Hey. If you feel uncomfortable as the gender you were assigned as, and if you look across the aisle and see that your supposed opposite also seems unpleasant to be to you — perhaps you’re not either of them.
Maybe gender’s a losing game for you, and like me, you’ll find greater happiness existing outside of it.
Maybe sometimes you are okay with stepping into something vaguely gendered — “none gender with left girl!” as one of my people once called it.
Maybe you still identify with what you once were, and still hold fond regards for aspects of it, but know you’re not that anymore, at least most of the time.
That’s allowed! You’re allowed to be “usually not anything!” Nonbinary, agender, genderfluid, Demi-gender!
Have you hung out with trans folks who assured you that, because you had Gender Feelings going on, you must therefore be “the opposite gender?” and presented no other options, and that felt uncomfortable and forced?
Hey me too! Turns out I was never a woman or a man, I was always some combination of like, 12 other things that’s neither of those!
You’re allowed to be trans and not a man or a woman. Our language lacks the nuance to perfectly capture what you are sometimes, so many of us just go with “nonbinary” as a handle label for “just not either of the presumed defaults.”
Don’t let the most toxic aspects of our community put you back in a box. You’re allowed to be whatever!!
Love you much, stranger. Happy pride.
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