that a lot of littles—most commonly with diaper boys, but certainly not exclusively—can really struggle to find relationships. This kink seems to be lonely in general, but especially for some more intense of you.

And as much as I thought it was probably because it can be a fairly unusual kink to integrate with vanilla partners, I don’t think that’s the biggest issue.

This may sound mean and unfair, but to be honest, it feels like a lot of you are your own worst enemy. At least on tumblr, so many of you cannot seem to respect the few mommies on here, sending aggressive DMs about your diapers and treating them like they exist to make you squirmy. And don’t get me started on the wannabe Daddy’s, you’re just as bad.

And even those who understand that women, Mommies especially, don’t exist to be their kink dispenser, often struggle with expecting Mommy to be the primary mover of the relationship.

This will sound especially bad, though I know there is far more variance than what I’m about to say. So do not take this in the most negative light.

But littles are inherently the most selfish subs that exist. They want to have their caregiver check and change their diapers, handle their emotions, control their bedtimes, food, and often sex lives.

Caregivers are expected to handle the emotional labor, most of the physical labor, and create a world where the little gets to enjoy pure bliss.

And that is not inherently bad. It’s not that Caregivers don’t want to give all that for the ones they care about!

The problem is when littles come to expect and demand that—and don’t believe they need to bring anything else to the relationship.

Certainly there are some caregivers that prefer to handle all that, but most people want to be in a relationship first with kink play second.

Based on what I’ve seen, I think too many diaper boys think primarily of what a Mommy/Daddy can do for them. They want a Mommy/Daddy first and relationship second. It doesn’t seem to me many think of what thy are bringing to the caregiver except a soggy diaper and demands.

Ask most women in this kink and they will tell you horror stories of diaper boys sending gross and demanding messages. I know that is not all of you—it’s not even most of you—but it still happens too often.

And even those who wouldn’t ever do that, just wait so their Mommy/Daddy in Shining Armor to find them and make all their diaper dreams come true.

I don’t know, I want everyone to be happy. But the longer I’m here the more I think so much of the loneliness isn’t necessary.

when mommy and i started dating, we talked all this through, discussed expectations, and wrote that sentence at the top of the list.

what you all see here is a curated view of our life. this is where we talk about how baby i am and how much mommy does to take care of me, so that's what you see.

i get her flowers often.

we share the burden of household chores.

we both go to work.

we have Serious Adult Conversations all the time.

and while it's not often, we do have days where one of us says "not today" about our cg/l.

yes, she changes my diapers and i play with dollies.

i really dont do a lot of big things, and we consider me similar to a permaregressor where even when adulting im not really fully big anymore.

We have those deep moments where we put down the play and discuss stuff, most recently was with my lil one being mushy~

We had issues to talk through, balances and compromises to find and its an ongoing process as we experiment to find the right balance~

And then on the angle of allllll the littles outs there who want a mommy or even a daddy.... im gonna be harsh for a second.... Don't. Don't put all that emotional weight on finding this special someone who will make everything nice and perfect. YOU and you alone can push you to do things you want.

You wanna wear more? Wear more!

You wanna feel like your choice is taken from ya? Get a timer lock safe and a locking diaper cover or get creative in some other way.

You wanna have a caregiver take care of you? Well.... do YOU take care of you?

A cg should only be a supplement to your already enjoyable kink experience. If its not fun without a cg, then look inwards to find out why and seek other solutions. Or hell... find kink groups on fetlife. But that's not an option for everyone

Quit treating other folks like your personal kink vending machine.

Or, if you want to get philosophical about it, follow Kant's advice:

"Act in such a way that you treat humanity, whether in your own person or in the person of any other, never merely as a means to an end, but always at the same time as an end."