#npd supply

Ladies, ladies, im tryna do my work type shit /ref

no i dont want to hang out with you

I want you to want to hang out with me

"Supply" refers to the sources of validation that people with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) use to regulate their self-esteem. While the "ideal" is generally considered to be a state of not needing validation and accepting yourself as you are, this is not everyone's goal, and it doesn't happen overnight. Another option is to learn to create your own supply without relying on others.

(This post will grow over time; check the original post for updates before reblogging! If you have your own ideas, I encourage you to share in the notes!)

MOST IMPORTANT ONE: Celebrate yourself after doing any of the following (or in general)

Complete your goals (including making more, smaller goals so that you have these moments more frequently)

Compliment yourself

Make a list of positive traits that you have

Journal about/explore your positive traits in depth

Journal about/explore the positive sides of your negative traits in depth (example: low empathy makes you more rational in a crisis)

Document admirable things you do and return to the list regularly

Engage in self-improvement habits (e.g. meditation)

Competitive games/video games/sports

Complete difficult puzzles for fun

Make things

Consume your own creations (e.g. read your own writing, listen to your own music) after some time has passed

Develop skills you value

Read/watch fiction involving powerful main characters

Read/watch fiction with a lot of characters who are inferior to you

Be helpful to others

Volunteer

Donate to charity

Get plants/pets (have things that rely on you)

Take before/after pictures when improving things (e.g. cleaning)

Look up the averages for mundane things (e.g. typing speed, length of time it takes to wash dishes, distance able to run, etc.) and practice until you can beat them

Daydream (in moderation)

Write loving/admiring letters to your future self (yourself in 1 week, 1 month, 1 year, etc)

Beat your high score in games or mundane tasks

Look at yourself in the mirror

Take a lot of selfies

Try on new clothes

Dress up in public

Take on extra responsibility to express how competent you are

Research topics that interest you and become an expert

Exercise/work out

Dance

Self-control exercises

Cognitive exercises / "brain training"

Learn the basics of topics that are unfamiliar to you to become more well-rounded

Help the planet (compost, recycle, pick up litter, etc)

Do nice things for yourself and emphasize how it's because you deserve it

Masturbation

Introspection/self-analysis

Listen to empowering music

Further reading:

A list of positive qualities and character traits

Cognitive exercise minigames

30 ways to celebrate yourself

50 ways to celebrate your accomplishments