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Anger awakens. Anger is real. Anger is something they made forbidden for all of us to reach in different ways, even the âangryâ ones. Too angry and fearsome to honor your own anger. Too delicate to honor your own anger. Too much of the adult to honor your own anger. Too much like a child to honor your own anger. But Itâs Yours. Itâs yours, itâs yours.
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MUSIC. TASTE
ćľčĄ LiuXing, Ballad-Pop, Mandopop, C-Pop: ĺ¨čĺ˛ Zhou XingZhe/Eric Chou ⢠éĺŁč㍠Ge Bi Lao Fan ⢠ćčŁćľŠ Li RongHao ⢠ĺ¨ć°ĺŤ Chou JieLun/Jay Chou ⢠JJ Lin ⢠čĄčĄĺ Tasia ⢠éŤć ⢠ç°éŚĽç Tian FuZhen/Hebe Tien ⢠čĄć § yihuik ⢠çééŻ Wang JiWen ⢠čŁĺ§ĺ§ ⢠çĺĺŽ Wang Leehom ⢠éśĺ David Tao ⢠ĺ´ĺ 瞤 Kenji Wu ⢠S.H.E ⢠ççżćŠ âenâ Wang YiEn ⢠Tay Kewei ⢠ć¨čé¨ â˘ Kaho Hung ⢠Evangeline Wong çčˇč ⢠čĄ66 ⢠éç˛ Chen Li ⢠ĺćčą â˘ LBI ĺŠćŻ â˘ DIORĺ¤§çŠ â˘ čäščŹ â˘ ć´žĺäż Patrick Brasca ⢠Tr33 ⢠BK/Bill Kang ⢠éŞäş Xue Er ⢠čĺżçž˝ ⢠ä¸ćŻčąçŤĺ ⢠Zkaaai ⢠Joysaaaa ⢠ććŻĺčą â˘ é˘äşşä¸ ⢠ć厣螞 ⢠é潤枤 â˘ ĺź ç´ŤčąŞ Zhang Zihao ⢠ĺ¨ćć ⢠BombćŻçž ⢠ĺłĺćş Julia Wu ⢠ĺĺç ´ ⢠step.jad ⢠aMEI
Sino Hip-Hop & Melodic Rap: PPlin ćčé¸ â˘ é˝çż XIANG ⢠YANGCh!ll ⢠ĺćčž Lexie Liu â˘ éŠŹäš Crabbit ⢠Lil RAD ⢠COY6OI ⢠JaS52 ⢠Ensie ⢠Seluu ⢠ćé澪 Lin DaLang ⢠çĺć Wang Zi Ming ⢠Lizi ć ĺ ⢠ĺŻĺ° Ice ⢠JERRYZ ⢠永彏 Ryan.B ⢠Lambertĺ ⢠Tyson Yoshi ⢠WYAN çćŻĺ ⢠éŤçžĺŽŁOSN ⢠ĺśé çć ⢠XMASwu ĺ´éŞ
Goth, Dark Pop & Darkwave: She Wants Revenge ⢠Lebanon Hanover ⢠Mr. Kitty ⢠Mareaux ⢠Social Order ⢠Nyxjvh ⢠Astrophysics ⢠Jah PHNX ⢠Witchz ⢠Depeche Mode ⢠Twin Tribes ⢠Joy Division ⢠London After Midnight ⢠Johnny Goth ⢠Kwasi Kai ⢠Artemas ⢠Isabel LaRosa ⢠yeule ⢠Korine ⢠She Past Away ⢠Baby Storme ⢠Vestron Vulture ⢠MGMT ⢠REDCHINAWAVE ⢠The Bravery ⢠Interpol ⢠Ashley Sienna ⢠Witchz ⢠Goldfrapp ⢠UNKLE ⢠The Masqs ⢠The Cure ⢠Violent Femmes ⢠MOTHICA ⢠Pale Waves ⢠Sinnerella ⢠The Violent Youth ⢠Asal ⢠Ari Abdul ⢠Dionnysuss ⢠Royal & The Serpent ⢠Elita ⢠Night Club ⢠ULTRA SUNN ⢠Blind Seagull ⢠French Police ⢠cutouts ⢠phyllzx ⢠Cult of Venus ⢠Vlad Holiday
Pop & Rock: Glass Animals ⢠Peach PRC ⢠ADĂLA ⢠FEYI ⢠NIKI ⢠COBRAH ⢠bludnymph ⢠PVRIS ⢠DPR IAN ⢠Ayesha Erotica ⢠Kim Petras ⢠Nessa Barrett ⢠Dutch Melrose ⢠Olivia Rodrigo ⢠Dove Cameron ⢠BENEE ⢠XTINA GG ⢠Honey Revenge ⢠CHAII ⢠The 1975 ⢠SNOW WIFE ⢠Cassyette ⢠Chandler Leighton ⢠tiffi ⢠MAY-A ⢠arya x ⢠FINNEAS ⢠Imagine Dragons ⢠Fall Out Boys ⢠Nasty Cherry ⢠MNEK ⢠A.i.Jones (Adrian McKinnon) ⢠Tom Odell ⢠OneRepublic ⢠The Script ⢠5SOS ⢠James Arthur ⢠Ed Sheeran ⢠Halsey ⢠Train
Alt Rock, Indie Rock: Sons of Silver ⢠Nine Inch Nails ⢠New Order ⢠U2 ⢠AC/DC ⢠Beth McCarthy ⢠Saint Motel ⢠Woodkid ⢠Crystal Castles ⢠Arctic Monkeys ⢠Gorillaz ⢠Empire of the Sun ⢠Charlotte Sands ⢠emlyn ⢠Lauren Sanderson ⢠The Aces ⢠ZELA ⢠KiNG MALA ⢠NO CIGAR ⢠The Warning ⢠The Wombats ⢠The Cab ⢠The Bleachers ⢠The Killers ⢠RIELL ⢠Houston Kendrick ⢠Billy Raffoul
Baroque Pop: Hozier ⢠Florence + The Machine ⢠The Last Dinner Party ⢠Son Lux ⢠Missio ⢠Woodkid ⢠Cosmo Sheldrake ⢠Erin Lecount
Southern Rock: Alabama Shakes ⢠ZZ Ward ⢠Stela Cole ⢠Fleetwood Mac ⢠Noah Cyrus
Alt-Indie, R&B, Soul: Blackstreet ⢠Leon Bridges ⢠Sade ⢠Gigi Perez ⢠Chance Peùa ⢠Leonard Cohen ⢠sombr ⢠Japanese Breakfast ⢠Ogi ⢠The Cab ⢠RINI ⢠JADE ⢠Millie Turner ⢠Griff ⢠Spacey Jane ⢠Coldplay ⢠thuy ⢠Stan Walker ⢠SZA ⢠H.E.R ⢠Khalid ⢠Daniel Caesar ⢠Frank Ocean ⢠Rachel Chinouriri ⢠Lyn Lapid ⢠The Beaches ⢠The Velvet Underground ⢠Blondshell ⢠King Princess ⢠SEB ⢠RAYE ⢠The Regrettes ⢠Teddy Swims ⢠Ella Mai ⢠Chloe à Halle ⢠Miguel ⢠JYYN ⢠Pink $weats ⢠BaggE ⢠Jaïr Faria
Hip-Hop & Boom Bap Rap: Wutang Clan ⢠Jeru The Damaja ⢠Metro Boomin ⢠Blackway
Afrohouse & Afrobeats: 0.griot ⢠Tems ⢠Dave
Psychedelic, Surf, Hazy, Downtempo, Ethereal: Nusantara Beat ⢠Jungle By Night ⢠Cocteau Twins ⢠Sabrina Claudio ⢠Alina Baraz ⢠Frank Ocean ⢠Esha Tewari ⢠ARK IDENTITY ⢠Alan Chang ⢠Saint Avengeline
Electronic: Son Lux ⢠Missio ⢠M83 ⢠COBRAH ⢠Emmit Fenn ⢠Zedd ⢠Flume
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Statistics are not unbiased objective information, they are presented in ways to construct a narrative. My post aims to present MY narrative on this, it not only serves to correct the Model Minority Myth yall love to impose on Asian Americans, but also to show how the eligibility of voters and those who actually did vote has a big influence on who gets to have a say in America.
Monoracial non-Hispanic/Latino white Americans
In 2024, monoracial non-Hispanic/Latino white Americans form 56.1% of the US population, ~157.37mil in total.
Of these, 76.3% (of total) reported as registered eligible voters & 69.2% reported voting. Of these; 55% voted Red, which is ~38% of total white non-Hispanic/Latino Ams (~59.8 mil/324 mil of US pop).
Total Red white non-Hispanic Ams/US pop: 18% of the US pop, were white non-Hispanic/Latino Americans who voted Red.
Proportionally, 38 in every 100 white non-Hispanic/Latino Americans encountered are red voters.
Hispanic/Latino Americans
In 2024, Hispanic/Latino Americans form 20% of the US population, ~47mil in total.
Of these, 42.8% (of total) reported as registered eligible voters & 35.2% reported voting. Of these; 48% voted Red, which is ~16.9% of total Hispanic/Latino Ams (~7.94 mil/324 mil of US pop).
Total Red Hispanic/Latino Ams/US pop: 2.4% of the US pop, were Hispanic/Latino Americans who voted Red.
Proportionally, 17 in every 100 Hispanic/Latino Americans encountered are red voters.
Monoracial Black Americans
In 2024, monoracial Black Americans form 13.5% of the US population, ~33.79mil in total.
Of these, 64.8% (of total) reported as registered eligible voters & 55.1% reported voting. Of these, 15% voted Red, which is 8.27% of total Black Ams (~2.79mil/324mil of US Pop).
Total Red BlackAms/US pop: 0.86% of the US pop, were Black Ams who voted Red.
Proportionally, 8 in every 100 Black Americans encountered are red voters.
Monoracial Asian Americans
In 2024, monoracial Asian Americans form 7% of the US population, ~17.7mil in total.
Of these, ~47.1% (of total) reported as registered eligible voters & 41.1% reported voting. Of these; 34% voted Red, which is ~14% of total AsAms (~2.48 mil/324 mil of US pop). (The stats frequently quoted (40% of Red AsAms), originate from a dataset for âAsian and Other Ethnicitiesâ, not just Asian; so even that is questionable.)
Total Red AsAms/US pop: 0.7% of the US pop, were AsAms who voted Red.
Proportionally, 14 in every 100 Asian Americans encountered are red voters.
21.86% of USA decided your fate, and that of the rest of the world, in 2024. Only ~47% of AsAms were eligible to vote, and only 41% did vote; this cannot represent how the whole would answer to who they choose to lead this country.
Every racial group contributed more to Trump being in office than Asian Americans did. Whoever wanna play like Asians had some landslide hand in the voting results, even if racial proportions were used to suggest otherwise.
To me every red voter is condemnable, I wouldnât want to walk into a room of 100 Asian Americans and know that 14 are red voters. But the fact is that youâd only encounter 7 Asian Americans for every 100 USAmericans, and 14% of that is 7 MAGA Asian Americans in 1000 USAmericans. Thatâs 7 too many, regardless.
But if you wanna play numbers, this is the turnout.
heads up but âpocâ isnt synonymous with âAsianâ or âSEAâ, or even âChineseâ. yes im a poc. more importantly use âchineseâ, âsoutheast asianâ or âasianâ when speaking about the specific type of racialisation, exclusion, alienation, marginalisation and nuanced struggles my group faces that no other groups face / face to a lesser extent / only bc they were associated with chineseness.
every group within the poc umbrella deserves larger generalised poc protections against whiteness, but every group also deserve protections tailored to our specific singular group, which surprise surprise may often be attacked by malicious actors, ethnosupremacists and white supremacist puppets from other poc groups too.
and no i dont support using âpocâ in a way that reifies model minority myths, or any such contextual usage that wants to suggest my group of peoples experience âless thanâ other groups of poc.
my peoples have been through a lot. your ignorance and fictitious illusions about our privilege, is not our lived fact.
the golden rule âtreat others how you want to be treatedâ sucks bc the way some of yall want to be treated is outright horrifying, also it would highly endanger the next marginalised person its done to
the fact that the notes on this post are like, largely people arguing about how â18-24 year olds are still babyâ says a lot about how yâall would rather miss the point on purpose than like, change the way you talk to/about asian ppl
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I really like Ness' book The Dialectics Of Chinese Labor so far because even with authors l've read before who demonstrate that the PRC is not capitalist (Lauesen, Ferrana, Losurdo), they don't tend to engage with the All-China Federation of Trade Unions as the mechanism of broad working class organizing within Chinaâonly Ferrana mentions it and it is in passing (it is in a good context but that's hardly engaging with the ACFTU lol).
We know working class militancy in China must be high because of the fast growing wages over timeâan organized working class is a prerequisite for the state to reinvest in the reproduction of labor. But l've yet to read an exploration about the detailed dynamics of it and how the CPC and government plays a role. So l appreciate Ness' promise to get into that.
As for my current progress in the book I finished chapter 3 just now where he went through global trade union decline during Neoliberal Globalization.
Up to now he's mostly been stating his thesis, establishing concepts, and rebelling against western frameworks. Chapter 4 promises to get into internal migration in China and urbanization so it's gonna get into the proper weeds of things.
That is a criticism I have of Ness' writing though. His writing style is easy and satisfying to read, but I think he could stand to be less redundant. I'm not sure how much he could conceivably cut without his points being hurt, but idk. It feels like the previous parts of the book should have been a little shorter.
Also. Unrelated. The book design is gorgeous. I love the Venn diagram design incorporating the PRC flag, the ACFTU logo, and the RMB. Plus the colors are nice. đĽ°
when i say âaros can still dateâ i mean that as in âaros can do whatever the fuck they want and it doesnât have to make sense to youâ
but some of yâall say âaros can still dateâ to mean âaros are still able to fit your standards of an acceptable person despite their abnormalityâ and i do not fuck with that
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I love Aniya and Carl together, they have such a nice, soft type of love that gets me really excited about them, but I noticed a lot of commentators are not as interested in their relationship as other islanders.
Just wanted your take as to why you think some may not like of 'buy' carl and aniya as a couple?
people find it hard to believe that someone could possibly be enamoured with a dark skinned black woman. Weâve seen this notion perpetuated before with Nic and Olandria where people were (and still are) convinced that they are a fake couple/that Nic is faking it because they cannot fathom that someone is genuinely attracted to a dark skinned black woman and sees her not just as a sexual object, but as a person worth wooing romantically. The fact that these are white/non black men is icing on the cake because in these peopleâs minds, it genuinely is impossible for non black men to find black women attractive. A lot of people actually feel the same way about it Trinity and Bryce in which they think Bryce is faking it for those same reasons. It doesnât make sense to see black women treated well.
Carl is basically perfect. Obviously we havenât seen his day to day life or even his full 24 hours in the villa lol, but basically everything about him is perfection. His maturity, his background, his kindness, his softness, his exes talk nicely about him, heâs basically a real life Prince Charming or Clark Kent and itâs really hard to believe that in a villa (and world) full of awful men, that someone like Carl exists AND just so happens to be attracted to a black woman.
due to the reasons listed above, people also think Carl is scamming because they know that there is a market push for black women in love, and that if you treat the dark skinned black woman well, thatâs basically a one way ticket to success. This has actually happened before in Love Island history with Justine who won s2 (I think it was season 2). Also if you remember the fallout of Kenny and JanA, Kenny was also a scammer.
I need help bad. Idk what to say. I just im not sure if I want to keep trying. It feels like it all amounts to nothing. Im canceling dr appts bc I cant afford them. Im off my medications bc I cant afford them. I have until the 11th to save my car. My power will be off the 13th. I need food. Im exhausted. I just dont know how to keep going when for years I have tried and tried and done nothing but got sicker and sicker and therefore poorer and poorer. I don't think ive reached goal in months, years actually so i just keep drowning more. Im so tired. It feels like noone gives a fuck abt black women, abt poor women, abt disabled women, abt gay women, abt trans women. Feels like my and my wife's existence is just a joke to the universe.
If u are able to help me I'll put my paylinks and home needs wishlist below:
i haven't seen anything about this on my dashboard, so i wanted to share. ICE gestapo killed another human being on tuesday. he leaves behind three sons and his wife, who he has spent the last 35 years building a life with
there is a gofundme supported by the league of united latin american citizens set up to help with funeral costs, legal fees, and supporting his family moving forward.
Also, itâs okay to never date anyone ever. Itâs okay to never even try it if you donât want to.Â
I wrote a masterâs thesis on intentionally single people, and the number of them that said in various ways, âI didnât know not dating people was even an option at firstâ was absolutely tragic. They honestly thought they had no choice and it never occurred to them that opting out was even a possibility available to them. Â
People honestly believe these are life experience you are required to have AND THEY ARE NOT.
You can just not have sex. You can just not date people. You can completely by-pass one or both of those things. Neither of those things are required to be healthy, happy, normal, mature, fulfilled, or any of the other bullshit notions that get attached to these things.Â
Sex positivity is about bodily agency which includes the choice to NOT/NEVER have sex, so inclusion of asexual/celibate/sex repulsed people will always be a pillar of any real discussion of sex positivity and sexual freedom.
CW: CSA. Abuse. Physical Abuse. Sexually risky behaviours. Self Harm. Chinese peoples who were beaten badly as children (no i donât mean the slap on the wrist type shit) claimed to be a form of discipline ingrained and even idolised in our cultures. Per usual, this is not a convo for non-Chinese people to engage in.
Firstly, I grew up in SEAsia; and I know for a fact that non-Sino SEAsian families did not discipline their children in the same way of culturally ingrained lessons of pain. Where they carried out the same actions it was not justified by culture but was seen as abuse, or as mirroring Chinese methods of hardcore militant discipline. I know this because it is a running joke amongst non-Chinese SEA peers that if they misbehaved, their parents would send them to the closest Chinese tiger mom to be disciplined, as well as the trauma of witnessing Chinese families disciplining their children in public.
So I will be speaking primarily about the Chinese view on pain and discipline. If youâre one of those Chinese kids who was beaten harshly, was held down or pinned while getting beaten, had one or more articles of clothing removed to be beaten, or else was coerced into being beaten by something else being threatened (opportunity, rights, social standing, more hurt or shame, another loved one); this is specifically for you.
Something that was always said to me before and after every beating, as though saying it enough would come true, is ćĺ°ąćŻçą. It means âhitting is loveâ; specifically in the context of discipline. It was explained to me that if my parents did not love me, they would not teach me the way to be a properly behaved person. And that way; is through pain. ( Also pain from oneâs parents is âbetter thanâ pain from a stranger/society ).
Being disciplined in Chinese culture is seen as a virtue, and disciplining oneâs children is seen as a duty to the collective. Contrasting Western individualism and other cultures, Chinese culture scores as one of the highest internationally, for collectivistic culture and power differential index [look it up if you donât know what this is]. The individualâs worth, their values, behaviour, productivity, is all measured by how well they contribute to communal harmony, most especially at the expense of individual desires. Acceptance for, and upholding the power hierarchy and differences, keeps Chinese society in order. This is how it has been for many millenniums. [Again no black/white judgment on this.]
There is a word for being âhome taughtâ called 厜ć; and this is what âBeing Disciplinedâ refers to. Not the autonomy of self-control, but the internalisation of lessons taught at home, owing to the parents. Misbehaving children are by extension, the public humiliation of their parents, and indicative of parental failure to discipline them; there are pros and cons to this expectation.
The Pros; one might assume this alleviates pressure from the child to be responsible for behaviours and mannerisms, and directs it to adults. They may assume by extension, some understanding of conditioning, systemic and environmental factors.
The Cons is that the Pros doesnât actually occur. Why? Because when a child misbehaves, the public shames the parent, the parent cracks down on the child for both shaming them and for acting out. The inflicted pain is a personal vendetta AND âdisciplinaryâ method. Also, that for the laymanâeducation and awareness of conditioning, systemic & environmental factors impacting behaviour is relegated to bloodline inferiority, moral failure or divine punishment, as opposed to sociopolitical marginalisation. Therefore while pressure is oriented to parents to discipline, the pressure to BE DISCIPLINED is still on the child.
A lot of Chinese children downplay how this abuse has shaped them, and like their predecessors they credit their âwell-socialised behavioursâ to this cycle of disciplinary methods. It is a gift, a reward from their parents, a hallmark of love. They joke about it, and when they talk about other peoples who are poorly socialised, they bring up how they must be beaten more as children.
I think because they may not be outwardly violent peoples, they believe they havenât been damaged by this, and therefore it is a flawless method. And yet the wound is telling in how this is the only way a lot of us can conceive of socialisation or discipline, and we defend it as culture when its more than likely also trauma from the consequences of what would occur to someone deviant from the collective culture. It is telling in how we discuss children, what we would readily inflict on them to fit our expectations, what we expect from them and thus what we expect of our inner child.
And more than that we expect them to understand, to take it without crying; and some of us were punished for expressing pain or emotion when we were beaten. It is forbidden to make the person inflicting pain on you, realise or acknowledge your suffering as expressed by you. Yet it is fine for them to do it TO cause pain unto you. You do not even have the autonomy of expressing that pain.
It keeps things âimpartialâ so to speak, easily deflects from claims of sadism. And an impartial Chinese parent who would inflict pain on their own child for the sake of society, is glorified as self-sacrifice, while the child and their body is a means to fulfil such a moral.
Recently, Iâve reflected some on how this impacts my sexual behaviours as well, especially noting the study on how the same parts of the brain in a child lights up whether theyâre being hardcore beaten, or experiencing sexual abuse. Specifically, how sex may be used as punishment for myself to manufacture a detached relation, as self-harm, to dissociate ( so that the pain would pass quicker ) , as a form of self-abuse, masochism, specifically to give up bodily autonomy and allow others to use my body to satiate their anger. To replaying allowing someone close to me to cross my boundaries, and do as they wish to my body, to violate or inflict pain on me, and believing I deserve it bc I made them angry or hurt (personally or as a matter of general ârighting a wrongâ). Not deserving aftercare afterwards as the usual process was abuse > mocking me, forcing me to stop crying, stop the pity and comfort, I do not deserve it. I did not earn it.
And I think this bleeds into, stems from, and is a part of a larger âculturalâ conditioning of how Chinese peoples seem to look at politics surrounding class and race. How we tend to talk about other groups and our own groups, especially regarding âhome taught failuresâ. How quickly we become enraged at people expressing their pain, and lack the tools to hold our own, much less theirs. Because we were taught we should take our beatings soundlessly, tearlessly. We were taught not to give a name or a voice to our pain, by those who claimed to love us, who looked like us, who conceived us, who is of our blood, who is responsible for our existing here. And weâd allow it done to ourselves and our most vulnerable, so as to upkeep the status quo, even if it serves a dominant ethnic majority (white or otherwiseâ sideyeing SEAsian politics) or the upperclassmen (ie Ancient Chinese feudalism, wealthy people), or people in power (the group deemed normative & mainstream, authority, systems, institutions), against our interests.
Maybe its time we grieve and be aware of this in ourselves, so that we can show ourselves and our children the grace we deserve, be observant of the gaps and biases in our worldview and how this also then translates to how we may expect more rights for ourselves and for other marginalised peoples.
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Based off of this post that i reblogged yesterday, I think that as white people within modern butchfemme community we need to urgently reflect on our collaboration and continued support (whether knowingly or unknowingly) with and into white supremacy. It is absolute imperative that we get a handle on the issues and harm that we as white people bring into mixed spaces, specifically because whenever we are present we take up so much space, and oftentimes end up dominating the narrative of whatever conversation or event is taking place.
There cannot be any true address of violence, hatred, bigotry, racism or other forms of oppression done to members of our own if we cannot at the very LEAST recognize the privilege that is embedded into whiteness and therefore into the white butchfemme community.
In reference to the post linked above, the reason that this horrific violence was permissible in butchfemme spaces of the mid 1900s was specifically bc these spaces operated in conjunction with white supremacy. It is apparent in every aspect of 1950s butchfemme when you read the history of our community. Unfortunately (and this is due to my own blindness towards these issues bc of my whiteness) i did not truly grasp the weight of what white butchfemmes (butches specifically in regards to this situation but white queer as a whole) need to do in order for us to achieve true solidarity with our siblings of color until i read about the way butches would physically assault and abuse their femmes. The history of white butchfemme is at its core an appropriation of BIPOC queer culture, of ballroom. Butch and Femme originated in ballroom, as did dyke. Dyke was then used as a slur against black queers, before being whitewashed into the label we have today. The ridged walls around the butchfemme of old, the way that butch4butches, femme4femme and anything resembling futch was ostracized and abandoned, all of this is rooted in white supremacy, and unless white butchfemmes can look on our history recognize the real harm that our community of past caused, and then rectify and atone for those harms in our current identities and spaces we will never be free.
At the very least there needs to be an acknowledgment of this history, and at the most we need to be actively rejecting white supremacy and white centered culture. We need to uplift queers of color, trans people of color, we need to be active participants in deconstructing the ways white supremacy lives on in our skin, in our bodies, in our presence. We need to support mutual aid funds for BIPOC queers, diverge from all support of American imperialism and focus our energy towards creating new spaces where no one is above another. This is a responsibility of EVERY SINGLE white butchfemme, every single white queer, and every single white person in this day and age.