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Name is Genderless/Anonymous/Abstract. [SEMI-HIATUS]

I’m Agender/Nonbinary and in the Aroace spectrum. Use he/it/ki on me.

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I’m Wil or Marsh 🧨 (dynamite emoji) [OPEN]

I’m faeflux & abro, and I use xey/they/thxy and neutral terms!

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When I look for the "feeling of gender'' I feel something but I cannot pinpoint what it feels like, it's just indescribable, the best way to describe it is that it feels like everything and nothing at the same time.

(I am comfortable with all pronouns aswell)

Hello! What gender feels like is hard to explain for most people, I think, even those who know exactly which one(s) they are, so it’s totally normal!

Here are some labels that might resonate with you:

Omnianihilix (link) — “a gender that feels like everything and nothing at the same time”

Uingender (link) — undefined, unknown, indescribable, unsure, unidentified, unexplainable, undetermined, etc. gender

Pxngender (link) — both or between pangender (all possible genders) and agender; mostly pangender but connected to genderlessness; pangender but also agender or null at the same time; agender and connected to all possible genders

Paradoxigender (link) — gender that has paradoxical qualities or contradicts itself. ex. feeling like everything but nothing at once

Paradoxgender (link) — feeling like you’re all possible genders but none at the same time, impossible to explain, paradoxical

Schrodigender (link) — a gender that you both can and can’t feel, at the same time

Panadox (link) — feeling like you’re all possible genders and none at the same time. it feels like an unsolvable paradox. both pangender & agender labels feel simultaneously right & wrong

Panzerogender (link) — all possible genders are nullified/canceled out, becoming neutral or null

Omninixic (link) — having both genderless and pangender/multigender-aligned aspects to your gender. you might feel partially pangender, feel both at once, or switch between them. feeling both connected to and detached from being pangender

Genderdox (link) — having multiple genders but none or a feeling of emptiness at the same time

Pangenderdox (link) — having all possible genders but none or a feeling of emptiness at the same time; being pangender and not at the same time, feels paradoxical

Genderblank (link) — when thinking of your gender, all you can describe it as is a blank space

Quoigender (link) — many meanings, but for you: finding your gender experience confusing, questioning for a long time, feeling frustrated with searching for a gender label

Neutrois (link) — neutral, null, or genderless. ex. neither man nor woman, not feeling pulled towards any genders, balanced between different genders, feeling like your gender has been neutralized, nullified, or canceled out, having a blank or empty gender, no gender, etc.

Null (link) — blank, empty, cancelled out, nullified

Gendernull (link) — undefinable, absent, empty, nonexistent but present, void, nullified

I want to be very very close with people platonically… like cuddling and holding hands a lot, and talking all the time, but I don’t want it to be *romantic*. aaaa

You could also just call this platonic attraction! Though it’s different from how it most commonly seen, intense and affectionate friendships like this are actually pretty common and just as important and real as other relationships! I definitely don’t see this as romantic, especially since romantic things make you so uncomfortable.

Here are some other terms that might resonate:

Amical (link) — similar to platonic & queerplatonic. like best friends or siblings, very close, physical affection, doing things together

Frestial (link) — best friends, stronger feeling than typical friendships

Alterous (link) — emotional closeness that’s between or separate from platonic & romantic

Sensual (link) — attraction based on senses, usually touch. ex. cuddling, kissing, holding hands

Diversum (link) — nonromantic attraction that’s stronger than traditional platonic feelings, may want to do physically affectionate or “romantic” things in a nonromantic way

Mellow-Oriented (link) — simple, wholesome attraction that might include wanting to give cheek kisses, snuggle, and hug

Passioplatonic (link) — passionate, caring, loving, emotionally & physical intimate platonic attraction

Relationship Types

Platamoric (link) — intense connection that is purely platonic

Platownic (link) — friendship that’s about doing whatever you want, whether it’s the societal norm or not. you can cuddle, etc. and still be friends

Bestfriendamoric (link) — best friends in a way that’s more intense than traditional friendships but still platonic

Passionate Friendship (link) — nonsexual, nonromantic, emotionally & physically intimate relationship between friends

Companionate (link) — very deep platonic relationship (eyestrain warning for link!)

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By only in the physical sense, do you mean that you feel physical gender dysphoria but don’t feel internally like those genders or that you don’t feel other types of dysphoria?

For the first option, it’s totally possible to have a disconnect between what you want your body to be like and what your internal sense of gender is. This could be transsex (wanting different body characteristics) and cisgender (identifying with your assigned gender) or a different gender.

It also might be that your dysphoria is based on something other than gender. Personally, I’m genderfluid and struggle with both body gender dysphoria and insecurities about my body, and that can be confusing to pull apart!

If it’s the second option, it’s normal to have more dysphoria about certain aspects, or even to not feel dysphoric about certain things at all. Some people can have chest dysphoria but no pronoun dysphoria, for example, or want different hips but not have dysphoria about presentation. There’s no wrong way to feel about yourself!

It could also be that nonbinary, ftm, and genderfluid just aren’t the right words for you, and your gender is something else.

The important part is to follow what makes you happy. If you enjoy binding or wearing certain clothes or going by certain pronouns, etc., then do it! If you don’t, then don’t! Regardless of what label you choose, you can present yourself and exist how you want to.

Some resources:

Dysphoria experiences, coping skills, gender euphoria, and not having (certain types of) dysphoria (link)

Experiences being physically dysphoric but not socially (link)

Potential Labels:

Transsex (link) — wanting different sex characteristics than the ones you were born with. can also be transgender, but not necessarily

Physiodysphoric (link) — having physical gender dysphoria. may or may not have other types of dysphoria

Dysphoriflux (link) — gender dysphoria changes in intensity

Semidysphoric (link) — having partial gender dysphoria, such as having only certain types

Anchest (link) — wanting your chest or parts of it removed or made smaller

Transpectine (link) — wanting or transitioning to have a flat chest, through binding or top surgery

I know it's not aromantic because aromanticism is a lack of romantic attraction and I definitely experience that, but I genuinely don't want a romantic relationship ever no matter how good the circumstances were. Is there a label for this - if it is even considered LGBTQ - or is it just choosing to be single?

We actually feel similarly for some parts! The way that I think about it is that it’s more important what you want than what people think you should want. Just because you have romantic attraction or something similar to it doesn’t mean you have to want to act on it! If you don’t want to date, then that’s totally okay!

I too wonder if it’s just anxiety, etc., but also. If you feel this way right now, regardless of why, then that’s real! You can identify on the aromantic spectrum now then realize it stemmed from a fear of commitment later and feel differently, or not, and there’s nothing wrong with either.

As for if it counts as queer or LGBTQ, we would consider it to be, and you definitely can if you feel it fits. Labels are opt-in; they exist to describe you, not to dictate anything. Considering that your aversion to romance and romantic attraction isn’t a choice, it doesn’t seem to us that this is just choosing to be single.

Here are some labels that might resonate with you!

Aegoromantic (link) — having a disconnect between yourself and who you’re attracted to. ex. enjoying romantic fantasies or content but not wanting irl romance, fantasies are in third-person or don’t involve you, in fantasies the other person is a generic stranger, fantasies through the perspective of someone else, fantasies including only yourself, preferring fantasies over real life romantic relationships

Akoiromantic / Lithromantic (link) — not wanting your romantic attraction to be reciprocated. it might make you uncomfortable or cause you to lose those feelings. ex. preferring fantasies over real life romantic relationships, losing interest when you start dating or doing romantic activities with someone, being uncomfortable or weirded out by the idea of someone reciprocating your feelings

Amasui (link) — loving other versions of yourself

Autoromantic (link) — romantic attraction to yourself

Arospec (link) — broad umbrella term for anything that isn’t strictly alloromantic. this includes romantic attraction that is little, absent, weak, conditional, atypical, confusing, without desire for acting on it, and more!

Grayaegoromantic (link) — both aegoromantic & grayromantic

Grayromantic (link) — on the aromantic spectrum and not fully aromantic. ex. attraction that is less frequent, weak, without desire for a relationship, confusing, ambiguous, disconnected, conditional, etc. relating to being aromantic but not feeling fully described by that label

Orchidromantic (link) — feeling romantic attraction but not wanting a romantic relationship

Romance-Ambivalent (link) — having mixed, complicated, or unsure feelings about romance

Romance-Averse (link) — having repulsion, discomfort, or any other negative feelings about engaging in romantic acts or relationships. if you also feel this way about romance conceptually or with other people’s actions & relationships, you might be romance-repulsed

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My mental health has been deteriorating extremely fast lately to the point I almost deleted all my remaining socials but, it is all good now (I hope)

Honestly I think this might be bigenderfluid or bigender + genderfluid. If you feel like sometimes you’re a girl and other days you’re a boy, that means your gender is fluid, specifically on these two binary genders.

If you still think not, then you’re bigender, both a boy and a girl.

Again, tumblr is not working for me so here is a link to the flag and info.

I was extremely confused at first, then I had to do some research on a few wikis and basically, you’re panflux and apothisexual.

Panflux is the fluid attraction to all genders

Apothisexual is for the sex repulsed people.

Pretty much almondsexual/almondromantic!

When someone likes and is more leaning towards men and enby rather than women

Another definition is having attraction towards male/masculine people and adrogynous/non-binary people but very rarely having attraction towards feminine/female people