I was psycologically abused ( sometimes with threats of physical violence) by my abusers who lived with me. For twenty five years. And my therapist didn't understood why I was scared of doors shutting loudly or flinching at loudly noises. Ummm I don't know?? Maybe because I had to be on Survival mode everyday of my life??

The Work (what exactly is the work??? unless this is explained with concrete specifics, it is meaningless)

Maybe that was true before, but it isnt now (assumption. often blatantly false)

It's over now (assumption. often blatantly false)

that's irrational (general shut down and dismissal, but often blatantly false. higher class way of calling something crazy. gives a false impression of intellectualism)

thats's just the [mental illness/pathology] talking (maybe or maybe not, but they do not actually think about it or engage with any reasoning. another easy general shut down and dismissal)

you just think/feel like/believe/perceive that (pathologizes knowledge by asserting that it is a disordered thought, feeling, belief, or observation)

take responsibility [for being abused/traumatized] (usually just victim blaming, and obscuring the responsibility of the abusing/traumatizing party if applicable, a subtle accusation. choosing to see a mental health professional is literally taking responsibility. at this point, what is "responsible" is so elusive that it has no actual meaning. what does an abused person do to "take responsibility" for that when the abuse is outside of their control, which is a key element of abuse and also trauma? ultimately it is a distraction and a re-delegation of the burden back onto the victim. without clear specifics, this means nothing)

negative thoughts/beliefs/feelings ("negative" within psychiatry and especially in this context, is synonymous with "false" and "sinful" and "sick" as in mental illness)

healing/recovery (this does not actually refer to what a mental health patient wants and needs to improve their life and quality of life, but to the desired traits and goals of their professionals. often it is characterized in such a way that suggests a kind of transcendence: you are barely a human being anymore you are so healed. nothing phases you. you are indifferent to life's horrors)

They can take a word, twist it inside-out, and turn it on its head. Until they can justify taking away all your freedoms with language designed to protect your freedoms. The DD [Developmental Disability] service system is excellent at playing this particular word game. It can be especially confusing if they use the right meaning of the word sometimes, but the wrong one most of the time. Always, always look for the snakes behind the words. Because they’re there. And in the DD system, they’re everywhere. Every word or term that has an actual meaning that is supposed to protect our freedoms and rights as people with developmental disabilities, has an evil twin that looks exactly the same but exists to take away our freedoms and rights. Look for the snake words. Just look for the snake words. If you understand how they work, they will give you a window into the dystopia a lot of us are living in.

I DIDN'T REALIZE THAT WAS A DC-10

For anyone unfamiliar with this insane case, it was an attempted murder-suicide insurance fraud by hijacking (?!) where a deadheading flight engineer brought a guitar case full of weapons onto the plane in an attempt to kill the operating pilots during flight. The idea was that if he killed them with hammers and then died in the crash, the investigators wouldn't be able to tell the hammer wounds from the crash wounds and all three would be declared an accident (thus allowing him to ensure his kids recieved a hefty insurance payout). There are obviously a lot of flaws with this plan (ah yes, a guitar case with a spear gun in it and several hammers, a very normal thing to find in an aircraft crash site) but bizarrely one of the flaws was that FedEx employees are immune to hammers and the crew managed to fight him off without crashing the plane and everybody lived.

Hilariously the guy attempted to turn off the CVR before the flight so as to not leave any evidence but the flight engineer just turned it back on assuming he had forgotten it. Also the original crew that were going to fly that leg were swapped out because they had gone exactly one minute over their duty time limits. And according to the wikipedia page at least, it claims that the attacker's fear that he was going to be fired for a discrepancy in his flight hours wasn't even founded and that other colleagues said they wouldn't usually terminate an employee for something like that.

I'm assuming the guy was under a mass amount of stress from a recent divorce and potentially not being treated very well at FedEx, and he made some pretty stupid fucking decisions that ended three colleagues' careers (and willingly risked the lives of people oj the ground, too). But thankfully everybody escaped with their lives.

12 step isn't a support group, it's a cult. akin to scientology in that the deeper you go the worse it gets. if you just scratch the surface you might walk away not thinking anything of it or just thinking it wasn't for you/you messed it up.

the Alcoholics Anonymous book is quite literally just the grandiose ramblings of a former member of a Christian cult (The Oxford Group) and connected to very wealthy individuals, from a wealthy family himself. he pretends to be his own wife in one chapter in order to convince the wives to join the 12 step way of life.

it's incredibly misogynistic, ableist, saneist, conservative, and capitalistic. it's also chock full of Christian pseudoscience. if you get deep enough into 12 step, you eventually learn the entire book was written specifically to convince people to submit to God, even if they're an atheist or agnostic.

and who had "all the answers to your problems through God"? Bill W and Dr. Bob. the founders of Alcoholics Anonymous. there was a third founder but he was an atheist and he died. he was kinda seen as a shame. but all subsequent 12 step groups are based off this shitty literature.

if you end up following a traditional AA program like i did, they start by treating you like you know nothing. they tell you that you know nothing. they tell you your thoughts can't be trusted. they tell you that you have an incurable, fatal, progressive disease and that all you get is a "daily reprieve" through constant submission to God through the 12 steps.

they tell you that if you don't follow the steps, you'll die. and you won't just die. you will die a miserable, lonely, chaotic, cold death. and then when your friends overdose? they tell you to step over the bodies. don't dwell. this is what happens when you don't practice the steps. you don't want to die too, do you?

i cannot stress enough that all of this is a real experience i had in the largest AA group in my county. they are widely connected to other groups, and have coordinated with the main Alcoholics Anonymous office in NYC.

now if that's what they said to someone just coming to meetings. how do you feel about the fact there are private retreats in rural areas where popular members of the community act as spiritual guides for others.