I truly think the reason Armand is being presented the way that he has this season is because:
It's largely from Lestat's POV, so he doesn't know what Armand's been up to in the present day and assumes it's either pitiful yearning or something sinister.
Everybody projects this season, and 19th century Lestat projected his need for a loving parent hard onto the cultured and informed vampire adult who entered his life after Gabriella disappeared.
Show Lestat does not know nearly as much about Marius as his book counterpart (he thinks Marius is dead!), so he takes everything at face value and doesn't doubt Marius's opinion that Armand was a failure.
He doesn't want to admit to himself that his mother is hurting him, so he doesn't want to believe Armand, the one remaining character who has learned from personal experience how to recognize parental abuse when he sees it. Of course he's angry at Armand and says things like he'd do more harm than the Queen ever did! If Armand points out that Gabriella is doing to Lestat what Marius did to him, it would shatter the delusion that Lestat has clung to all this time.
Armand will be to Lestat what Daniel was to Louis in s1 and s2, a needling reminder of uncomfortable truths.
That's why Armand has not heard about "Sofia" yet, because the second he finds out that Gabriella is near, he's throwing his self-searching journey to the curb, and it's going to feel like the old Coven master is back at trying to control everyone's lives again.
In the cast and crew interviews last year and earlier this year, multiple writers and actors said they had a newfound empathy for Armand this season. Assad has stressed in interviews that Armand is trying to be good. To the casual viewer, these comments would seem to come from left field, so we can assume something in this season is going to reveal more about him than simply The Gremlin or The Failure.
Rolin has said repeatedly that episode 7 has a big plot for Armand. It's such a secret plot, the early screeners have not seen the episode and have not been able to talk about it, which leads me to believe he's involved in a big reveal that recontextualizes all the previous episodes.
We've had no Amadeo flashbacks, yet we're meeting Marius in episode 5. What else is there for Armand to reveal, then, but the truth?
I am kissing your brain on the mouth with tongue you my beloved Tumblrina stranger who understands the structure of the show.



















