Straight women should unionize
What the actual FUCK
This right here is a HUGE red fucking flag. If youâre in a relationship with someone who wants complete control over finances, especially to the point where you donât even have access to money, this is an attempt to control and isolate. They will use ALL sorts of excuses. âIâm better with moneyâ âYou spend too muchâ âYouâre too impulsiveâ etc. It has nothing to do with looking out for you or money. Itâs straight up abuse and will likely lead to worse.
Also, women need to be independent in every way they can. And they also need to know whatâs going on with their finances, even if their husband makes all the decisions or whatever bs goes on. Because (true story), one day that husband could die and youâll find out that youâre in a crazy amount of debt that you never knew about because he didnât tell you shit and that gets to be a lovely surprise after the funeral.
Women should ABSOLUTELY be independent and you should ABSOLUTELY keep your banking separate.
HOWEVER!
If you are in that circumstance?
Grocery shopping and gas stations and big box stores are your BEST friend. I know weâre in a pandemic but put on an N-95 and go. Use your debit card every time and take out 20-40 dollars each time you shop for these sorts of things because that doesnât read as a withdrawal. It counts as part of the shopping. Women have been doing this for GENERATIONS now. My mother did it when my father was financially abusing her and she taught me and now? I pas this on to you.
Take your 20-40 dollars a trip and put the cash somewhere he wonât look.
Where wonât he look? With a friend who he doesnât want to know. In the yard he expects you to care for. In the laundry he wonât do. In the kids room where he doesnât go because that is your job. In the dog food he expects you to refill.
Or.
In you can take that money and put it a fucking bank he doesnât use. Under your name and your name ONLY. Because when you leave him - which on average will take 7 attempts because thats how many times it takes to leave an abuser - you will need all the money you can squirrel away. Depending on how often a woman runs absolutely necessary errands and how much money a family makes, she can squirrel away 1K+ in a year this way which may not seem like much but itâs enough for a softer landing than ZERO especially if sheâs not working.
Take care of yourself ladies.
Reblogging again because this^ is important
Straight Women have unionized lol in the West Indies in Jamaica itâs called partner and in Trinidad itâs called SuSu.
^^ yes! My family and I are in one and itâs literally the key to financial freedom especially for black women!!!




























