Are We All Lost Stars?

Patronus was invented by a transphobe.

If you are a socially anxious person, you have to socialize. Your panic/anxiety attacks will only get worse and trigger more frequently if you constantly avoid contact with The Public. Not saying that you need to be a social butterfly- but there is a genuine problem with not being able to order your own meal at a restaurant. And it cannot be solved by always having someone else do it for you.

BUT

I got pregnant not through some fluke or 1 in a 100 contraceptive failure. I got pregnant because I was knowingly and willfully having unprotected sex. Out of wedlock too if that matters.

It was my own fault, I was being irresponsible because I knew I could always get an abortion if I got pregnant. My abortion was as close as it comes to 'using abortion as a contraceptive' as anti-choicers love to say.

I didn't abort it because my health was in danger or because I didn't have the ability to care for it or whatever else. I did it purely because I didn't want a child. I wanted sex and I didn't want to deal with any consequences from it.

I'm going to hold your hand as I say this to you. Those same expectations are placed on trans men. Trans men are also expected to be mothers and wives. Trans men also face misogyny and are harmed by it, in the same ways cisgender women are.

It reads like a lot of people think of trans men as Cis Dudes With Pussies when the vast majority of trans men are living (or have lived) many of the same experiences as cis women, and should be included in these conversations.

but this is why i need everyone to be more aware of anti-transmasculinity. because this is the foundational presumption cis feminists have been making about trans men & transmascs since they heard of the concept. trans men&mascs, as trans people, have been excluded from feminism since feminism began, and unfortunately that includes the majority of transfeminism as well. it shouldn't be shocking that on a site with a large population of trans people, a lot of trans people relate to posts about misogyny, and a lot of trans people who grew up being classed as girls and women and having those expectations forced onto them are trans men&mascs. and i'm sure a lot of them also do not think that to be a woman is to want to fulfill patriarchal stereotypes, but rather they are desperate to actually have their lived experiences as trans men affected profoundly by the patriarchal role of daughterwifemother to be recognized and verbalized.

Okay, so you know that favorite pen brand you have? Whatever one that is. When I say "your favorite pen", there's that one that comes to mind. But have you ever bought one and found it to be unusually scratchy and unpleasant, or the ink blobs weirdly or it's more dry than usual? That's because a pen is only as good as its refill. Mass manufacturing pens is going to produce some inferior ones, and you'll run into them every once in a while. You might have the best pen ever, but then you use it up and buy another one or you buy a refill, and then it... sucks? Betrayal? Hello? Because maybe the tiny ball in the refill has a little imperfection on it, and now whenever it catches on the edge of the pen tip, your ink stutters. Now you're trying to write and its frustrating and you're not having a good time about it.

This is why I'm constantly recommending fountain pens even when we were talking about ballpoint or gel. A fountain pen, by nature of having a permanent pen nib, will write the same no matter how many times you fill it. You run out of ink, you fill it back up, and it's still the same pen. A gel or ballpoint pen refill replaces the entire writing mechanism along with the ink, and there's a good chance the writing mechanism will suck. Fountain pens don't do that.

Furthermore, fountain pens significantly reduce the amount of waste per pen refill. Yeah, I'm out here constantly like "you guys should totally stop buying a 17-cent pen and instead buy a $7 fountain pen with an $11 ink converter and a $17 bottle of ink." Which is very Vimes-Boot-Theory of me, I know. But in the end, if you can afford the upfront cost, all those things will last you much longer than a pack of cheap pens AND you'll have a better time writing AND you'll significantly reduce the amount of plastic waste that you produce. Ink comes in glass bottles that you can reuse or recycle IF you ever get to the end of them, but they can last for-fuckin’-ever.

Yeah. Anyway.

I guess in conclusion, here’s a relatively cheap but good quality and very long lasting fountain pen setup if you want:

Preppy fountain pen - $7

Noodler’s ink - $17 with the promise that you will never get to the bottom of this bottle

EITHER a converter for the fountain pen so you can fill it with the bottled ink - $11

OR a syringe that you can use to manually refill the Preppy’s included cartridge when it’s empty - $2.50

The ONLY thing of that setup you’d ever need to buy again is the ink, and that’s only if you manage to finish it in the first place.

So ok look. The point is not the flared leg by itself. These cannot be yoga pants. These are, and you have to understand this if you are too young to have worn them, BLUE JEANS. And this was the last years before all jeans were 70% spandex.

They were denim, and they weren't bell bottoms. They hung loose from the knee in a way that would make a wizard envious. We all walked around like we were wearing hakama. And they dragged on the ground. That was important. Ragged cuffs. If your jeans weren't so long that they had ratty cuffs, they were embarrassingly short.

And the thing about denim is that it's a twill weave and it's cotton. So not only does it hold a lot of water, it wicks. Walking around in these suckers on a wet day could get you wet to the knees even if you never stepped in a puddle.

Then you'd go inside and take off your shoes and try to avoid letting your freezing, wet, filthy pant legs touch your skin.

You know what? Good job.

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And then you did it.